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    Aug 27, 2010 4:59 AM GMT
    does it bother you if someone you like is not out of the closet and is bisexual. i met a couple of guys who dont like biu guys because they are scared they will be left for a girl... do you feel that way?... does fem guys bother you or is a turn off?
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    Aug 27, 2010 12:37 PM GMT
    studly23 saiddoes it bother you if someone you like is not out of the closet and is bisexual. i met a couple of guys who dont like biu guys because they are scared they will be left for a girl... do you feel that way?... does fem guys bother you or is a turn off?


    My experience is that the vast majority of guys who identify as "bi" do it because they're afraid to come totally out - they want people to still think they're a "man" and real men fuck women. Instead of saying "I'm a man and like to fuck guys".

    Also a lot of us do fuck around with women before we start up with men, so yeah, sure, technically I'm bi but it doesn't describe what I want or am likely to do.

    So someone who's young, says they're bi, is still in the closet, it's not that they'd leave me for a girl, it's that they're still fucked up in their head about it and how can you trust that?

    Fem guys, because they've always been that way, are a lot braver and stronger than any of us who could hide it until we wanted to tell people, so I give them a lot of props for that. And when someone goes off on them, says there's something wrong with them, well thats the same shit they get from straight people and it's just fucked up and wrong.

    I tend to not be attracted to guys who are too fem, though, but that's not because I don't like them, it's just what my cock responds to.
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    Aug 27, 2010 3:42 PM GMT
    gregography saidFem guys, because they've always been that way, are a lot braver and stronger than any of us who could hide it until we wanted to tell people, so I give them a lot of props for that. And when someone goes off on them, says there's something wrong with them, well thats the same shit they get from straight people and it's just fucked up and wrong.


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  • JJ_Atoli

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    Aug 27, 2010 4:14 PM GMT
    Separately both cases (being bisexual and not being out of the closet) don't work well for me.
    Every bi guy I've known (not only those who I've been romantically involved with) has kinda had the 'have my cake and eat it too' mentality. Meaning that too often they were in the closet and found it easier to not at all really deal with the part of them that was attracted to men - aside from sleeping with them.
    They'd date women and sleep with other guys in secret and never own up to the latter no matter who was asking the questions. Very unattractive.
    Then I simply can't deal with anyone who isn't out of the closet (on a romantic level anyway) simply because I feel like it's always a step backward for the both of us. Me being your secret is the same as going back into the closet myself imo.

    Fem guys don't bother me. I'm attracted to a huge array of men and sometimes I actually prefer to date and talk to them. More times than not these guys are out and happy to be. -There a huge difference between masculine and discreet and some people don't seem to get that.
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    Aug 27, 2010 4:19 PM GMT
    JJ_Atoli said

    Fem guys don't bother me. I'm attracted to a huge array of men and sometimes I actually prefer to date and talk to them. More times than not these guys are out and happy to be. -There a huge difference between masculine and discreet and some people don't seem to get that.



    Are you saying that fem guys are happy to be out of the closet and masc guys are better off in the closet?
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    Aug 27, 2010 4:31 PM GMT
    gregography said


    My experience is that the vast majority of guys who identify as "bi" do it because they're afraid to come totally out - they want people to still think they're a "man" and real men fuck women. Instead of saying "I'm a man and like to fuck guys".

    So someone who's young, says they're bi, is still in the closet, it's not that they'd leave me for a girl, it's that they're still fucked up in their head about it and how can you trust that?

    I tend to not be attracted to guys who are too fem, though, but that's not because I don't like them, it's just what my cock responds to.


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    Aug 27, 2010 4:39 PM GMT
    Tazo995 said
    JJ_Atoli said

    Fem guys don't bother me. I'm attracted to a huge array of men and sometimes I actually prefer to date and talk to them. More times than not these guys are out and happy to be. -There a huge difference between masculine and discreet and some people don't seem to get that.



    Are you saying that fem guys are happy to be out of the closet and masc guys are better off in the closet?


    Not at all. I'm saying that more times than not fem guys are more open and ready to identify as gay than their masc counterparts. A lot of times it seems as if masc men think that more masculine equals less gay which really isn't the case when speaking strictly in terms of sexuality.
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    Aug 27, 2010 4:46 PM GMT
    studly23 saiddoes it bother you if someone you like is not out of the closet and is bisexual. i met a couple of guys who dont like biu guys because they are scared they will be left for a girl... do you feel that way?... does fem guys bother you or is a turn off?
    As more people come to realize that sexuality is fluid, more people will accept "bisexuality" as the norm. Whether we like to admit it or not, almost everyone has some level of attraction for both genders. As for being fem, that's just a mannerism and has nothing to do with sexuality. It doesn't both me, and doesn't turn me on or off. If a guy opens his mouth and a purse falls out, I'll probably pick it up for him if he's hot. icon_biggrin.gif