Would You Date Me?

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    Feb 22, 2008 4:35 AM GMT
    Givin the pictures you see and the profile I have. Would you date me. Would you be interested in me?

    You might think this is a ploy to self gratification. It isn't. I've done everything I can to find a decent guy to be with. I'm all around a good guy. Do good people really finish last? I find myself attractive enough, but am I? Should I try so hard? I don't know. I'm at a loss.

    Now a disclaimer is: When I say a decent guy, I'm not talking about the average Joe. I am talking about the elite guys. Physically attractive guys like alot of the men you find on here.

    Your thoughts?
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    Feb 22, 2008 4:43 AM GMT
    No. I dont find you attractive in your pics and your profile doesnt reveal much personality.

    I posted another thread about the show Millionaire Matchmaker. I find the show interesting because she analyzes the mistakes the guys are making in looking for a partner. She usually lets them fall on their faces the first date, so when they come back they will be ready to listen to what she has to say.
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    Feb 22, 2008 4:55 AM GMT
    Well I'd certainly go on a date with you, if I were in Seattle. I understand what you're talking about. I don't have the best of luck either icon_sad.gif
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    Feb 22, 2008 5:08 AM GMT
    Be careful what you wish for...you just might get it.

    Ive been involved with many a "hot" guy that were total jerks and treated me horribly.

    Theres more to a guy/partner/relationship than trying to find the hottest one. Many times on here people have said sometimes once you get to know someone they become so much more attractive and it is so true.

    Its funny the guys that think they have it all with looks, body, all that stuff eventual just want someone to love them for them and not their body....the guys that have it going on in every other way want to be sexy, hot and desirable.

    Hopefully as you get older you learn that a good mix of everything is the key, thats what I have found.

    Find someone that your attracted to, (doesnt have to be drop dead gorgeous) and that will engage you in a real realtionship, conversation and you can have an emotional and mental bond with. Someone that can make you laugh no matter where you are or what you are doing.

    Once you find that, no matter how big someone elses pecs are or gorgeous someone is, there will be no replacing the rare jewel of a person that you have, because they will be your everything.
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    Feb 22, 2008 5:55 AM GMT


    Dude, you're a very sexy guy from your photos -- my personal preference would be to let you hair grow out just a bit so its not so severe -- but that is a personal thing . . . you're way attractive.

    Not sure about your personality but if easy going and fun are two traits to describe you -- you're way ok.

    One more thing - you're very young . . . you've plenty of time to meet someone . . . enjoy your friends and family -- and, when you least expect it: BAM, he'll enter your life.
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    Feb 22, 2008 7:00 AM GMT
    ...well regardless of your pictures [definitely above average]...profile [not very indepth]...I would recommend not wearing "defeatism" out in public...it's not flattering for you...

    - David
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    Feb 22, 2008 8:12 AM GMT
    I think you are handsome and well build, but I hope you don't come accross in person as you did in your profile and your initial ad here.....(and if you don't take "FITGUYMIKE" up on his date, you are crazy!!!TOTALLY H!O!T!!!!)
    Your pics ar "ok"... but,not enough info in your profile and it is a little "severe" and this thread came across kinda "desparate" or maybe a better term is "trying too hard"....
    Relax and SMILE! in your pics, pust some "action" or "pizzazz" in your pics and in your profile...draw me in to want to know you better! What are your passions, what sparks your fires, what kind of guy are you and what are you looking for. Why, in anything you have posted in this thread or in your profile, would any of the "elite" men that you said you are intersted in, want to "touch base" and be with you? You say you were in the military for 8 years and you are busy and like to work out.....ok...AND???
    Realize that beauty is more than "skin deep" and it will radiate from the inside out! Generally, you will attract what you radiate. If you exude "closed", "self absorbed" and "too busy" don't expect to be approached, regardless of how buff and built you are, and I think you have a VERY NICE build! You may want to change the places you hang out at too, get a variety of places to hang out at. If what you have done in the past isn't working, continuing to do it over and over will only give you more of the same....NO RESULTS!....so step outside of your box and change the equation...
    I'd like to know more about you...please...I want to know you are a "good guy"!
    Take Care and good luck!
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    Feb 22, 2008 9:13 AM GMT
    There's porn and then there's real life. I think you are having trouble distinguishing between the two.
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    Feb 22, 2008 12:10 PM GMT
    fitguymike saidWell I'd certainly go on a date with you, if I were in Seattle. I understand what you're talking about. I don't have the best of luck either icon_sad.gif


    Ditto (to all of the above).

    [side note to fitguymike: If I was near Nebraska, I'd definitely ask you out on a date once I got to know you better icon_wink.gif ]
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    Feb 22, 2008 12:32 PM GMT
    Sure, it's a date after all, not a wedding. icon_razz.gif ... but would you date ME? LOL I'm not one of the 'elite guys'... YET. icon_twisted.gif
  • iHavok

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    Feb 22, 2008 1:10 PM GMT
    I'm glad for the few dates we did go on, and think you are an awesome guy.

