How Well do You Know Which Guys are Interested in You?

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    Feb 23, 2008 3:19 AM GMT
    Informal survey for my scientific curiosity. I'm interested in knowing how you guys rate your ability to tell if another gay guy is interested.

    Would you say it's: pretty good, okay or clueless? If you'd rate yourself pretty good please feel free to share with the clueless people.

    I'd personally rate myself just okay, recently improved from totally clueless.

    I'll post the rolled-up results in a week or so on my blog.
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    Feb 23, 2008 3:29 AM GMT
    I find myself in the totally clueless catagory with the gaydar. Living in a redneck community, it is hard to be out myself. Help with clues please.icon_confused.gif
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    Feb 23, 2008 4:48 AM GMT
    I recently thought that a gay guy was really interested and when I asked him out on a date, he said he just wanted to be friends. That probably classifies me as clueless.
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    Feb 23, 2008 9:15 AM GMT
    Clueless...definitely clueless
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    Feb 23, 2008 10:04 AM GMT
    If the guy checks out your box, that is, the front bulge, then it is almost a sure thing that he is interested but if he then goes screaming in the opposite direction you can be pretty sure that you are not his type.icon_wink.gif
  • Grimlock

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    Feb 23, 2008 10:08 AM GMT
    Totally Clueless. I don't even notice when a woman is interested in me (apparently I've missed a couple).
  • nv7_

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    Feb 23, 2008 10:13 AM GMT
    Clueless. icon_neutral.gif
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    Feb 23, 2008 10:40 AM GMT
    Clueless - OK.

    I work at a public spot on campus. So, guys always stop and talk to me between classes. But I'm never sure if its like "I have 10 minutes to kill, keep me entertained." Or if they are taking the opportunity to show interest? I'd say I was totally clueless except out of nowhere this guy I had never met introduced himself to me because he had seen me on facebook, so, I'd guess that one's a definite interested.
  • zakariahzol

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    Feb 23, 2008 10:52 AM GMT
    I am very careful when some guys (especially younger and goodlooking one) start showing interest on me. They usually is into making money or financial benefit, because they taught I am some well to do older guy they can take for a ride. Or they have some hidden agenda like sex or stuff like that.

    I have a vast experience with guys so I kinda know what they are after.
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    Feb 23, 2008 11:20 AM GMT
    I know, I can read some people like books, It frankly annoys me, Its just another person I have to tell off, Especialy if they make it obvious and blush when I look at them, then I just do my "no" look.
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    Feb 23, 2008 11:29 AM GMT
    clueless
  • phunkie

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    Feb 23, 2008 11:29 AM GMT
    clueless. i wish they just said "hey, i'm interested. wanna grab a cup of coffee?"

    a few guys came up with a few advices at the gym. i was clueless if they were just being nice or interested. just day before yesterday, a photographer at this gig thought he'd seen me somewhere...and i go out very rarely! icon_question.gif
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    Feb 23, 2008 2:40 PM GMT
    I'm quite good now, although it's taken many years for me to pick up the signals. I can tell when women like me as well, which is weird.
  • rock924228

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    Feb 23, 2008 2:56 PM GMT
    clueless
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    Feb 23, 2008 3:55 PM GMT
    Clueless. It takes friends to point out that so-and-so fancies me to get the hint.
  • billy321

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    Feb 23, 2008 4:24 PM GMT
    way clueless..guess that's why I'm singleicon_smile.gif
  • BlackJock79

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    Feb 23, 2008 4:27 PM GMT
    Clueless. No idea at all.
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    Feb 23, 2008 4:29 PM GMT
    Totally clueless.
  • DiverScience

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    Feb 23, 2008 4:31 PM GMT
    I'll add my name to the large "Clueless" contingent.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 23, 2008 4:37 PM GMT
    What is this "clueless"??? I don't believe it.. (LOL). I'm not clueless and it isn't that hard to figure it out.

    If someone takes the initiative to show interest in you personally, being friendly, outgoing, polite in a way that isn't casual, I'd be suspicious. Now there is a difference between a "friendship" interest and one that is romantic. You can tell the two by the frequency, the looks, the commentary between yourself and the other party. It isn't hard if you make the effort to determine.

    The problem is... what if they want you and you don't want them?
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    Feb 23, 2008 5:15 PM GMT
    completely clueless icon_question.gif
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    Feb 23, 2008 6:00 PM GMT
    Totally clueless. i could never till
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    Feb 23, 2008 6:05 PM GMT
    In the minority with HK (which is a good thing). Isn't hard for me to figure out, but YEARS of experience does help.icon_wink.gif Gaydar isn't automatically turned on at puberty. It's an acquired trait.
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    Feb 23, 2008 6:33 PM GMT
    I'm with HndsmKansan and LuckyDog...

    It's the eyes for me, if a guy is talking (with his words or his eyes) and he looks into my eyes, he's interested, if he continually averts his eyes, he's not interested....obviously not scientific, but I think it's a good indicator.
  • iHavok

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    Feb 23, 2008 6:44 PM GMT
    i'm fairly good at picking up someone's interest.

    It's not like they try to hide their interest.