Nude Modeling at the college

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    Aug 27, 2010 3:15 AM GMT
    So i happened to find a cool job which i have done in the past and enjoy doing it. It so happens it is nude modeling for a life drawing class. However, they guy i am currently seeing, flipped at the idea that i work as a model posing nude in front of a co-ed class of 7 students. He says that the "gay guys" will be turned on, which in reality the professor is breathing down their necks criticizing them and telling them what they need to fix on their drawing of the models in class. So i don't think they will have time to lust over the models. So he is now all pissed off because i didn't take his opinion, which is not to do it, in consideration. He is not speaking to me at this moment. What do you guys think? Is he right about it? or is he completely blowing this out of proportion?
  • a303guy

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    Aug 27, 2010 3:58 AM GMT
    I'm going with blowing this completely out of proportion. It's pretty obvious that he's not an art major - if he was, he would know how damn near impossible it is to get 'turned on' while drawing for a grade. Back when i was an art major, i had several classes with nude models, and yes, while some of them were attractive, all i could do (and had time for) was to acknowledge that yes, they were attractive, and then get down to the craft of actually drawing them, which absorbed all of my concentration.

    he really needs to get over himself.
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    Aug 27, 2010 4:04 AM GMT
    It sounds to me like he's more worried about losing you to another guy. So what if all the guys in the class were turned on by seeing you? If he doesn't trust you enough to know that the situation would end there, he may have some very deeply rooted feelings of jealousy.

    In either case, it is still your life, and as long as you take his opinion into consideration, you are under no obligation to concede to it.
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    Aug 27, 2010 4:07 AM GMT
    Possessive jealousy. And perhaps a puritanical streak you never detected before.
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    Aug 27, 2010 4:07 AM GMT
    Thanks guys i did listen to his opinion but i don't find it to be correct. I just don't get him. I have always been fond of art myself and well i have done it in the past. So any personal experiences with stuff like that? I am even thinking of breaking up with the guy because to me his attitude seems to selfish and childish :s
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    Aug 27, 2010 4:09 AM GMT
    Art_Deco saidPossessive jealousy. And perhaps a puritanical streak you never detected before.


    Hadn't crossed my mind that it would be either of those two Art_Deco. I thought that him being a soldier he'd have more confidence in himself. :s oh well misconception :s
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    Aug 27, 2010 4:27 AM GMT
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    Art_Deco saidPossessive jealousy. And perhaps a puritanical streak you never detected before.

    Hadn't crossed my mind that it would be either of those two Art_Deco. I thought that him being a soldier he'd have more confidence in himself. :s oh well misconception :s

    Soldiers do tend to have confidence in their own military skills, they must. But they can be remarkably possessive & territorial, very much dominant male traits. I have to resist that myself.

    As for puritanical, I don't know if I would identify that with the military. Some who enjoy wearing a uniform tend to be very strong supporters of the Establishment, which at the moment in the US has strong puritanical leanings. But it may just be how he was raised. Is he very religious?
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    Aug 27, 2010 4:33 AM GMT
    He didn't give you his opinion so much as give you an order...

    You arent doing as told... So either do as he tells you or don't either way he sounds like a prick...
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    Aug 27, 2010 4:49 AM GMT
    Well a sensitive prick at that :s he got all butt hurt about it lol i don't know. it sounds like he is playing games.
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    Aug 27, 2010 4:51 AM GMT
    Dude.....he needs to own his jealously.....it's more about him than you....tell him if we don't have trust between us...we got nothing....my 2 bits....BUD
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    Aug 27, 2010 4:51 AM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    Grimaldi01 said
    Art_Deco saidPossessive jealousy. And perhaps a puritanical streak you never detected before.

    Hadn't crossed my mind that it would be either of those two Art_Deco. I thought that him being a soldier he'd have more confidence in himself. :s oh well misconception :s

    Soldiers do tend to have confidence in their own military skills, they must. But they can be remarkably possessive & territorial, very much dominant male traits. I have to resist that myself.

