unsuspectingly came out to my mom today...

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    Aug 28, 2010 4:36 AM GMT
    basically my mom and I went to lunch today and then she asked me about some stuff she found on the computer. We don't share a computer but i used hers a couple times to charge my iphone and i guess it synced some of my apps to her computer some how. Well she asked me about it and if i was gay and thats when things got kind of awkward. i just sat there and smiled, i dont know why... i think it was the first thing that popped into my head to do instead of freak out. And thats when i told her i was gay. She took it way better than i thought and she told me she loved me no matter what and that I shouldn't have to lie to myself or others. Then we kind of just joked around and laughed a lil. It wasn't how i wanted to come out but it turned out better than what i had pictured(which was her bursting into tears and running out of the restaurant) haha

    let the journey begin...

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    Aug 28, 2010 4:39 AM GMT
    this is more and more common: the big surprise is that there's no big suprise... i wish everyone could be out and have surprises just like yours.

    congrats!

    xo
    j.
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    Aug 28, 2010 4:54 AM GMT
    Kind of the same story with me: 20 years ago I took my mom out to lunch for her birthday and she asked me if I was gay; hit me like a truck, out of the blue. At the time I was too struck by the question, wondering how she could have known; could only say I wasn’t sure.
    I think mom’s always know and if they don’t it is because they choose to ignore it.
    How great does it feel…
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    Aug 28, 2010 4:56 AM GMT
    dancerjack saidthis is more and more common: the big surprise is that there's no big suprise... i wish everyone could be out and have surprises just like yours.

    congrats!

    xo
    j.


    thanks man =)
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    Aug 28, 2010 4:58 AM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidKind of the same story with me: 20 years ago I took my mom out to lunch for her birthday and she asked me if I was gay; hit me like a truck, out of the blue. At the time I was too struck by the question, wondering how she could have known; could only say I wasn’t sure.
    I think mom’s always know and if they don’t it is because they choose to ignore it.
    How great does it feel…


    feels pretty good man, not gunna lie. its weird too b/c my mom has asked me on several different occasional if i was gay, to which i replied no... i dont know what made this time different and what made me tell her the truth
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    Aug 28, 2010 5:06 AM GMT
    Congratulations! My Mom was just as cool about it!

    Then she went through a little phase just before I went to college (about a month).

    Then, it was all good forever more.
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    Aug 28, 2010 5:09 AM GMT
    Awww yay! Now you can show your mom a nice Jewish boy >points to self<
  • solak

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    Aug 28, 2010 5:21 AM GMT
    she was in a public place she had to be civil despite exploding on the inside.. jk congrats icon_cool.gif
  • Kev67

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    Aug 28, 2010 6:00 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidCongratulations! My Mom was just as cool about it!

    Then she went through a little phase just before I went to college (about a month).

    Then, it was all good forever more.


    Mine was the same, OK but then it took her a bit of adjusting when it sunk in. She went to a PFLAG meeting and has been going ever since... a real PFLAG mom!

    Standardsocal, that must be such a relief!
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    Aug 28, 2010 2:47 PM GMT
    Hey Congrats, Standardsocal!
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    Aug 28, 2010 2:59 PM GMT
    My mom didnt know what gay was. Hey, it was a long time ago. We didnt have internet.
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    Aug 28, 2010 3:03 PM GMT
    Very nice to hear something positive. Congratulations.
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    Aug 28, 2010 3:04 PM GMT
    Standardsocal said
    dustin_K_tx saidKind of the same story with me: 20 years ago I took my mom out to lunch for her birthday and she asked me if I was gay; hit me like a truck, out of the blue. At the time I was too struck by the question, wondering how she could have known; could only say I wasn’t sure.
    I think mom’s always know and if they don’t it is because they choose to ignore it.
    How great does it feel…


    feels pretty good man, not gunna lie. its weird too b/c my mom has asked me on several different occasional if i was gay, to which i replied no... i dont know what made this time different and what made me tell her the truth


    Short answer about what made the difference: you felt ready (and maybe you sensed that your mom was ready too).

    And about letting the journey begin: you're absolutely right. Coming out is a process not an event. It looks like you'll continue the journey at your own pace, which would be great. Enjoy the ride!
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    Aug 28, 2010 3:27 PM GMT
    Congrats, im happy things went to so well and its probably better that she kind of initiated it honestly. Saved you the stress of putting it all together lol. I hope my mom will be shockingly the same.
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    Aug 28, 2010 3:35 PM GMT
    Standardsocal, that is wonderful!!! Very happy for you. icon_biggrin.gif
    Take your Mum's advice and never lie to others about it!! Everyone of Us that stays in the perverbial closet, harms all Gay men and women everywhere.
    I have been open and out with the family since I was 14. 16 for the rest of the world.
    Really happy to hear this for you!!! Best of luck!
    Cheers,
    Keith
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    Aug 28, 2010 3:45 PM GMT
    Brah.....You found out your Mom truly loves ya.....regardless....Serious congrats.......BUD
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    Aug 28, 2010 3:45 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx said wondering how she could have known; ....
    I think mom’s always know and if they don’t it is because they choose to ignore it.

    Of course they know. Having watched your every move since infancy she'd have to be autistic to miss the telltale signs.
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    Aug 28, 2010 3:55 PM GMT
    Standardsocal saidlet the journey begin...

    Congrats! Yes, moms tend to know -- mine did. In fact, so did my father, AND my sister, whom they themselves informed in 1969. Never said a word to me about it, though, nor me to them, except for my sister years later. Now I kinda regret we never did discuss it. You're fortunate.
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    Aug 28, 2010 3:56 PM GMT
    See..it was your mom that had the 'gay agenda'..not you!...

    Ugh..str8's.

    No worries.. Congrats.. Hope you feel lighter. Now you dont have to worry about sneaking those little glances at guys with nice asses!

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    Have a great weekend!
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    Aug 28, 2010 4:07 PM GMT
    That's Awesome to hear things worked out so well! It's always good to hear the positive stories. When I came out to my parents some years ago, they were not so receptive...but over time, they both came around and I get along with them better now than I did when I was a kid. Again, I share everybody's congrats to you! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 28, 2010 5:59 PM GMT
    Yeah, moms always know.
    Mine first asked me when I was 17 - and long before I was ready to accept it myself.
    Didn't lie, just avoided the question, as I did the next time.
    Then, at 24, she asked if my roomate (i.e. boyfriend) was gay....
    I've been a lot closer to my family ever since. Nothing to hide!

    Congrats!
  • RSportsguy

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    Aug 28, 2010 6:03 PM GMT
    Congrats Standardsocal! Your Mom seems to be awesome also!!

  • Aug 28, 2010 6:07 PM GMT
    My mom did the whole dramatic crying thing.. Talk about an uncomortable situation.
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    Aug 28, 2010 6:08 PM GMT
    A similar thing happened with me and my mom, back in 1994. Certainly a relief.

    By the way, the plural of mom is moms, not mom's. Please stop abusing the poor apostrophe!
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    Aug 28, 2010 6:09 PM GMT
    Congrats! icon_smile.gif

    Now I need to 'accidentally' put some gay related stuff into my mom's computer icon_rolleyes.gif