OMG! OMG! OMG! I'm so happy! A new screen name I always wanted!

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    Aug 27, 2010 12:11 AM GMT
    I got yet another e-mail from a member telling me how much he thought my "Wilton" screen name was a mistake. Before that I was Red_Vespa here.

    Well, I've been Art_Deco for over 12 years, on BBS and AOL and a load of other sites, many now long gone. But I couldn't get it here. Maybe I screwed-up when I first joined as I did the application, but I thought it was rejected.

    So I replied back to him to say this. But I thought, OK, I'll give it another try -- BINGO!

    I am finally Art_Deco (Art to my friends). And that is one I hope to be able to keep here. I am so grateful for that e-mail. And BTW, if I'm not violating a confidence, it was from Caslon. icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 27, 2010 12:13 AM GMT
    Art_Deco saidI got yet another e-mail from a member telling me how much he thought my "Wilton" screen name was a mistake. Before that I was Red_Vespa here.

    Well, I've been Art_Deco for over 12 years, on BBS and AOL and a load of other sites, many now long gone. But I couldn't get it here. Maybe I screwed-up when I first joined when I applied, but I thought it was rejected.

    So I replied back to him to say this. But I thought, OK, I'll give it another try -- BINGO!

    I am finally ART_DECO (Art to my friends). And that is one I hope to be able to keep here. I am so grateful for that e-mail. And BTW, if I'm not violating a confidence, it was from Caslon. icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif


    that's cool.. but how do you just go gay, all of a sudden? Did you wake up gay one day?
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    Aug 27, 2010 12:54 AM GMT
    LGBT saidthat's cool.. but how do you just go gay, all of a sudden? Did you wake up gay one day?

    That is almost literally what did happen. I've told this story here before.

    Just before I retired from the Army in 1994, I joined a local Seattle BBS. Strictly direct dial-up via telephone modem, not Internet, it had chat rooms with topics about auto mechanics, and classical music, and lots of other of my interest areas. It was basically topical threads like we have here, but all text-based, no graphics.

    And one was called the "Men's Room." And in there I encountered this openly gay guy, who was sorta like the spokesperson for all gays. Very smart, very articulate, he successfully took on the gay bashers left & right, and made the gay case, calmly & logically, never emotionally. I wish I had learned that skill from him.

    And I was fascinated by this, a world I knew nothing about. So I privately e-mailed him, and we began a daily correspondence that went on for months.

    And then one day, March 16, 1995, he wrote for about the 20th time that gay stereotypes are flawed (upon which my own denial had been based). That gay men can be construction workers, and police, firefighters, football players, truck drivers, Army soldiers... Wait, what was that last one??? The message finally penetrated my dense brain.

    And the possibility hit me like a tackle. My mind was reeling. But then the most amazing thing started to happen. A thousand suppressed memories started to flood back into my brain. I even had this image of my mind, like an out of body experience, of partitions falling, with locked-up secrets being released.

    I began to realize I had been a victim of extremely compartmentalized thinking. I might have remembered an obviously gay event in my life, but I would quickly suppress it, and refuse to remember another one at the same time. I refused to connect the dots.

    But that day I was suddenly connecting all the dots, and the picture they formed was clear. I was gay. But I had a problem. I had always believed gay was not good. The Army said so, all of US society I knew said so.

    But I am a very strong & confident person. I know that I am basically good. Therefore, if I am gay, it follows that gay cannot be bad. Believe it or not, for me such a simplistic approach works.

    I spent that whole night awake, my mind churning. I had never before nor since been in such a state.

    At dawn the next morning I applied for online membership with another Seattle BBS associated with the other BBS, that was exclusively for gay men. I knew about it from my gay e-mail friend, and also knew that night, Friday, March 17th (St. Patrick's Day) the BBS was hosting the largest annual gay party in Seattle.

    My membership was approved before noon, and I promptly registered for the party. I was too late for the earlier and smaller dinner, but the dance party afterwards was a separate function, attended by over 1100 gay men.

    My greatest apprehension wasn't about attending, but what the hell to WEAR? I e-mailed my gay friend to ask, and he was horrified I was doing this. He feared I wasn't really gay, accused himself of improperly recruiting me, that I was having a mid-life crisis, all kinds of crap, and worried that I would freak there. He didn't realize how absolutely fearless I can be.

    So I arrived that night, and my name was on a computer printout to admit me. And what I saw transformed me.

    I saw gay men dancing together for the first time in my life. And the love I saw in their eyes impressed me more than anything I had ever seen in the straight world. I had to go over into a corner a few times, because I was crying.

    I got hit on quite a bit that night, I guess I dressed correctly, but I had to decline. I didn't know what I supposed to do with them! But I promptly bought books and studied, I will be disciplined military to the day I die, and within less than 3 weeks I had arranged my first gay sex, a fantastically mind-blowing experience.

