Turned Off By a Guy's City

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    Aug 23, 2010 5:53 AM GMT
    Is it weird that I'm turned off by a guy who happens to live in a stereotypical Gay city like:

    Chelsea, Ny
    Central Phx, Az
    San Francisco, Ca
    West Hollywood, Ca
    Fire Island, Ny
    Hillcrest, Ca

    ?

    Am I alone in this or are there anyone in this state of mind?
  • KepaArg

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    Aug 23, 2010 5:55 AM GMT
    I suppose I find it random. I do want to go to San Fran as I have heard it's a great city to visit.

    Question - is Chelsea a barrio in New York or a city?
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    Aug 23, 2010 5:57 AM GMT
    Yes Chelsea is in Manhattan Ny
  • KepaArg

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    Aug 23, 2010 6:01 AM GMT
    ok, I wasn't sure as you mentioned cities and I just thought from TV Chelsea was an area of New York City.

    Still need to visit New York as well. The allure for me isn't the gay aspect, but food, history, and things to do. The accessibility to gay things would be a plus.
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    Aug 23, 2010 9:06 AM GMT
    That reminds me, I left my harness in San Francisco at my friend's place. I'm moving to Straightsville, USA and I've got to have something to keep me occupied amongst the normies.


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    Aug 23, 2010 9:42 AM GMT
    Those are all high income areas, so logic would dictate ergo guys living there are successful.

    I would think that would be a plus. Not in a gold digger sort of way, but financially well off and responsible typically (granted not always though) means the person is also sound, mature, "put together", et cetera.

    To dislike someone for being from a gay borough is sorta like homophobic-xenophobia.
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    Aug 23, 2010 10:28 AM GMT
    OP: sounds pretty dumb. It´s fine to dislike certain stereotypical behaviours (irresponsible partying, drugs etc) but taking it to the level of excluding people on the basis of their postcode is fucked up.
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    Aug 23, 2010 10:35 AM GMT
    I think n8tive should be more specific.

    Is it because many gay men in these areas are into everything gay--hence = too much drama for some of us.

    I have a buddy who moved to Chelsea, almost a year now, because he is all about gay things, sub culture, clothing superficial stuff and he defines himself by his sexuality- nothing wrong with it, but it's not for everyone. He's a very handsome guy but complains he's still single???icon_eek.gif He keeps getting more and more tan, but always has the latest jeans etc...icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Aug 23, 2010 10:42 AM GMT
    Chaaxwvn saidThat reminds me, I left my harness in San Francisco at my friend's place. I'm moving to Straightsville, USA and I've got to have something to keep me occupied amongst the normies.


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    Aug 23, 2010 10:58 AM GMT
    N8tiveNuYawhka saidIs it weird that I'm turned off by a guy who happens to live in a stereotypical Gay city like:

    Chelsea, Ny
    Central Phx, Az
    San Francisco, Ca
    West Hollywood, Ca
    Fire Island, Ny
    Hillcrest, Ca

    ?

    Am I alone in this or are there anyone in this state of mind?


    I don't believe you're a native New Yorker. If you are, you must have moved away from NY when you were a fetus, because any New Yorker - especially a gay New Yorker - knows that: 1) Chelsea, NY, is not a city, but a neighborhood in the Manhattan borough of New York City; and 2) Fire Island is a CDP, but not a city, and that very few people live on the island throughout the year. In other words, not many own a full-time residence there. The gay area that probably scares the shit out of you (The Pines), is a seasonal resort town. You'd be hard-pressed to find a gay guy who lives in the Pines from fall-mid-spring.

    As of the 2000 census, there were 491 people, 138 households, and 77 families residing on Fire Island. I wonder how many of them are gay. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Aug 23, 2010 12:35 PM GMT
    yeah, there is a certain region in my country that i don't like and i would never date a guy from there. i just don't like them
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    Aug 23, 2010 12:45 PM GMT
    N8tiveNuYawhka saidIs it weird that I'm turned off by a guy who happens to live in a stereotypical Gay city like:


    Am I alone in this or are there anyone in this state of mind?




    Well whatever floats your boat, but I do think it's a little strange that you would be turned off by an entire group of people who live in one these neighborhoods... as if there is absolutely no individuality there.

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    Aug 23, 2010 12:50 PM GMT
    reppaT said
    N8tiveNuYawhka saidIs it weird that I'm turned off by a guy who happens to live in a stereotypical Gay city like:

    Chelsea, Ny
    Central Phx, Az
    San Francisco, Ca
    West Hollywood, Ca
    Fire Island, Ny
    Hillcrest, Ca

    ?

