so_authentic saidSome ppl were born to be tied down to one person.
Some people can never seem to hold down a successful relationship....
What u people think?
Personality TRAITS you want to work towards having??? GIVE ME A BREAK... Don't CHANGE yourself for somebody else... You already have personality traits that are part of your little stake in life right now!!! FUCK THE REST!!!!! Live as who you are and if someone else comes along down on his hands and knees because of it.... THEN CHANGE. How can you be happy in life if you are anything other but YOURSELF???
Our personalities are determined partially by genetics, partially by developmental environment, and are partially just the constellations of behaviors we have voluntarily adopted to get what we want out of life. The concept that everything about your personality is immutable is simply not true, and is used to excuse lack of development. Now, there may be a few traits about someone that are hardwired... but that doesn't excuse someone if they're just an asshole.
In the context of relationships, I think the question is overly broad. There are as many types of monogamous relationships as there are couples. I personally have swung wildly between rigid monogamy and laissez-faire random sex. Currently, I'm in a monogamous phase, and abstaining from having sex unless I'm in a relationship.