Prem Ejaculation

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    Aug 22, 2010 10:00 AM GMT
    Hey guys,
    New here but have been watching forum for some time.

    Anyway I have a problem with Prem Ejaculation. I don't really have sex because I am embarassed about it and what.
    Anyway i am trying to correct it with the stop and start tecnique when i masturbate.

    Has anyone had any sucess with this?? I have done it past 2 days. Wanked to nearly cumming then stop, and repeat about 6 times.
    Will this somehow eventually allow me to last longer without having to do this all the time?? no idea how it works long term.
    would like to be able to wank to full enjoyment and have sex for a decent amount of time.

    If i get really excited when wanking i can cum within 2-3 mins. Embarassing!

    Anyway if anyone has any advise that woudl be great.
    No idea how longthsi stop and start thing takes to start to become effective.

    TY guys

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    Aug 22, 2010 2:14 PM GMT
    I've heard about people using that start and stop method before for this reason... I'm sure it does help with control, but one thing I don't get is wouldn't you still have to start and stop during sex? Cause isn't it the stopping that makes you not blow? Lol. I just don't think that would work. There have been times with me when I just have to think of something else during it to help prevent it.... Hey the way I see it is like this, at least it works! It could be the other way around and you couldn't get it up. OR get off.. icon_cool.gif
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    Aug 22, 2010 2:19 PM GMT
    Apparently antidepressants (SSRIs like prozac) can help ... ?
  • Celticmusl

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    Aug 22, 2010 3:00 PM GMT
    I can cum very quickly, and less then a minute sometimes. It's a certain mood that I get into where I know it's gonna happen that night(extremely horny mood). I warn the guy I'm with that it might happen really quickly.....but you know what? If it does happen within that minute and I do go off.....I'm usually good for a second and/or third round of getting off. The guys love it and one said it was his holy grail to find a guy that can go like that all night. Don't give up on sex and start dating again and see what happens. I would rather be with a guy that ejaculates quickly, rather than a guy that takes hours to get off, lol.

    Even now I'm thinking how cool it would be to be with a guy that can get off so easily.
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    Aug 22, 2010 5:07 PM GMT
    Hi guys,
    Ty all for your replies. Yea it is a wierd one.
    This is what i was unsure of whether durig sex i would still have to keep stopping!
    I am hoping that if i do it for a while while I wank that eventually it will do something so i naturally last longer. Without having to do the stop thing during sex... No idea tho lol.

    I have tired thinking of other things but can be quite difficult...

    Anyway ty all
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    Aug 22, 2010 5:14 PM GMT
    Besides the stop start technique, maybe you could try putting some numbing agent on the inside of a condom to cut down on your sensitivity and see if that helps. Just make sure whatever you use is latex safe.
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    Aug 22, 2010 5:16 PM GMT
    According to my doc a few years ago, 3-5 minutes is perfectly normal. (Back in the olden days we had to be quick to procreate...) I do it with stop/start when by myself. When not, we just move away from the groin area, or I make "arrangements" that my most sensitive parts of skin are left alone. In other words, there are workarounds. (BTW, being slightly intoxicated helps as well.) Personally, if I do cum too quickly, it only takes a few minutes to recharge anyway.
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    Aug 22, 2010 5:17 PM GMT
    Happens to me a lot. I cant help it. I try to think of other things. Usually I move slow but I like it fast. If i got fast and hard I usually blow my load. If that happens i wait a little bit and I can go again. I use to be embarrassed as well but now it is what it is. My bf has no problem with it.
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    Aug 22, 2010 5:40 PM GMT
    The most effective treatment for premature ejaculation is drug based, try Prozac. One of its side effects is delayed ejaculation. PE is multifactorial and some believe that anxiety plays a role.
  • LJay

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    Aug 22, 2010 5:41 PM GMT
    If you are lucky you can work on the exercises with the same partner. Having someone who knows what is going on can help. It is not that uncommon and you really should not be embarrassed. Just get inventive and find some things to do that will keep you from concnetrating on it so much and use the control exercise to build up your "stamina." You just might have a lot of fun working on it.
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    Aug 23, 2010 2:12 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidOP... do you have any problems getting hard again after you cum quickly?
    I'm like Bill and a few others here.. Kinda welcome the early coming since with a little kissing and touching I'm rock hard again and can last longer for a nice solid round 2. With a little time ( a few mins.. ) we're off to the races for round 3. This is always a good time for flipping with your partner if you are versatile as it creates an entirely new HOT Encounter for you both... I love long, hot sessions that have multiple orgasms for you both.

    Yeah, I was gonna say, if you cum quickly, aren't you good for a second round that's a bit slower, and even a third? Not clear from the narrative if you're talking about being with someone, or going solo. If I had a sex partner who shot right away, I'd just go on for the encores, wouldn't be a problem for me.

    But a condom will desensitize you to some degree, plus there are topical lotions for the purpose as well. I'm not sure about taking something like Prozac for this issue, which is not an approved use, to my knowledge, and can cause profound changes in your personality.

    However, some over-the-counter cold medicines, at least in the US, can slow some men down, especially oral decongestants. You might experiment with them.

