Most definitely. I have always, always, always been attracted to strong latin and black men. Then an observation from a straight friend of mine - usually way out in left field - made perfect sense to me.
'There are so few gay people as it is, and then you narrow it down to ethnic groups that make up such a small percentage of the population, then you have to factor in the history and homophobia in those communities today. You really, honestly think you're going to meet someone who is 1) gay, 2) interested in you too, 3) dealt with their gay stuff and ready for dating and 3) potentially interested in living where you are or vice versa? And we haven't even started talking about common interests, habits, the basics. Do the math. That's literally one in a million. We have so many more hoops to jump through JUST to find someone, then when we do, we have stricter criteria than straight people who make up more than 90% of the population. What the hell?!
I'm not saying give up your type. Not at all. I'm saying grow the hell up. One thing I've learned from being around straight men is that, yes, between about 7th grade and college they have this fantasy girl that will bring them endless pleasure and delight. But then life and adulthood begins. A lot (not all!) of these guys have different criteria - is this someone I want to have children with. Is this someone I can trust with my finances, with my family, with her family? Is she at a similar place in life? Would I want to marry her and raise children together? These are a few examples why straight relationships (again, not always, but sometimes) last a long time. There's a lot more riding on them and responsibilities are huge. With us, we NEVER give up the fantasy and keep thinking it's out there, just wait a little longer, move to this city, go hang out here, and then are furious to discover that, after attending a few gay functions, there are no guys like this to be found. It's because you never develop any adult social skills or interests that would interest you in another gay guy who might not be your fantasy come to life, but he's always gonna be there for you. He is someone who you can trust. He's going to be there when something happens to your parents someday. I am constantly amazed at how many of us don't even consider these things - whether we are 20 or 55. And that's the difference. We are in this perpetual stage of a 15 year old girl who has the posters of the shirtless guys in her room, thinking that 'maybe someday' I'll find this guy.
Again, keep your fantasies alive - they're great. But I wish we could stop with our porn star/straight college rugby player fantasies and really see who is out there in the gay world and be a little more realistic. If that's not good enough for you, don't get into a relationship.