What's you biggest relationship weakness?

  • mybud

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    Aug 28, 2010 4:36 PM GMT
    Mine is that I'm so giving that ...I reach I point that I resent it...even though I made my bed....Guy's share your main relationship weakness ......
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    Aug 28, 2010 8:44 PM GMT
    Mine was being attracted to guys that had been hurt in the past. I thought if i dated a guy that had been cheated on in the past they would never do that too me, wrong Or dating someone that suffered from depression. I thought if I just loved them enough all their pain would go away. wrong. I tried to hard to rescue people.
  • baldone

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    Aug 28, 2010 8:47 PM GMT
    josephga saidMine was being attracted to guys that had been hurt in the past. I thought if i dated a guy that had been cheated on in the past they would never do that too me, wrong Or dating someone that suffered from depression. I thought if I just loved them enough all their pain would go away. wrong. I tried to hard to rescue people.
    same here....thought with love and tenderness could make all the hurt go away...basically thought i could fix them
    naaaaaaaa doesn't work
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    Aug 28, 2010 8:49 PM GMT
    i expect too much and then get pissed. LOL
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    Aug 28, 2010 8:53 PM GMT
    Settling for less than I actually want.
  • DCEric

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    Aug 28, 2010 9:00 PM GMT
    Dating women.

    /Seriously.
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    Aug 28, 2010 9:00 PM GMT
    My weakness is kind and sweet, heart-on-their-sleeve, no game playing, earnest and unafraid-of-swift-love men.

    So, I married one.

    -Doug
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    Aug 29, 2010 5:45 AM GMT
    josephga saidMine was being attracted to guys that had been hurt in the past. I thought if i dated a guy that had been cheated on in the past they would never do that too me, wrong Or dating someone that suffered from depression. I thought if I just loved them enough all their pain would go away. wrong. I tried to hard to rescue people.


    same here, keep doing t to myself, though part of me feels its to cover my other weaknesses by focusing on those of others to try and make their lives better, like that will somehow absolve me of working on my own life. hey at least i can admit it right? And i think i am giving to a fault as well, money, love, shirt off my back, whatever. I get hurt alot by other people but keep going back for more lol.
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    Aug 29, 2010 6:39 AM GMT
    I'm too independent. I'm generally busy every second I am not asleep. This typically includes activities that are not group projects.
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    Aug 29, 2010 6:50 AM GMT
    shan37 saidi expect too much and then get pissed. LOL


    Yeah, at first I do this too...
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    Aug 29, 2010 6:51 AM GMT
    sdgman saidSettling for less than I actually want.


    ...and then I end up doing that...Dammit!
  • ursa_minor

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    Aug 29, 2010 7:55 AM GMT
    my gaydar is off, so i usually fall for a straight guy. sucks!
  • metta

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    Aug 29, 2010 7:59 AM GMT
    shyness
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    Aug 29, 2010 8:18 AM GMT
    attachiness, I get over-involved in how the guy is feeling and what hes doing... not in a controlling manner, but in a way of being constantly concerned, and always wanting to talk and mail etc..... perhaps called "mothering" or "smothering"
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    Aug 29, 2010 8:57 AM GMT
    Mmm I demand trust no matter what, I hate being questioned constantly or even irregularly about what I'm doing.. If I've made an agreement to something then that's it, I've agreed.

    I'm also a little cold and if they cross a line that's pretty much it and everything turns off.
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    Aug 29, 2010 9:42 AM GMT
    I trust too much and demand too little, i.e. I get walked over.
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    Aug 29, 2010 10:30 AM GMT
    Carboholic saidI have so many esteem issues that it makes me completely insecure. I always end up pursued by guys I feel are out of my league, and I inevitably push them away with my self-doubts and self-deprecation.


    Self sabotage.... I feel ya bro! I can relate!
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    Aug 29, 2010 10:46 AM GMT
    amar_m saidattachiness, I get over-involved in how the guy is feeling and what hes doing... not in a controlling manner, but in a way of being constantly concerned, and always wanting to talk and mail etc..... perhaps called "mothering" or "smothering"


    This is me, exactly.
  • owen19832006

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    Aug 29, 2010 11:05 AM GMT
    i set expectations very high and expect the guy to meet my standards but hasnt happened yet:S i expect too much and then i get pissed off
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    Aug 29, 2010 11:50 AM GMT
    DCEric saidDating women.

    /Seriously.

    You date women??? ... icon_eek.gif
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    Aug 29, 2010 11:54 AM GMT
    cold saidhaha - I'm the opposite. I'm needy and high maintenance. If we were dating we'd probably crack open each other's skulls and feast on the sweet goo inside.


    Mmmmm, sweet sweet brain goo...

    My weakness? I'm a thinker. I tend to overthink things, often to the point of neurosis... Aint none of that going on right now, though! Hooray for functional relationships!
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    Aug 29, 2010 12:43 PM GMT
    I need loyalty, no one is giving that out anymore.
    Everyone wants to hedge their bets and have relationships "lite."

    So I choose nothing.
  • RSportsguy

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    Aug 29, 2010 12:49 PM GMT
    blue_ahli saidmy gaydar is off, so i usually fall for a straight guy. sucks!


    This was me in my 20's!!icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 29, 2010 12:50 PM GMT
    Im selfish.
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    Aug 29, 2010 1:22 PM GMT
    76coopers said
    amar_m saidattachiness, I get over-involved in how the guy is feeling and what hes doing... not in a controlling manner, but in a way of being constantly concerned, and always wanting to talk and mail etc..... perhaps called "mothering" or "smothering"


    I hear you! I could smother the sun and turn it to ice and I do that to the guys I date on a regular basis. I become attached too easily and scare them away.

    On another note I connect with the guys that say they fall for the helpless guys.

    I once dated a guy that had been kicked out of home by his step father for being gay when his mother chose his stepfather over her own son. To top it off while still living in that house he was abused by his older brother after his father left... he confronted his brother the night before his wedding only to be told that he'd asked for it...

    The relationship was doomed from the start but he taught me that sometimes one man can hurt another so bad that he can never recover... before that I believed that love could cure everything.


    Yup, I did believe that really too lol, little did we know icon_razz.gif