Want boyfriend to top me

  • Onemoresummer

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    Aug 26, 2010 12:05 PM GMT
    A couple of weeks ago my bf and I were a bit tipsy and I asked him when was he "gonna do me" as in when was he gonna top me. We've been together for 6 months and were casually hooking up before that.

    He said he didn't no I was into that and we didn't really have the right tools ie condoms, lube, so I was like fair enough. I then asked if he actually wanted to and he said yes so I left it at that.

    Three weeks later we still haven't done it. I wanna spice it up a bit; take the next step.

    How do I bring it up? In normal convo or during sex?

    Usually I let him take charge ie instigate when we are gonna have sex and i asked him if this annoys him a little and he said yes - I wished he had told me earlier. He said he would love it if i just ripped off my pants one day and went for it.

    Anyways, when it the best time to bring this up and what kinda wording would you use?

    cheers
  • Kage

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    Aug 26, 2010 12:18 PM GMT
    Loco11 saidA couple of weeks ago my bf and I were a bit tipsy and I asked him when was he "gonna do me" as in when was he gonna top me. We've been together for 6 months and were casually hooking up before that.

    He said he didn't no I was into that and we didn't really have the right tools ie condoms, lube, so I was like fair enough. I then asked if he actually wanted to and he said yes so I left it at that.

    Three weeks later we still haven't done it. I wanna spice it up a bit; take the next step.

    How do I bring it up? In normal convo or during sex?

    Usually I let him take charge ie instigate when we are gonna have sex and i asked him if this annoys him a little and he said yes - I wished he had told me earlier. He said he would love it if i just ripped off my pants one day and went for it.

    Anyways, when it the best time to bring this up and what kinda wording would you use?

    cheers


    Here are a couple of suggestions:
    During sex, tell him to lie back and relax, take out some nice lube and a condom that you bought.
    Tell him to relax and enjoy.
    Put the condom on using your mouth, lube up and sit on top of him and do all the work. That you you have full control and you can both enjoy the experience.

    Or you can buy some nice lube, variety of condoms.
    Wrap in nice paper and give it to him as a present.
    This would be good on a Friday so that you have the whole weekend to play with the presents.

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    Aug 26, 2010 12:23 PM GMT
    Why don't you just clean yourself (douche) and call him up and ask him over?

    Then surprise him at the door wearing nothing but a smile :-)
  • Kage

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    Aug 26, 2010 1:05 PM GMT
    NickFit saidWhy don't you just clean yourself (douche) and call him up and ask him over?

    Then surprise him at the door wearing nothing but a smile :-)


    Great idea! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 26, 2010 2:40 PM GMT
    Loco11 said He said he would love it if i just ripped off my pants one day and went for it.

    Anyways, when it the best time to bring this up and what kinda wording would you use?

    Uh, HELLO! Do you need the answer skywritten?!?! He just told you what he would like for you to do - RIP YOUR PANTS OFF AND GO FOR IT!

    Say you're both working in the kitchen preparing meals and his back is turned to you, RIP YOUR PANTS OFF and say, "Hon, it's getting HOT in the kitchen." Grab the condoms and lube out of the cabinet and GO FOR IT on the kitchen counter, floor, wherever!
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    Aug 26, 2010 6:16 PM GMT
    Get condoms and get some lube. Next time he is over rip off his pants and start sucking him. Tell him how good he feels inside of you. Finger your hole with some lube while you have him in your mouth. Then, slap a condom on him and sit on that dick.

    If you want a fuck you have to make sure that fuck happens. Destiny isn't going to bring your prostate and his cock together. Make it happen.
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    Aug 26, 2010 7:14 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie said Destiny isn't going to bring your prostate and his cock together.


    Best. Line. Ever.
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    Aug 28, 2010 2:28 PM GMT
    why don't u just say "i want to have sex NOOOOOOOOOW i'm hornyy & ready"
    kidding just tell him you're ready & as long as u & him want to do it i don't see the problem
    Good Luck ^^
  • Kinneticbrian

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    Aug 28, 2010 2:31 PM GMT
    I'd make sure to get some good lube and condoms, and then maybe you instigate it. Make it a "you guys" evening... Maybe some good wine (if you're into that) candlelight and just being very romantic together...then take him to the bedroom and give him a nice massage as part of the evening... a sensual massage is a great prelude to taking it farther... get him ready to go and then yourself and just let go and let it happen spontaneously.
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    Aug 28, 2010 2:35 PM GMT
    Loco11 saidA couple of weeks ago my bf and I were a bit tipsy and I asked him when was he "gonna do me" as in when was he gonna top me. We've been together for 6 months and were casually hooking up before that.

    He said he didn't no I was into that and we didn't really have the right tools ie condoms, lube, so I was like fair enough. I then asked if he actually wanted to and he said yes so I left it at that.

    Three weeks later we still haven't done it. I wanna spice it up a bit; take the next step.

    How do I bring it up? In normal convo or during sex?

    Usually I let him take charge ie instigate when we are gonna have sex and i asked him if this annoys him a little and he said yes - I wished he had told me earlier. He said he would love it if i just ripped off my pants one day and went for it.

    Anyways, when it the best time to bring this up and what kinda wording would you use?

    cheers


    This post made me horny ;3
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    Aug 28, 2010 3:01 PM GMT
    AKA the passive top. icon_smile.gif

    Some tops need to be forced without them having to ask for it. And some really like it when you make it happen. Try pushing him down on the bed and very deliberately undressing him and riding him. Sort of like you are raping him, which I know is kind of awkward, but it works! Just pay attention to his emotions/ smiles. If you get a big grin, by all means KEEP GOING. If you get a weird squinty eyed look, tone it down.



  • mybud

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    Aug 28, 2010 4:45 PM GMT
    You know what I like......One day....walk around the house with a tee shirt.....without pants and undies......bend over to pick shit up....reach on a high shelve for shit...Trust....10 or 15 of that.....You'll be topped.....Huge trust me
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    Aug 28, 2010 4:50 PM GMT

    You could try the Bend and Snap.

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    Aug 29, 2010 5:21 AM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidGet condoms and get some lube. Next time he is over rip off his pants and start sucking him. Tell him how good he feels inside of you. Finger your hole with some lube while you have him in your mouth. Then, slap a condom on him and sit on that dick.

    If you want a fuck you have to make sure that fuck happens. Destiny isn't going to bring your prostate and his cock together. Make it happen.


    Again, the Zombie "nails it". icon_biggrin.gif

    Telling him how good he feels inside you might also help him to relax if for some reason he's worried about hurting you. Also, having him stand while you're taking it from behind can be an easier way to work your way down onto his dick without him going soft. Some guys have more trouble if they're laying on their back and you try to sit on their dick.
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    Sep 07, 2010 7:47 PM GMT
    DjDorchester said
    You could try the Bend and Snap.

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    Love it! Works like a charm!
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    Sep 07, 2010 8:14 PM GMT
    Maybe you're both bottoms. If it's 6 months and he still hasn't done u up the dirt track then maybe it's time u both faced facts.
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    Sep 07, 2010 8:23 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidGet condoms and get some lube. Next time he is over rip off his pants and start sucking him. Tell him how good he feels inside of you. Finger your hole with some lube while you have him in your mouth. Then, slap a condom on him and sit on that dick.

    If you want a fuck you have to make sure that fuck happens. Destiny isn't going to bring your prostate and his cock together. Make it happen.


    slut...lol