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  • Nayro

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    Aug 24, 2010 8:57 AM GMT
    Today I turn 21. I still had no boyfriends or girlfriends. Im not out and had only 1 (bad) sexual experience. I feel like I'm missing something here.. Is there still hope? icon_razz.gif guess Im a bit of a winer to some ppl atm...
  • Bunjamon

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    Aug 24, 2010 9:12 AM GMT
    Of course there's still hope. Get yourself out of the closet, don't focus on trying to find a boyfriend or getting laid, and surround yourself with good, positive people. Once you're comfortable yourself and being an out gay man, the boys will gravitate to you!

    You're only 21. Life's only just beginning. icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 24, 2010 10:17 AM GMT
    Daelin saidToday I turn 21. I still had no boyfriends or girlfriends. Im not out and had only 1 (bad) sexual experience. I feel like I'm missing something here.. Is there still hope? icon_razz.gif guess Im a bit of a winer to some ppl atm...


    I'm 28 and have no boyfriend. But I do get laid. You're not missing anything. Maybe move to a city with more gays? Go on Grindr? Move to New York?
  • GQjock

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    Aug 24, 2010 10:30 AM GMT
    Daelin saidToday I turn 21. I still had no boyfriends or girlfriends. Im not out and had only 1 (bad) sexual experience. I feel like I'm missing something here.. Is there still hope? icon_razz.gif guess Im a bit of a winer to some ppl atm...


    Congrats ... you're "legal"
    On the no BF front? There might be a silver lining there
    It ain't always what it's cracked up to be
    Just enjoy yourself there will be plenty of time for that later on
    ... and the one (bad) sexual experience? Practice makes perfect
    Just remember this is Your journey ... make it what you will
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    Aug 24, 2010 10:49 AM GMT
    Happy Birthday! Where is the cake? Huh?
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    Aug 24, 2010 11:26 AM GMT
    Happy Birthday!

    There is always hope. Go out there and party! Just be responsible about it. (Get a DD to go with ya.)
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    Aug 24, 2010 11:29 AM GMT
    Daelin saidToday I turn 21. I still had no boyfriends or girlfriends. Im not out and had only 1 (bad) sexual experience. I feel like I'm missing something here.. Is there still hope? icon_razz.gif guess Im a bit of a winer to some ppl atm...


    21? i had my first bf at 21 (bad)... and my first and last (bad) sex at 25... sorry I cant help you out, but maybe my dismal record will make you feel better icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 24, 2010 11:30 AM GMT
    Phillybrat said Just be responsible about it. (Get a DD to go with ya.)


    In Holland they are always called Bob.
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    Aug 24, 2010 11:56 AM GMT
    it sounds terribly cliche, but you have the power to change your own destiny. make changes and enjoy life!
  • jlly_rnchr

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    Aug 24, 2010 12:11 PM GMT
    Happy birthday man! Grab a legal drink and enjoy yourself. Good things happen to those who wait, just be patient.
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    Aug 24, 2010 12:25 PM GMT
    JB82 said
    Daelin saidToday I turn 21. I still had no boyfriends or girlfriends. Im not out and had only 1 (bad) sexual experience. I feel like I'm missing something here.. Is there still hope? icon_razz.gif guess Im a bit of a winer to some ppl atm...


    I'm 28 and have no boyfriend. But I do get laid. You're not missing anything. Maybe move to a city with more gays? Go on Grindr? Move to New York?



    well i'm 39 and i haven't had a date (and let's not even mention nookie, at least with someone else, but the callouses aren't that bad) for well over 5 years. that's like a geological age in gaytime, except longer.

    however, i will say that i'm in much better shape than i was when i was 21 (physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually) and i am SO much more comfortable with myself and the human being into whom i chose to evolve. although where i currently live isn't really conducive to dating for me, i don't mind that much most of the time. i like to consider it my time in solitude, where i have been developing myself in preparation for the next stage of my life, which is about to happen very soon. (yay me!)

    21 is still very noob. although i came out at 19, i wasn't really comfortable with it until 26 or so. concentrate on developing yourself into the person you want to be. everything else will fall into place after that, and the cool part is, even if it doesn't, you'll still really like the person you chose to become.

    you'll be okay, young padawan.
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    Aug 24, 2010 12:55 PM GMT
    Happy Birthday!
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    Aug 24, 2010 2:09 PM GMT
    Gay
  • turtleneckjoc...

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    Aug 24, 2010 2:15 PM GMT
    Happy Birthday Daelin!

    Be patient. Let everything come to you. Don't force it and don't try too hard.

    The main thing is to learn as you go and enjoy the ride. You'll be glad you did.
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    Aug 24, 2010 2:17 PM GMT
    Hey HAPPY BIRTHDAY Daelin!
  • Geoedward

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    Aug 24, 2010 2:38 PM GMT
    Happy Birthday Daelin, You are still very young and have plenty of time for a relationship.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 24, 2010 2:45 PM GMT
    Happy Birthday and PLEASE don't ever use your birthdays as future milestones because it ain't gonna happen.

    Just go with the flow and let nature take its course.
  • Kage

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    Aug 24, 2010 2:51 PM GMT
    Daelin saidToday I turn 21. I still had no boyfriends or girlfriends. Im not out and had only 1 (bad) sexual experience. I feel like I'm missing something here.. Is there still hope? icon_razz.gif guess Im a bit of a winer to some ppl atm...


    Congratualtions for reaching this milestone in your life and no you will have lots of sexual experiences (some will be bad) but happy birthday none the less.

    Come out to the dark side...we have cookies. icon_twisted.gif
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    Aug 24, 2010 3:04 PM GMT
    I agree you're only 21 there's plenty of time. I haven't been on a date since September of 2005 and it doesn't bother me
  • Kev67

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    Aug 24, 2010 3:05 PM GMT
    I didn't have my first sex until I was 23. I was so worried about finishing college still a virgin, but it happened anyway. And it was lousy sex! I bet if you ask most people (even the ones who boast at school), if they were honest they'd admit their first sex was lousy. It takes some practice.

    Is there a youth-oriented group for questioning young adults where you live? Or maybe it's better to find one where you don't live. I deliberately left my town for a year so I could come out of the closet and feel more comfortable in my own skin. You don't have to necessarily go to a big city, but it can help to be around a new group of people where there's no baggage.

    And don't be a hidden member here! If someone you know sees you on this website, they're here for the same reason you are. You might be surprised who else might be on your team.
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    Aug 24, 2010 4:54 PM GMT
    Happy Birthday! Yes, there is still hope! You're young and still figuring things out. Best wishes to you.
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    Aug 24, 2010 5:31 PM GMT
    jlly_rnchr saidHappy birthday man! Grab a legal drink and enjoy yourself. Good things happen to those who wait, just be patient.


    Aww you are sweet, but he´s been able to drink legally since he was 16. Some countries actually give freedom to their citizens rather than talking about it all the time icon_rolleyes.gif
  • JESIE

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    Aug 24, 2010 5:34 PM GMT
    your 21
    your young
    u got alot of head of you
    take chances
    take a risk
    have fun icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 24, 2010 8:54 PM GMT
    Lostboy said
    Phillybrat said Just be responsible about it. (Get a DD to go with ya.)


    In Holland they are always called Bob.


    Lol, they're not called Bob: BOB stands for Bewust Onbeschonken Bestuurder which menas Consciously Uninebriated Driver
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    Aug 24, 2010 8:58 PM GMT
    Happy Birthday, my sweet young friend. I think getting you to a big city would change a lot of things for you...
    Hmm, ever been to California.. NOT ME, silly.. we DO have LOTS of hot guys YOUR age here, too!!!