Cooking eating/habits of a potential mate (should be moved but can't moved to another section)

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    Aug 24, 2010 5:12 PM GMT
    This guy I'm chatting with right now is not a bad guy at all. No big issues, just one thing. I'm at his place now and I went through the cabinets to find something to eat and everything and I mean everything is processed food, nothing fresh or raw.

    Last night he cooked a great meal for me and 6 other of his friends. The only thing was I was mortified at the lack of fresh veggies in the menu. Mac n cheese, chicken fried steak, and fried green beans with ham. I'm not totally against this type of cooking but my style of eating has changed dramatically since i've wanted to improve my body and fitness. I'm more of a green leafy veggies and fish kinda guy.

    I dunno how long I can continue to eat these type of meals before I get too bloated. As it stands I'm going to have to put in extra effort at the gym to burn this grease and fat off. I think I'm just being paranoid, right? This guy has potential to but I'm still not certain if this is what I even want right now. Should I mention to him now how I eat and while I love what he's doing for his friends I cannot continue to eat like this or just suck it up and work out harder?

    Thanks guys
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    Aug 24, 2010 5:39 PM GMT
    Don´t let a big deal (eating well, which is very important) become a deal breaker unless it reveals more serious unattractive things. It´s up to you to sell fresh, lighter healthy food to him...
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    Aug 24, 2010 7:11 PM GMT
    I think you should gradually introduce healthier foods to him. Maybe spend a night in with just you two, and cook dinner with healthy ingredients. Once he realizes how easy/tasty it is to cook healthier meals, he'll start buying healthier foods. Hopefully.

    I ran into a similar situation with a guy I dated. He wasn't athletic at all. He wasn't out of shape either. He had a naturally lean body and he ate like a bird. Maybe one or two meals a day. Whenever I'd come over, there would be nothing to eat. And since he was a pretty frugal guy, he didn't like to go out to eat either. It was starting to become a problem. He just didn't understand why I had to eat all the time. icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 24, 2010 8:58 PM GMT
    He's not a totally out of shape guy, he's fine as is. I'm just more of a gym rat/bunny/etc.

    I kinda asked him about his food choices after I gave him a rid and he doesn't plan to eat on a weekly basis. He kinda goes day by day. If it does progresses, which he seems to want, I will make it know that I need some kind of veggies in my life.
  • Webster666

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    Aug 24, 2010 9:10 PM GMT
    Do you ever cook for him ?
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    Aug 24, 2010 10:15 PM GMT
    Webster666 saidDo you ever cook for him ?


    Haven't had the chance to yet, as we speak I'm at his place.
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    Aug 24, 2010 10:31 PM GMT
    Don't be offended by him! He's just doing his Southern, home-cooking bit.
    You should know it ain't a meal if it didn't have something that didn't have a mamma!
    It actually shows he cares for you if he's willing to make foods usually your Mamma makes. Remember, how she used to fill up your plate too? For right now, I think you should just suck it up and thank him by eating.

    Don't let food be a deal breaker. Cook for him. Show him alternatives that he might like. If he sees you regularly having meals that involves healthier options, he will naturally gravitate towards those too, so he can please you.
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    Aug 24, 2010 11:38 PM GMT
    carmineastoria saidDon't be offended by him! He's just doing his Southern, home-cooking bit.
    You should know it ain't a meal if it didn't have something that didn't have a mamma!
    It actually shows he cares for you if he's willing to make foods usually your Mamma makes. Remember, how she used to fill up your plate too? For right now, I think you should just suck it up and thank him by eating.

    Don't let food be a deal breaker. Cook for him. Show him alternatives that he might like. If he sees you regularly having meals that involves healthier options, he will naturally gravitate towards those too, so he can please you.





    Beautifully stated.

    I think that cooking a meal for someone is the nicest thing you can do. It says that you care about them.


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    Aug 25, 2010 6:23 AM GMT
    If I ever make you lasagne it means I´d marry you. Fucking takes 5 hours.
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    Aug 25, 2010 5:50 PM GMT
    Ricovelas said
    Webster666 saidDo you ever cook for him ?

    Haven't had the chance to yet, as we speak I'm at his place.

    I wanted to suggest the same thing as Webster & carmineastoria. Start cooking for him, if you believe you know a better way. Lead by example. If he doesn't see the light, then move on. Simple.
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    Aug 25, 2010 5:59 PM GMT
    Lostboy saidIf I ever make you lasagne it means I´d marry you. Fucking takes 5 hours.


    Five hours to make a lasagne? Do you kill the cow or what????
  • Geoedward

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    Aug 25, 2010 6:03 PM GMT
    I agree with xrichx, gradually introduce healthier foods to him. That is what my partner did to me. I was just a meat and potato guy. Now I eat vegetables all the time.
  • Timbales

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    Aug 25, 2010 6:11 PM GMT
    Food shouldn't be a big deal, if you don't want to eat something then don't eat it. Explain to him that it's not his cooking, it's that they of food he makes just messes you up.
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    Aug 25, 2010 6:27 PM GMT
    Brit_Bloke said
    Lostboy saidIf I ever make you lasagne it means I´d marry you. Fucking takes 5 hours.


    Five hours to make a lasagne? Do you kill the cow or what????



    Fresh pasta noodles take a while to perfect- unless you have a kitchen aid with a pasta roller icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 25, 2010 6:52 PM GMT
    i have family members who are vegetarian, some dont eat carbs... we all have different eatign habits, its common for us to adapt the cooking to eachother, so do that
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    Aug 25, 2010 6:59 PM GMT
    This has been a continuous theme in my relationships; great guys , but our lifestyles don't exactly mesh. I eat pretty healthy the majority of the time, yet it seems I always end up with the guys that eat large, super-heavy meals and drink copious amounts of everything but water. One guy somehow managed to subsist on fast food (a real winner, though great in bed.) We spend time together, I gain a couple pounds with their food or tolerate "rabbit food"jokes. I actually think they get self conscious about eating the way they do in front of me..., Just a few observations..
    Good Luck
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    Aug 25, 2010 7:30 PM GMT
    Some great advice above me here. I agree that the way around this is to show this new guy some of the foods YOU like. Introduce him to our cleaner way of eating. He'll be glad you did. You'll have him serving lean fish / chicken and great salads........and then maybe just once in awhile he'll want the old style foods he used to love.

    (I learned a lot through friends and coaches in college. I used to actually eat at Jack In The Box and Taco Bell on a regular basis in my high school days. I was lucky enough to have great people show me better ways of eating, and I have no desire to go to fast food joints, or eat bad foods now.)

  • TexasBoeuf

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    Aug 25, 2010 7:58 PM GMT
    My bf eats pretty unhealthy for the most part. I'm very weird about my diet. So I bring my kale to his place and make my raw veggie wraps and he can eat his mac n' cheese. Problem solved.
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    Aug 25, 2010 8:31 PM GMT
    Nibble a little bit of his food, tell him you're full, then go out for sashimi. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 26, 2010 1:52 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidNibble a little bit of his food, tell him you're full, then go out for sashimi. icon_biggrin.gif

    YOU should talk! When you took us to California Pizza!

    No, sorry, just teasing, we enjoyed it, or I wouldn't mention it. But still, sashimi? I think your slip is showing, dear... icon_wink.gif