GAYDAR: do you have one and how do you know?

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    Aug 24, 2010 6:09 AM GMT
    According to studies, gay men are particularly good at detecting the musk of other gay men...


    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaydar


    Would like to know what the ratio is.. How many people think they're gaydar is functional? Mine sure as hell isnt if they do not act fem lol

    And if you have one, how do you figure you detect it?
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    Aug 24, 2010 6:18 AM GMT
    i have one, and its accurate, but all the gay guys mine detects like to fuck girls. those poor, confused men....
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    Aug 24, 2010 6:20 AM GMT
    my gaydar sucks.
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    Aug 24, 2010 6:29 AM GMT
    mkubwa saidi have one, and its accurate, but all the gay guys mine detects like to fuck girls. those poor, confused men....


    lol thanks for the laugh icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 24, 2010 7:04 AM GMT
    Through years of development, my gaydar has become extremely accurate, even for guy who don't portray the stereotyped gay behaviors.

    I tend to notice very subtle signs...eye movements, body language, spoken codes, even things as subtle as the "aura" that emits from a person. It's like I can pick up on subconscious vibrations that indicate homosexual tendencies even in men who don't realize it's there.

    The hard part is determining whether or not they're interested in me on a sexual level, or if they're just a naturally nice person. For that reason, I very seldom make passes at them. Instead, I show a very accepting persona so that they can feel comfortable opening up to me. That seems to work well, because out of all the "straight" identified men I've been with, I have never made the first move.
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    Aug 24, 2010 7:46 AM GMT
    But Paul, I thought everyone had both homo and hetero sexual tendencies we are unaware of
  • beaujangle

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    Aug 24, 2010 12:23 PM GMT
    only when it's obvious ... but metrosexual men claim they aren't gay, so it's not easy ...
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    Aug 24, 2010 12:27 PM GMT
    I always think straight men are gay. Wishful thinking!
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    Aug 24, 2010 12:41 PM GMT
    Out of all the signals and signs, I think the one I most rely on is the length of eye contact.

    An unfamiliar straight man will only maintain eye contact for an extended period of time with another man if he thinks he recognizes him. Otherwise they don't feel comfortable doing it. That's here in the US, at least. When I was in France all the men, gay and straight, looked at each other as long as they wanted to.

    I love France... =P
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    Aug 24, 2010 12:51 PM GMT
    GFORCE saidOut of all the signals and signs, I think the one I most rely on is the length of eye contact.

    An unfamiliar straight man will only maintain eye contact for an extended period of time with another man if he thinks he recognizes him. Otherwise they don't feel comfortable doing it. That's here in the US, at least. When I was in France all the men, gay and straight, looked at each other as long as they wanted to.

    I love France... =P


    Indeed, I thought I never met a single gay person in France, Ive been told I was dead wrong lol
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    Aug 24, 2010 12:53 PM GMT
    I'm terrible at it. I sometimes get an inkling about someone, but then 9 times out of 10 I'm wrong.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Aug 24, 2010 12:55 PM GMT
    I did a thread on this topic once before and received a lot of really good responses.

    I think I'm better than what I used to be (which isn't saying to much honestly), but I have been correct in several cases which weren't easy.
    My bf was much better some years ago when I was new to the scene, but
    I think a good "gaydar" comes partially from experience.
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    Aug 24, 2010 1:03 PM GMT
    I don't have it either. But I do believe its mostly in the eyes
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    Aug 24, 2010 1:28 PM GMT
    No.
  • jeepguySD

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    Aug 24, 2010 1:43 PM GMT
    No I don't have it, or if I do have it, it doesn't work well at all because all it provides are false targets.

    Most of the time when I get a feeling about someone it just turns out to be wishful thinking.
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    Aug 24, 2010 1:47 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidI did a thread on this topic once before and received a lot of really good responses.

    I think I'm better than what I used to be (which isn't saying to much honestly), but I have been correct in several cases which weren't easy.
    My bf was much better some years ago when I was new to the scene, but
    I think a good "gaydar" comes partially from experience.


    You mean good as in people said they had one, cause on here Im getting alot of no's?
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    Aug 24, 2010 1:48 PM GMT
    josephga saidI don't have it either. But I do believe its mostly in the eyes


    I thought so too, but Ive never been able to tell a single one of the people I now know to be gay, and I always look people in the eyes...
  • LJay

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    Aug 24, 2010 1:56 PM GMT
    Mine tells me when a guy is definitely NOT gay. Other than than I am left wondering.

    I tend to befriend those who make me wonder and some are straight and some are not.

    Other than that I can usually tell after the first kiss.
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    Aug 24, 2010 1:59 PM GMT
    I don't trouble myself with gaydar anymore. I go on gay websites and pick my men from there. I only shop online nowadays.
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    Aug 24, 2010 2:23 PM GMT
    Ciarsolo saidI don't trouble myself with gaydar anymore. I go on gay websites and pick my men from there. I only shop online nowadays.


    Hey sweet cheeks my gaydar tells me you are gay! icon_cool.gif

    That works for me!
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    Aug 24, 2010 2:25 PM GMT
    Roccoe said
    Ciarsolo saidI don't trouble myself with gaydar anymore. I go on gay websites and pick my men from there. I only shop online nowadays.


    Hey sweet cheeks my gaydar tells me you are gay! icon_cool.gif

    That works for me!


    I can't tell if you are, though. I'll need further investigation to see if your body responds sexually to men icon_wink.gif
  • Kage

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    Aug 24, 2010 2:27 PM GMT
    Yeah...I am not calling it gaydar anymore.
    Guys seem to be a lot more...errr..."versatile" nowadays so I am calling it "playdar".
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    Aug 24, 2010 3:01 PM GMT
    Carboholic said
    bigeasydude saidmy gaydar sucks.


    Ditto. A guy has to practically sit on my face before the notion that he's gay crosses my mind.


    I hear you...I am too shy to make the first move...and only if it's a dramatic person...and then I'm out the door.
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    Aug 24, 2010 3:03 PM GMT
    mkubwa saidi have one, and its accurate, but all the gay guys mine detects like to fuck girls. those poor, confused men....


    LMFAO......i need to get a new mechanic...he doesn't know how to fine tune mine....
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    Aug 24, 2010 3:38 PM GMT
    amar_m saidBut Paul, I thought everyone had both homo and hetero sexual tendencies we are unaware of
    That could be what I pick up on. I think as homosexuality becomes more socially accepted we'll see all people showing a more fluid sexual behavior. I long for the day when sexuality is no longer seen as straight bi or gay, but rather attraction or no attraction. That makes much more sense than trying to label a natural carnal desire.