Is having a profile on A4A and/or a nude pic a deal breaker?

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    Aug 27, 2010 8:51 PM GMT
    Lets say your dating someone and you liked, not officially together, but you found out he has a profile on a site like A4A that is looking for more than just a "relationship" or "friendship", is that a deal breaker for you?

    What if he had nude photos on said website?
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    Aug 27, 2010 8:55 PM GMT
    Is there a chance that he has those profile and pics on a site, but hasn't logged onto that site in a while?

    That's kind of happened with me and A4A. It's been two months since I've been on that site because someone's captured my attention (and we met offline).
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    Aug 28, 2010 2:06 AM GMT
    So, you would be willing to pass up on a possibly perfectly lovely person that could bring you great happiness in a fulfilling relationship because he likes to hook-up when single?
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    Aug 28, 2010 2:10 AM GMT
    Oh no, not at all
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    Aug 28, 2010 2:12 AM GMT
    No..... but a spread cheek rosebud shot probably is... for me at least.
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    Aug 28, 2010 2:12 AM GMT
    What about a nearly nude picture on RJ? Would that be a deal breaker? You must have known people were going to look at your profile to see when you posted this question.

    When your list of deal breakers becomes too long, you risk the chance of forever remaining single.
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    Aug 28, 2010 2:13 AM GMT
    Whats A4A?
  • rioriz

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    Aug 28, 2010 2:13 AM GMT
    Uh no...especially if I knew him beforehand. But if he has one of those profiles just showing gaping holes are a def turn off
  • rioriz

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    Aug 28, 2010 2:13 AM GMT
    GigoloAssassin saidWhats A4A?


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    Aug 28, 2010 2:14 AM GMT
    Nude pics online? That's a plus in my book. Hookups? Well, I'd give you joking shit for it but I wouldn't not date you. I might also (and by might also I mean would) troll you on that profile with numerous fake accounts to see if you were loyal or not. Also, I'd require someone who hooked up to show me their STD test papers before I did anything with them.

    My BF and I both had A4As a while back to meet platonic friends (not successful, A4A is apparently where Craigslisters go once they've fucked everyone on Craigslist). If you can convince the guy to give you the login info to his account, it should be harmless.
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    Aug 28, 2010 2:24 AM GMT
    hapakun saidLets say your dating someone and you liked, not officially together, but you found out he has a profile on a site like A4A that is looking for more than just a "relationship" or "friendship", is that a deal breaker for you?

    What if he had nude photos on said website?


    Unless he's meeting people WHILE you're dating, it doesn't matter. My bf and I met on A4A. Our profiles didn't change much while we were still getting to know each other over a period of two months, even though we were exclusive in practice.

    We just became official last night. My profile is now empty and picless; probably going to delete it.
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    Aug 28, 2010 2:27 AM GMT
    redheadedryan said...My bf and I met on A4A. Our profiles didn't change much while we were still getting to know each other over a period of two months, even though we were exclusive in practice.

    We just became official last night. My profile is now empty and picless; probably going to delete it.


    Congrats, man! That's great news for you and devastating news for about 1700 RJ'rs who are crushin' on you major....expect to see countless men wearing black tomorrow....
  • xebec75

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    Aug 28, 2010 2:30 AM GMT
    MuscleComeBack said

    Congrats, man! That's great news for you and devastating news for about 1700 RJ'rs who are crushin' on you major....expect to see countless men wearing black tomorrow....


    agreed icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 28, 2010 2:36 AM GMT
    if you haven't had "the talk", i don't see how it can be a dealbreaker. i think if one approaches it that way, the decision to break it off is based more on one's insecurity than the fact that the other guy has a profile on a4a.
  • TampaRy

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    Aug 28, 2010 2:37 AM GMT
    Not at all a dealbreaker for me. I met my bf on a4a (he didn't have nudes posted though). We both have kept up our accounts (unedited) the first couple months we dated. Once we decided to get more serious, we changed what we were looking for on there (just friendship, and we have meet some good people on there). It's just another social site if you want it to be.

    As for him having "more than just a 'relationship' or 'friendship'" on his a4a profile, until you're "official," I'm not sure you're really in a position to ask him to change it.
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    Aug 28, 2010 2:41 AM GMT
    redheadedryan said
    hapakun saidLets say your dating someone and you liked, not officially together, but you found out he has a profile on a site like A4A that is looking for more than just a "relationship" or "friendship", is that a deal breaker for you?

    What if he had nude photos on said website?


    Unless he's meeting people WHILE you're dating, it doesn't matter. My bf and I met on A4A. Our profiles didn't change much while we were still getting to know each other over a period of two months, even though we were exclusive in practice.

    We just became official last night. My profile is now empty and picless; probably going to delete it.



    i don't know if i should break out the champagne to toast you, or a bottle of jock to mourn the fact that another perfect husband is on the verge of being taken, lol!

    congratulations, buddy! best of luck!
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    Aug 28, 2010 3:05 AM GMT
    No. It's not a deal breaker for me.

    What would be a deal breaker is if he still had a profile up on A4A after we've been dating.

    In this day an age there's so many venues for meeting people and as a single person who's to say that you have to commit to just one site in order to find what you are looking for?
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    Sep 01, 2010 8:42 PM GMT
    heartrobb saidWhat about a nearly nude picture on RJ? Would that be a deal breaker? You must have known people were going to look at your profile to see when you posted this question.

    When your list of deal breakers becomes too long, you risk the chance of forever remaining single.


    Um Heartrobb... it was a question and has nothing to do with me or my dating life. I was just polling the people out of curiosity.