    And that is the story of how I came out gay in 1 day.
  • Webster666

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    Aug 27, 2010 1:06 AM GMT
    Well, don't change your main profile pic, or I'll never find you again...
    BTW, "Art_Deco" is a great screen name.
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    Aug 27, 2010 1:12 AM GMT
    wilton said

    Such a great story!

    That is kind of you to say, if you are not trying to be facetious. But why have you taken my former screen name for this post? Are you not dagurreo or whatever?
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    Aug 27, 2010 1:22 AM GMT
    Webster666 saidWell, don't change your main profile pic, or I'll never find you again...
    BTW, "Art_Deco" is a great screen name.

    Well, I did try to change the phone pic from an iPhone 3GS to my current 4. But I don't have any real image software, and I forget how the hell I did that! icon_razz.gif

    Thank you. I was getting flack about Wilton from day one. But Caslon's e-mail prompted me to check again, and voila! What I always wanted.

    One of the many things I learned in the military, which still guides me, is that you always listen to advice. You may not ultimately accept it, but you LISTEN to it.

    Because you are not the smartest guy around, just because of your rank. The smartest guy may be just a Private. Your job is to recognize smart ideas, and implement them, whoever has them. (Not that I don't give Caslon his proper due at all times, somebody with a good track record here, IMHO)
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    Aug 27, 2010 1:30 AM GMT
    Well, wilton-now Art-Deco, that dag guy changed his name after you did because..........................


    .......imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. I guess he secretly likes you and wants to be like you, too!

    Terribly sweet of him, don't you think? icon_wink.gif

    -Doug (Bill just home and says Hi!)
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    Aug 27, 2010 1:38 AM GMT
    Art_DEC0 said
    Art_Deco said
    wilton said

    Such a great story!

    That is kind of you to say, if you are not trying to be facetious. But why have you taken my former screen name for this post? Are you not dagurreo or whatever?

    No I am Art DEC0!!!!!

    ummmm... whatever icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 27, 2010 1:40 AM GMT
    meninlove said Well, wilton-now Art-Deco, that dag guy changed his name after you did because..........................

    .......imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. I guess he secretly likes you and wants to be like you, too!

    Terribly sweet of him, don't you think? icon_wink.gif

    -Doug (Bill just home and says Hi!)

    Actually I don't think regarding him anymore. But thanks, and Hi back to Bill! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 27, 2010 2:02 AM GMT
    Now daguerreo, of course you must like him - a lot. Why else take his name?

    When Bill and I got married I took his name. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug
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    Aug 27, 2010 2:03 AM GMT
    For Pete's sake........

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    Aug 27, 2010 2:06 AM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidFor Pete's sake........




    I know, and Pete's not even here.
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    Aug 27, 2010 2:06 AM GMT
    meninlove said Now daguerreo, of course you must like him - a lot. Why else take his name?

    When Bill and I got married I took his name. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug

    LOL! But even so, don't you begin to get the impression that we're dealing with a guy here who is... well... how to say it? Have you ever seen someone do a clone name of another member to harass them here? And stalk them? This is really getting too strange... icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 27, 2010 2:13 AM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    meninlove said Now daguerreo, of course you must like him - a lot. Why else take his name?

    When Bill and I got married I took his name. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug

    LOL! But even so, don't you begin to get the impression that we're dealing with a guy here who is... well... how to say it? Have you ever seen someone do a clone name of another member to harass them here? And stalk them? This is really getting too strange... icon_razz.gif


    Nah, not really..it happens. Like this (watch the whole trailer) :

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    Aug 27, 2010 10:24 PM GMT
    Webster666 saidWell, don't change your main profile pic, or I'll never find you again...
    BTW, "Art_Deco" is a great screen name.

    Thanks, I've had it since 1994 on various services. Though sometimes on AOL and the bigger ones I had to combine it with a third word, since the basic Art Deco would already be taken. Apparently very popular, because when they'd reject it they'd propose instead Art Deco75371238946581873364 or something.

    On one old BBS service you could include more special characters in your SN than common today, so there I was
    -=ART=DECO=- And could even select my own font, which further enhanced the appearance.
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    Aug 27, 2010 11:40 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    LOL! But even so, don't you begin to get the impression that we're dealing with a guy here who is... well... how to say it? Have you ever seen someone do a clone name of another member to harass them here? And stalk them? This is really getting too strange... icon_razz.gif

    Actually, I have. ....As I was closing in on 10,000 posts, a prominent, pudgy, unatheletic, out-of-shape, butt-ugly member of RJ took the name Caslon10000 in a piqué of spite and envy. The Powers That Be on RJ released the name. icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 06, 2014 6:41 PM GMT
    Where has he gone?