Voyeurism in the Forums

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    Feb 23, 2008 6:28 PM GMT
    Just an observation here.....With so many guys online at this great venue, why is it that it seems to be the same men posting while most of the rest of you do not ever contribute to the conversation? Quiet? Shy? Just wondering.....icon_confused.gif
    And a big "Thanks" to those of you who do contributeicon_wink.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 23, 2008 6:42 PM GMT
    Well honestly Lucky, I think its like anything in life.. you have some people willing to take the initiative and others don't. Here, there are probably a variety of reasons why we have a limited forum presence. Look at the total number of guys registered on RealJock (over 100,000) and you know many of them came here to hook up or thought it was a hot site, then realized it wasn't something that trips their trigger.. and while the profile remains, they don't come in .. much.

    Others who are online may want to remain almost invisible for a variety of factors. There are many who read, but don't post. Maybe a few see the squabbling and just want to pass on getting criticized.
    Some just don't want to do it and aren't comfortable.
    My view is, there are a large number of topics we talk about here and I find it (mostly) a positive thing.
    The wide variety of topics creates possibilities for others who haven't posted (and their interests) to say something.

    I'm glad we have the input from those who do posticon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 23, 2008 6:43 PM GMT
    They're too busy having cam sex. LMAO
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    Feb 23, 2008 7:17 PM GMT
    Cam sex for ever!!!!

    ROFL
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    Feb 23, 2008 7:26 PM GMT
    Notice, also, that the number of hits on a typical thread is a tiny fraction of the number of profiles on the site.

    Even a popular thread only captures a small group of readers and participants. The "would you kiss the guy above you" thread has 900 replies and nearly 11,000 views, but there are several repeat posters and I'm pretty sure that's not 11,000 unique viewers.

    I guess what I'm trying to say is that I don't think there are 100,000 "lurkers" out there. (I also don't know if the number of views includes people who don't register or login).
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    Feb 23, 2008 7:36 PM GMT
    I rarely write anything in the fitness sections because I am in no position to provide fitness knowledge and advice. I read and read and read to learn, and occasionally ask a question, however I do not and cannot contribute. That describes a good sum of all other members who aren't participating in the fitness forums.

    Many of us can be found in non-fitness related sections because it's fun and can give our two cents from time to time. Those non-contributing members probably have other interests on this site icon_wink.gif (refer to some of the replies above).
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    Feb 23, 2008 7:53 PM GMT
    Usually, it's because I don't have much to add to a topic that hasn't already been said. I add in my part when I feel it's needed.
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    Feb 23, 2008 8:09 PM GMT

    maybe they don't reply because they notice that most of the time posters bitch and complain about those who do. Now you are complaining because others don't. Does anything make you happy?? icon_evil.gif
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    Feb 23, 2008 8:16 PM GMT
    I used to not even "see" the forums section. I'd just go to the profiles. Now I try and look at the forums too, but usually the ones I'm somewhat interested in are like 3 miles long by the time I get to them. I don't feel right just posting in them without reading all the posts. And, while I have free time. I don't have that much to spend... lol.
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    Feb 23, 2008 9:47 PM GMT
    GuiltyGear said
    maybe they don't reply because they notice that most of the time posters bitch and complain about those who do. Now you are complaining because others don't. Does anything make you happy?? icon_evil.gif

    You are obviously confusing complaining with wondering. And yes, I am happy.
  • ShawnTX

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    Feb 24, 2008 1:58 AM GMT
    I think a lot of people that join RealJock do it for the fitness, health and nutrition tips, not to socialize. I see these friendly (in theory), general sections as an addition to the site, not the sites major focus.

    Not being a 'jock' or fitness expert, I didn't even bother with these forums for the first month after joining. I just assumed, quite wrongly, that I would have nothing to contribute, or no one would be interested in hearing what I have to say.

    Hehe, I know I just set myself up for some good-natured snide comments with that last sentence.
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    Feb 24, 2008 2:51 AM GMT
    ShawnTO saidI think a lot of people that join RealJock do it for the fitness, health and nutrition tips, not to socialize. I see these friendly (in theory), general sections as an addition to the site, not the sites major focus.

    Not being a 'jock' or fitness expert, I didn't even bother with these forums for the first month after joining. I just assumed, quite wrongly, that I would have nothing to contribute, or no one would be interested in hearing what I have to say..

