The Gay Male "Friends with Ex" Fascination

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    Aug 27, 2010 3:04 PM GMT
    (I know this topic has been beaten to the ground but):

    What is it with the Gay Male fascination of being friends with your Ex? Even Best Friends? I NEVER see this with hetero couples (I know, can't compare but just from a 'relationship dynamic' standpoint).

    I can understand wanting to at least be cordial, but to be friends and still hang out/talking on the phone/texting constantly?

    Seems to me if you are best friends with an Ex it means you haven't really broken up, you're still dating just not having sex (sometimes they do though). And these guys wonder why the new BFs gets jealous...calling them "Insecure". I always hear the "I don't look at him like that anymore" excuse from guys.

    I couldn't imagine a new Wife that's cool with the Husband being best friends with the recent Ex-Wife.

    Thoughts?
  • Timbales

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    Aug 27, 2010 3:06 PM GMT
    Considering the attitude many gay men have about sex, I'd wager many actually are better friends after they have broken up.
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    Aug 27, 2010 3:07 PM GMT
    Conversely, I see this much of the time with straight couples that break up. Does it work? Sometimes yes, sometimes no.

    -Doug