What has being gay done POSITIVELY for you?

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    Aug 23, 2010 8:24 PM GMT
    Being gay helped me make friends in college, gave me some type of confidence and helped me learn more about fitness and health because our culture sometimes demands it!

    It also makes me strive harder to do better at everything to prove to bigots around me that gays can and are equal, and sometimes better ;)


    And what about you?
  • allatonce

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    Aug 23, 2010 8:39 PM GMT
    Be a lot less judgmental than I may have otherwise been.
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    Aug 23, 2010 8:44 PM GMT
    People at school respect me cause I'm so open aboout it and I joke around with the boys in the locker room making them laugh and having a good morning ;3
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    Aug 23, 2010 8:45 PM GMT

    My clothes are so well ironed.

  • ro42481

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    Aug 23, 2010 8:47 PM GMT
    I would say that it has helped me realize the potential for people as a whole and it has really helped me bond w/people that i otherwise may not have and be more understanding. Not really sure that it would be different was I straight though. Always been an open person myself - but who knows - just know that I like who I am now!! icon_surprised.gif)
  • ro42481

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    Aug 23, 2010 8:47 PM GMT
    DjDorchester said
    My clothes are so well ironed.



    LOL...really - I never iron...if wrinkly - throw back in dry for a while LOL
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    Aug 23, 2010 8:56 PM GMT
    Being gay has given me more insight to the variability of sexuality and the confining nature of gender roles, but also an appreciation for the uniqueness of every individual.

    Naturally I still have biases and prejudices, but from my personal experience I know it is necessary to examine my own opinions and correct any misconceptions.
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    Aug 23, 2010 8:58 PM GMT
    After the dust settled on my coming out. I actually became much closer with my dad. In a way we became friends. I don't think that before we really knew each other.
  • tituspullo197...

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    Aug 23, 2010 9:03 PM GMT
    i'd say it actually helped me get in touch with my masculine side. as a child, because of my high iq and predilection for reading, and because we lived in a rural area and had few neighbors, my time was either spent doing solitary activities (reading, exploring the woods) or playing with my two younger sisters, which meant engaging in activities such as story telling, playing house, etc. this routine was a recipe for developing a less-than-confident attitude towards myself as a man.

    in college, coming out forced me to deal with so many issues, i figured there was really nothing to lose. i could embrace the parts of me that were not considered traditionally masculine, but i could also embrace the masculine parts of myself that had been denied. i became both more independent and simultaneously more gregarious, more confident.
  • stevendust

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    Aug 23, 2010 9:03 PM GMT
    It's done a lot! Sadly hasn't changed my father or our relationship but the latest thing it did was get zachdust and I a great new loft for the same price we were paying for a commercial apartment half the size. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 23, 2010 9:06 PM GMT
    DjDorchester said
    My clothes are so well ironed.

    LOL! Yeah, I had a lot of those stereotypical gay traits about fastidious appearance, even when I was in deep denial to myself.

    But when I finally did come of denial, the positive bonuses included:
    - more gay friends than I ever had straight friends in my life
    - closer, and more loyal & supportive friends
    - more great times that I ever had previously
    - a very active social life
    - greater confidence, knowing my true place in the world
    - happier than I've ever been before, always smiling & joking , something I rarely did when imagining myself straight
    - a nicer and more pleasant person than I was before [blush]
    - much better sex than when I was trying the straight kind
    - introduced me to a network of influential & beneficial people, something I had to reestablish in the civilian world when I retired from the military
    - a constant resource in my life at every level
    - finding a loving partner to spend my life with
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    Aug 23, 2010 9:06 PM GMT
    stevendust saidIt's done a lot! Sadly hasn't changed my father or our relationship but the latest thing it did was get zachdust and I a great new loft for the same price we were paying for a commercial apartment half the size. icon_biggrin.gif
    ...

    Oh hey, I think I know where that is.
  • scorpiodncr

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    Aug 23, 2010 9:11 PM GMT
    Kind of a cheat, but oh well. Armistead Maupin said it pretty well in Tales of the City, in 'Letter to Mama':

    'Being gay has taught me tolerance, compassion and humility. It has shown me the limitless possibilities of living. It has given me people whose passion and kindness and sensitivity have provided a constant source of strength.
    It has brought me into the family of man, Mama, and I like it here. I like it.'
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    Aug 23, 2010 9:31 PM GMT
    definitely more at peace with myself and finally accepting who i am which in turn makes it a lot easier for others to get along with me. Less moody and definitely more accepting of MOST but still not ALL. Long way to go, short time to get there......
  • roadbikeRob

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    Aug 23, 2010 9:43 PM GMT
    Being gay has helped me become a more independent person but at the same token the downside of being gay is feeling totally inferior to others after hearing a lot of ignorant, homophobic tirades. It is basically a mix of good and bad for me.
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    Aug 23, 2010 9:58 PM GMT
    ah don't listen to everything you read on RJicon_biggrin.gif
  • vindog

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    Aug 23, 2010 10:05 PM GMT


    Nothing. I've always been awesome even before I knew I was gay.



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    Aug 23, 2010 10:05 PM GMT
    Being gay has prevented me from accidentally getting girls pregnant and paying child support for 18 years.
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    Aug 23, 2010 10:13 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidBeing gay has prevented me from accidentally getting girls pregnant and paying child support for 18 years.

    If Rj had the signature option that quote would have been mines ;3
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    Aug 23, 2010 10:16 PM GMT
    It's found me someone I can spend the rest of my life with icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 23, 2010 10:21 PM GMT
    Cuz i wont pregnate noone. icon_neutral.gif
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    Aug 23, 2010 10:24 PM GMT
    jayyp saidBeing gay helped me make friends in college, gave me some type of confidence and helped me learn more about fitness and health because our culture sometimes demands it!

    It also makes me strive harder to do better at everything to prove to bigots around me that gays can and are equal, and sometimes better ;)


    And what about you?


    That it's not ok to let people bully you and harrass you just so they can feel power over you. I've set this example a few times in my school, word gets out, and it serves as instant discipline. For the times that they decide to test me, I let them know in a firm yet rational way that they had better knock it off or things are going to get ugly for them.icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 23, 2010 10:35 PM GMT
    stevendust saidIt's done a lot! Sadly hasn't changed my father or our relationship but the latest thing it did was get zachdust and I a great new loft for the same price we were paying for a commercial apartment half the size. icon_biggrin.gif
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    I want whatever kind of gay you have.
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    Aug 23, 2010 10:46 PM GMT
    Carboholic saidIt's helped me have an untold amount of disposable income with no wife and kids to support.


    A-FUCKING-MEN to that! icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 23, 2010 10:49 PM GMT
    Taught me that I only have to answer to myself and Hashem so whatever others think is irrelevant.