    Thanks Shawn. You just validated this thread. Keep on posting and reading. Cheers, pal!icon_wink.gif
  • nv7_

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    Feb 24, 2008 2:56 AM GMT
    Sometimes I wonder if I should contribute because a difference of opinion sometimes will put people off. I'm glad to see someone appreciates input. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 24, 2008 3:54 AM GMT
    nv07 saidSometimes I wonder if I should contribute because a difference of opinion sometimes will put people off. I'm glad to see someone appreciates input. icon_biggrin.gif


    I like a difference of opinion as long as it is done with civility and a bit of humour. Sometimes though people get their knickers in a knot on this website, which I find kind of funny and sad at the same time. icon_lol.gificon_sad.gif
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    Feb 24, 2008 4:13 AM GMT
    Gwgtrunks saidUsually, it's because I don't have much to add to a topic that hasn't already been said. I add in my part when I feel it's needed.


    ditto.

    I'd just be saying "ditto" a lot.

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    Feb 24, 2008 4:17 AM GMT
    Yea, it took me a while to get to posting in the forums.. I still don't do it very often. Depends on the topic I guess.

    And yea.. lol.. too much cam sex going on.

    I agree about the workout tips etc as well, that's what I originally came here for then met alot the guys on here.. really friendly.. love ya guys icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 24, 2008 4:33 AM GMT
    Well I've only been here for about a month or so, but what I have noticed (and not sure if this was always the case) is that most new topics or topics that have a lot of posts to them do not seem to be fitness related. They seem to be in either general or miscellaneous of sorts, just various life-related posts. I still post here and there, but generally I find that there isn't much to post on.
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    Feb 24, 2008 5:18 AM GMT
    I think a lot a people join RJ to copy the profile pics for later viewing enjoyment ... icon_wink.gif

    ..............can I say that? ... icon_eek.gif


    I like to have sex with my socks on.....






    .....but I dont know why that should be a big deal, since it is just me and computer anyway. ... icon_eek.gif
  • art_smass

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    Feb 24, 2008 5:19 AM GMT
    I only post in the forums so that Squarejaw will notice me.
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    Feb 24, 2008 9:12 AM GMT
    art_smass, shameless flirt! LOL j/k
  • ramblerman

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    Feb 24, 2008 10:20 AM GMT
    SEX CAMSicon_eek.gif???????????? I suppose if I had a cam & someting faster than dial-up I would be into that. BUT seriously, I have found a lot of negativity on alot of the posts & have sent an individual e-mail to the original poster with my opinion on subjects. I have gotten back statements back like "thats the last time I ever post" & "If I post again it won't be anything so contiversial". Some of the cat fights get so off topic its funny but most are just disturbing.
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    Feb 24, 2008 10:52 AM GMT
    Gwgtrunks saidUsually, it's because I don't have much to add to a topic that hasn't already been said. I add in my part when I feel it's needed.


    Same for me a lot of the times. I might read through an entire post, that, by the way, takes a long time sometimes and then figure that what I might want to write has already been covered several times over. That is true for this thread.

    So, why am I posting?icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Feb 24, 2008 11:42 AM GMT
    Maybe alot of people don't reply to alot of these posts because they simply didn't come here for them. Maybe they just came here for the workout tips and better lifestyle and improving advice. Just because a person has a profile on here doesn't mean they are obligated to converse and contribute to the masses who seem to run the posts and threads.

    Aside from the tips and advice on here it's also possible they came here to meet people and don't find it necessary to socialize with people on the posts when they could do it in private via email and im. I don't see the problem since people have the option to do as they please, be it alone or with someone. As long as you know why you came here then the reasoning for why others came here really shouldn't be an issue.

    Everyone just do your own thing and have fun icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 24, 2008 12:16 PM GMT
    If I think I know something that can help someone, I like to throw it out there because if I'm wrong there's a good chance I'll be corrected, and then I learn something new. I try to point out when I give advice that is based on something I don't know to be true for a fact, and I would like to think people have the common sense to not just accept the first thing they read that provides a convenient answer to teir question but... well, you know people... But I think sharing what knowledge we've got as individuals, and providing a system of checking accuracy by commenting on each other, leads to some posts that are a good first step if someone is researching something like supplements or an injury, etc. It's up to the reader to know what to take with a grain of salt and what to take to their doctor/nutritionist/whatever (not that they ALWAYS know better, but still).
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    Feb 24, 2008 12:52 PM GMT
    oi oi oi

    i'm really glad to see new faces (or prolly new pics) here on the forum... i'm just happy having my buddies here who e-mails me and vice-versa.

    you know who you are you rainbow beeeeee hatttccchhhezzzz!!!