kietkat saidSo this brings up something that I've seen happen before.... are there any chivalrous gay men willing to defend the honor of their beloved?
(I hope so...)
To answer yes on behalf of ourselves is a bit awkward. But I'm sure I would defend him, though I don't recall anyone insulting him, whether or not my partner was present.
What did happen recently during Pride, however, was a guy who seemed to threaten him at our booth. I was distracted for a moment a few feet away, and caught this comment behind me. I spun around and inserted myself between this guy and the table where my partner was seated, and menacingly demanded to know what he meant by that. My partner later said I looked like I was gonna tear his face off.
The guy was clearly scared, and quickly clarified what he had said, which indeed I had only partly heard, not the threat I thought it was. I relaxed and all was well. I'm not very aggressive regarding myself, but concerning the welfare of those near to me I am totally different, absolutely protective.
But here's something completely the opposite I've seen, a guy dissing his partner. I was poolside having breakfast at a gay resort in Key West where we were staying, following the SMART Ride event. And a number of riders & crew were also staying there. As my partner & others drifted away after eating, I found myself sitting alone with this guy I barely knew.
Well he starts telling me about his relationship problems with his partner, whom I also barely knew, who'd just finished breakfast with us. Now I'll try to offer sympathy & advice to a guy who comes to me for it, but I became uneasy as he began to catalogue all his complaints about his partner, in some rather intimate areas.
Hey, buddy, I barely know either of you, and I wouldn't want to know this much detail about my good friends. I'm essentially a stranger, and you're bad-mouthing your own partner to me? Talk about unchivalrous. I found a way to terminate this.
I later told my own partner how appalled I was at that behavior, the disloyalty of it (he'd known them fairly well for years, and he agreed with me). If things are that bad, then you're both overdue to split, but don't wash that dirty linen in MY presence.