    But again, I'd exploit this, not fight it. Cum quickly if you do, then cum slower & slower each time after, and make a night of it.
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    Aug 23, 2010 2:13 AM GMT
    I'm a minuteman, but I have a very short refractory period so I often cum a couple times before my partner finishes and sometimes a couple after he finishes if he's especially hot. Nobody has ever complained about it except when I shoot them in the eye.
  • BlackBeltGuy

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    Aug 23, 2010 3:12 AM GMT
    they have premature ejac creme in the sex shops, it works by numbing the sense just enough so you don't shoot the sherbet to early.
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    Aug 23, 2010 4:33 AM GMT
    As others have said, there are cremes that help to desensitize you. However, don't give up on edging (start & stop). Make sure you bring yourself closer and closer to the edge, to where you feel like you're going to shoot, then clench your pubic muscles to make yourself stop. Sometimes you'll get to the point to where it hurts a bit. This can be a good thing if it makes you not want to cum in that instant. Then when you've settled a bit, rinse and repeat. Yes, you do have to stop while you're inside someone to make yourself not shoot at first. This is a good time to pull out and change positions. You should also make sure to change up your pace from time to time, and not stay in a completely rhythmic motion. With a willing partner, you can experiment to see what makes you last longer. I dated a guy that would cum in about 2 minutes when we first got together. Through edging play and quite a bit of practice, he was lasting longer after a couple of months.

    Have you tried masturbating about an hour before having sex?
  • rioriz

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    Aug 23, 2010 5:58 AM GMT
    Celticmusl saidI can cum very quickly, and less then a minute sometimes. It's a certain mood that I get into where I know it's gonna happen that night(extremely horny mood). I warn the guy I'm with that it might happen really quickly.....but you know what? If it does happen within that minute and I do go off.....I'm usually good for a second and/or third round of getting off. The guys love it and one said it was his holy grail to find a guy that can go like that all night. Don't give up on sex and start dating again and see what happens. I would rather be with a guy that ejaculates quickly, rather than a guy that takes hours to get off, lol.

    Even now I'm thinking how cool it would be to be with a guy that can get off so easily.


    I am the same way usually. I seem to come quicker than I want but can stay hard and go multiple rounds so no one really complains.
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    Aug 23, 2010 6:06 AM GMT
    maybe jack off right before the date like in the movie something about mary.
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    Aug 23, 2010 6:51 AM GMT
    Hi guys icon_smile.gif
    Thanks for all your posts.

    To be honest it really vaires.. sometimes when i cum i am horny agian in 10 mins or so. other times won't be horny again for hours. I did try masturbating b4 sex once, the problem I had at that time was i really didn't feel horny at all by time we were about to have sex..

    A few years ago I was on some anti depressants 'Ciprimil' for a while for depression. one of teh side effects was a real delay in ejac. The down side to that was that masturbating etc became a REAL effort it didn't feel fun trying to get yourself to cum. it was Very very hard work without it being nice lol.

    Anway I wil look into the Kegal exercise i think it is. the stop and start thing is going fairly well. i wank till i nearly cum then stop for about 30 secs . I usually do this about 6 times. The orgasm at the end i find is great and lots of cum if not pretty watery for some reason. Maybe its the edging that does that.

    I am going on a gay cruise next year and really hoping to hhok up with some guys.
    I would really really like to have some decent foreplay then anal without thinking. Oh crap i am gonna blow...Even touching another guys penis gets me SO so excited.
    When i wank myself tho depending what i am watching or thinking i would say on ave its about 2 -3 mins.
    Anyway i am waffling now lol.


    Ty guys for the support icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 24, 2010 2:38 AM GMT
    Well, if you'll be on a cruise, make sure you save the cutest guys for later in the day. That way the morning guys will be sort of a warm-up, and you'll last longer for your finales. icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 28, 2010 3:03 PM GMT
    lol that was funny mate icon_smile.gif
    I have been doing a lot of the stop and start tecnique over past week or so. I wank till nearly ready to cum then play on my game on my phone for 30-60 secs then start agian lol. I do this about 5 or 6 times. However the orgasm is usually mega. I cum loads..
    Also trying kegels. not so easy.

    anyway I really wanna do this cruise next year but not sure if they will be offeirng oen now for late 2011 ):.
    So im reying to find a really good Gay resort with lots of gay men icon_smile.gificon_smile.gif
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    Aug 28, 2010 3:07 PM GMT
    Just picture that fat chick from work. I do that when I can feel it coming on before I'm ready.
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    Aug 28, 2010 3:28 PM GMT
    Pyrotech saidWell, if you'll be on a cruise, make sure you save the cutest guys for later in the day. That way the morning guys will be sort of a warm-up, and you'll last longer for your finales. icon_lol.gif


    Good advice for my first cruise!! LOL.... Love it!
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    Aug 28, 2010 3:37 PM GMT
    lo. only prob is if i think of the fat chick and i still cum b4 i can stop... oh well yo know lol

    Hope you have fun on your cruise mate. when are you going?
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    Aug 31, 2010 12:25 PM GMT
    I agree with a few of the guys on here. If you stay hard once you've cum then what's the problem? Just settle in for round 2 and have a good time.
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    Aug 31, 2010 12:27 PM GMT
    sdgman saidJust picture that fat chick from work. I do that when I can feel it coming on before I'm ready.


    "Fat chicks and baseball" always works for me.
  • BlackBeltGuy

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    Oct 18, 2010 5:16 AM GMT
    get a fleshlight, trust me