    As for puritanical, I don't know if I would identify that with the military. Some who enjoy wearing a uniform tend to be very strong supporters of the Establishment, which at the moment in the US has strong puritanical leanings. But it may just be how he was raised. Is he very religious?



    i am religious more so than he is but i don't see the human body expressed as art in a drawing or sculpture or whatever medium as bad as he does. i don't know but he isn't very religious.
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    Aug 27, 2010 4:52 AM GMT
    mybud saidDude.....he needs to own his jealously.....it's more about him than you....tell him if we don't have trust between us...we got nothing....my 2 bits....BUD



    nicely put icon_smile.gif your 2 bits are very much appreciated icon_smile.gif :-*
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    Aug 27, 2010 5:06 AM GMT
    He should worry if the students DIDN'T get turned on by you, lol! Hes out of line.
    Ive done nude modeling for my own show awhile back (please see my profile). It was so much fun!
    Anyway, if he doesnt want to understand your point of view, then...
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    Aug 27, 2010 5:41 AM GMT
    Tricky situation this is. It does seem to me he's over reacting, but then again I have an understanding of what happens in a figure drawing class. Sounds like it makes him uneasy perhaps because of insecurity. While I think you are fine in modeling, I also think that if you value the relationship you need to be sensitive to his feelings. By that I mean you need to reassure him of your love and fidelity. Explain to him what it is you like about modeling and art. He may not have ever experienced this type of environment and as a result may only see it as a sex type thing. When our loved ones get all "butt hurt" icon_biggrin.gif it's important in a healthy relationship to acknowledge their feelings and clarify your position. It doesn't mean that we concede, but sometimes it does. Only you two can decide if this is the hill your relationship will die on.
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    Aug 27, 2010 7:22 AM GMT
    He's overreacting. I took life drawing classes when I went to college and unless it's the first minute of their very first nude life drawing class, the artists won't be phased whatsoever. They're focused on their work. Tell the guy you're seeing to chill the fuck out or peace the fuck out!
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    Aug 27, 2010 7:39 AM GMT
    hmm sounds like he's getting in the way of your paper icon_confused.gif
  • SCgradStud

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    Aug 27, 2010 8:35 AM GMT
    DEAL BREAKER!!!

    It seems to me like it's all about control. and a lack of trust. The trust issue alone is a deal breaker because without that how can you expect to have any respect for one another? He's probably being very adamant about this to gain a sense of control over not just the relationship, but eventually you. If you were to give in then it would most likely begin a downward spiral until he has you trained to do nothing outside the house except go to work. And if you do leave the house it is only when following behind him.

    Now that's just my opinion. I don't even know the guy but this story sounds all to familiar.
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    Aug 27, 2010 8:36 AM GMT
    He's blowing it out of proportion. A lot of people equate nudity with prostitution or being slutty, which is not the case. Maybe invite him to the class, if that would be possible and not too awkward, so he can see it's not anything to be worried about?
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    Aug 27, 2010 8:40 AM GMT
    Grimaldi01 saidSo i happened to find a cool job which i have done in the past and enjoy doing it. It so happens it is nude modeling for a life drawing class. However, they guy i am currently seeing, flipped at the idea that i work as a model ...
    You can stop right there and quit making excuses for your career path. If he can't except that, that means he has trust issues and is controlling. It's that simple. Even if you stop modeling, he'll want to to stop everything he doesn't like, and it will get progressively worse till you lift your blinds and see that he just wants a trophy boyfriend he can control.

    Just trust me on this one. I am 100% correct, which is rare.

    PS. And don't listen to ANYONE outside the modeling industry. They have no idea how it works.
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    Aug 27, 2010 8:53 AM GMT
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    Grimaldi01 saidSo i happened to find a cool job which i have done in the past and enjoy doing it. It so happens it is nude modeling for a life drawing class. However, they guy i am currently seeing, flipped at the idea that i work as a model ...
    You can stop right there and quit making excuses for your career path. If he can't except that, that means he has trust issues and is controlling. It's that simple. Even if you stop modeling, he'll want to to stop everything he doesn't like, and it will get progressively worse till you lift your blinds and see that he just wants a trophy boyfriend he can control.

    Just trust me on this one. I am 100% correct, which is rare.

    PS. And don't listen to ANYONE outside the modeling industry. They have no idea how it works.


    Talk to him, try to make him reason, if it doesn't work just move on.
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    Aug 27, 2010 8:54 AM GMT
    Some trophy boyfriends need to be controlled…just say’n
    The male ego knows no bounds.
    But yeah, sound more like a trust issue…How long have you been together?
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    Aug 27, 2010 9:00 AM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidSome trophy boyfriends need to be controlled…just say’n
    If they need to be controlled, they need to be dumped. Just sayin'. icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 27, 2010 9:27 AM GMT
    Sean Connery started out as a milkman and life drawing model. It did not seem do him any harm.
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    Aug 27, 2010 9:42 AM GMT
    He sounds like a control freak. Let this be a warning sign. I personally don't see what the big deal is.
  • GQjock

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    Aug 27, 2010 9:54 AM GMT
    DANGER Will Robinson DANGER

    Dude is being ridiculous and unreasonable
    and he needs to get a grip