Dating again woes

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    Aug 27, 2010 12:54 AM GMT
    Hi,

    I started dating again, I found a great guy on Grindr (out of all places right), who is almost like me in personality, so we clicked as if we have known each other for ages. Only the past week we hung out everyday after work, and spent each night over.

    I'm kinda weirded out how fast this relationship is moving, he doesn't think so; Last relationship has been 2 years ago, and that didn't last all that long. I feel like I'm chocking and told him today that I need some R&R alone.

    He's not out to his college buddies (except one guy who caught him once looking at gay porn).

    I guess the things that are sorta bugging me, is that he's 3 years younger than me, he doesn't really know much about the gay community and he's somewhat clingy, but this could just be me feeling the pressure of commitment.

    Any words of advice or anecdotes about dating again after a long pause? Is 25 too young an age for a LTR relationship with someone younger? My emotions are fogging my brain and I can't think straight, I don't want to ruin a good thing either.

    Andre
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    Aug 27, 2010 12:59 AM GMT
    stop over-thinking things and just go with the flow. Be honest with him about your feelings.
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    Aug 27, 2010 1:09 AM GMT
    first of all, i hope you can't 'think straight'. These are affairs of the heart and while common sense must be used, go with how you feel, take the fear of the future and the woes of the past away, neither is here, just the present. You think he's younger? no i'm 58 and you're younger....he's within putting distance. go with your heart brother and let things fall where they may.. Shit i'd love to have a guy get clingy with me.....honestly now, it feels good, doesn't it????icon_cool.gif
  • Webster666

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    Aug 27, 2010 1:15 AM GMT
    bernd saidstop over-thinking things and just go with the flow. Be honest with him about your feelings.




    I like that.
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    Aug 27, 2010 1:26 AM GMT
    OP - first glad you're enjoying SD. Great surf pic in your profile. We've got some pretty good beaches up in OC and LA, not to forget Ventura Co. Point breaks off Malibu, if you come when it's not too crowded.

    As others said, be honest with him. For a brand new friendship, being together every minute is intense. Even if it develops into a relationship, you'll need some of your own space.