    :-)

    Give it time. Anything worth having is worth working towards and waiting for.
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    Feb 22, 2008 1:13 PM GMT
    I am sure there is a match for you somewhere. I have been on this site for over a year and there are some good looking hunks that are looking and still single. Why? Who knows.
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    Feb 22, 2008 4:05 PM GMT
    good advice so far. as said before, SMILE. smiling conveys a confidence and ease which people gravitate to.icon_biggrin.gif

    also, your moniker says you're 'tough' so you should convey a kindness in your pics and profile. also, you might be giving off a desperate vibe that could scare potential suitors away. icon_biggrin.gif





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    Feb 22, 2008 4:10 PM GMT
    Well let me say first that its hard to make a judgement about someone on the basis of a pic and profile, unless it distinguishes them (positively or negatively) from others.

    I have a bf, but as far as knowing you, sure I'd ask you to lunch.

    My encouragment to you is this: You need to give the viewer reason to WANT to know you. You aren't "Just a guy".. and put a picture on there were you smile and give some reason why someone would want to know and/or date you. Caslon's comments above are sincere... make you profile positive. I like positive people, I like to hear about their achievements and your time in the army sounds interesting.

    So my recommendation: Be more positive and distinguishing... your looks are fine.
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    Feb 22, 2008 4:21 PM GMT
    I've been told I need to smile more...I get told I come off looking unapproachable when I don't smile (which is just my shyness).
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    Feb 22, 2008 4:22 PM GMT
    Onetoughguy, it's not about THEM, it's about you! You MUST be comfortable with yourself, understand that you're NEVER alone, you're always with yourself. You gotta enjoy yourself, like yourself first and then all of that will come through to others & when it does that guy will show. It's difficult to ask us if we would date you or what not, we only see what you want us to see. Add some more "life" to your profile, show us YOU, plus in all honesty you're only 27, still lots to experience and witness. For now, I just say just keep casually dating and build your friendships.
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    Feb 22, 2008 4:23 PM GMT
    Pictures can only tell part of a story and a profile is only so many words. Just be yourself and don't try too hard. People have a way of finding mates when they are least expecting it. I'm sure you will find someone who you spark with.

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    Feb 22, 2008 4:25 PM GMT
    I would never say that I would date someone based on a picture or a blurb on a profile, but I would like to impart some advice.

    Its all about confidence. Know who you are be proud of it.

    I've dated lots of different types of guys. The gorgeous ones usually are the worst. The average guys are the best! I think if you can truely come to be happy with yourself, then the right man will come along. Its been said so many times, but confidence really does show through and people can see it!
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    Feb 22, 2008 7:45 PM GMT
    Na the only guy i would date on here is Caslon but just for an intelligent conversation over a cuppa coffee or tea and thats all!
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    Feb 22, 2008 8:33 PM GMT
    Yes. Definitely as far as the physical part, thats easy. The key is getting to know someone inside and knowing yourself. You and the other person have to be open to getting to really know each other without putting on a show. There seem to be lots of threads like this recently .. icon_smile.gif

    http://www.realjock.com/topic/110781/

    http://www.realjock.com/topic/110586/
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    Feb 22, 2008 8:52 PM GMT

    ToughGuy, you were tuggin at my heart strings before you said you only want an elite guy and not an average guy. I was looking at yer pics and you ain't bad looking, but by no means an elite gay man in terms of look. In the gay world, to be elite, you gotta have perfect hair, perfect skin, a perfect build, and you gotta be loaded. Do you watch SOAPS? That's getting close. You look tuff not pretty...I can see those 8 years in the Army have left their rugged calling card all over your face. And your body looks top heavy and sinewy. Very hot, but again not very pretty.

    I think the problem here is that you are getting bogged down with the stereotypical image of what a gay man should be both in regards to yourself and to prospective partners.

    If I was going to box myself into that stereotyped image like you are trying to do to yourself, i'd lose my excessive plaid, my scruff, my crooked smile, my Madonna gap, my large ornate belt buckles, my tendency to spit in public, and my truckdriver's vocabulary (F%&$$), and my cool specs! All these things are parts that make me who I am. To deny them is to deny myself so that I can, what,....masquerade as an elite gay, no way, dude.

    You gotta be yourself...you are way too tuff to form values and opinions of what you want based on a very weak stereotype. Because, afraid to say it, no body is perfect. An average guy can be good, an elite guy can be good, even an ugly dog can be good. Let what you feel toward a person determine your interest in them not their outward appearance or an antiqueted stereotype.

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    Feb 22, 2008 9:02 PM GMT
    Guilty knows whereof he speaks. No one will mistake him for a pretty boy, but in my humble opinion he is one of the most attractive men on RJ. Yow.
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    Feb 23, 2008 5:16 AM GMT
    To SportyG and JoeScorpio~
    Aww thanks for such kind words. icon_redface.gif
    I am sincerely touched. It would seem that there are a lot of game players in Omaha (not many gays out were I live) and being sick of games, I developed the one strike rule. It seems harsh, but if someone's gonna play games online, they'll do it in person too. I would rather stay single til I find the right guy than lower my standards, or be made the fool.
    And Joescorpio, if I'm ever in Baltimore, I'll look you up. icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 23, 2008 7:15 PM GMT
    if we were basing the judgement off the pics i would say no, but it is not because of your looks, it's more of the subject matter. when i look at a guys profile i like to see their life in their photos. if all they have is shirtless self taken photo, that doesn't show much range and only one thing to offer. there are extremely hot men on this site who have these types of profiles. do i think they are hot, yes. would i want to date them, no.
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    Feb 23, 2008 7:31 PM GMT
    Why not?