    Am I alone in this or are there anyone in this state of mind?


    I don't believe you're a native New Yorker. If you are, you must have moved away from NY when you were a fetus, because any New Yorker - especially a gay New Yorker - knows that: 1) Chelsea, NY, is not a city, but a neighborhood in the Manhattan borough of New York City; and 2) Fire Island is a CDP, but not a city, and that very few people live on the island throughout the year. In other words, not many own a full-time residence there. The gay area that probably scares the shit out of you (The Pines), is a seasonal resort town. You'd be hard-pressed to find a gay guy who lives in the Pines from fall-mid-spring.

    As of the 2000 census, there were 491 people, 138 households, and 77 families residing on Fire Island. I wonder how many of them are gay. icon_rolleyes.gif





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    Aug 23, 2010 2:18 PM GMT
    reppaT said
    N8tiveNuYawhka saidIs it weird that I'm turned off by a guy who happens to live in a stereotypical Gay city like:

    Chelsea, Ny
    Central Phx, Az
    San Francisco, Ca
    West Hollywood, Ca
    Fire Island, Ny
    Hillcrest, Ca

    ?

    Am I alone in this or are there anyone in this state of mind?


    I don't believe you're a native New Yorker. If you are, you must have moved away from NY when you were a fetus, because any New Yorker - especially a gay New Yorker - knows that: 1) Chelsea, NY, is not a city, but a neighborhood in the Manhattan borough of New York City; and 2) Fire Island is a CDP, but not a city, and that very few people live on the island throughout the year. In other words, not many own a full-time residence there. The gay area that probably scares the shit out of you (The Pines), is a seasonal resort town. You'd be hard-pressed to find a gay guy who lives in the Pines from fall-mid-spring.

    As of the 2000 census, there were 491 people, 138 households, and 77 families residing on Fire Island. I wonder how many of them are gay. icon_rolleyes.gif

    I totally agree....
    but how could you dislike someone because of where they live? thats kinda crazy.....
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    Aug 23, 2010 2:22 PM GMT
    I'm turned off more by guys who live in stereotypically gay-hating cities such as almost any rural city in the bible belt. But that wouldn't stop me from being with them...as long as they're willing to move to me instead of me to them.
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    Aug 23, 2010 2:23 PM GMT
    grow up.
  • Anto

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    Aug 23, 2010 2:56 PM GMT
    Is it weird that I'm turned off by a guy who happens to live in a stereotypical Gay city like:

    I think I know what you mean. Popular gay sections tend to attract certain stereotypes, if you are not attracted to that stereotype, then it's a turn off.
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    Aug 23, 2010 3:41 PM GMT
    Now if someone said,

    'Is it weird to be turned off by someone who lives in the US'
    how would you feel?
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    Aug 23, 2010 3:44 PM GMT
    holy shit. i didnt even know these were known as gay cities! i mean i guess i kinda heard san fran was but i thought it was a certain neighborhood?
    and i had no idea about these other ones. i havent even heard of some of them.
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    Aug 23, 2010 3:50 PM GMT
    Well actually no guy on here that I have said hello to from NYC has ever replied back to me, so I don't bother anymore.
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    Aug 23, 2010 3:51 PM GMT
    haha, that's like meeting a guy you're really attracted to and first thing you ask " Oh GOD, WHERE DO YOU LIVE?! " .
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    Aug 23, 2010 4:01 PM GMT
    meninlove said Now if someone said,

    'Is it weird to be turned off by someone who lives in the US'
    how would you feel?

    I would move to Canadaland ;3

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    Aug 23, 2010 4:03 PM GMT
    ROFL AlFriday..I was trying to point out that one's place of residence does not determine one's value as a person. (omg I sound like...nevermind)

    -Doug

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    Aug 23, 2010 4:07 PM GMT
    meninlove said ROFL AlFriday..I was trying to point out that one's place of residence does not determine one's value as a person. (omg I sound like...nevermind)

    -Doug


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    Aug 23, 2010 4:10 PM GMT
    i did not know that guys could own entire cities?! why did i not get the memo? can i own a city? can i own atlantis? new crobuzon? the city of brass?


    to take stereotypical aspects of where one lives and then fully project them onto a single individual seems rather foolish. are you trying to get to know the guy, or are you trying to get to know the city?

    it seems like you are looking for reasons to not like this guy, and if so, then that's fine. i don't think you should blame the city though. there doesn't seem to be a practical point in doing so, other than you get to shift responsibility of why it would not work from yourself to a non-sentient environment.