STR8 and/or married GUYS?

  • alphatop

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    Aug 29, 2010 9:44 PM GMT
    Lately, I've been in a couple of really awkward situations, regarding some str8 and married guys. Now, personaly, I find str8 man very hot, but they don't know that. I wonder what should I do...go for it....or let it go?icon_twisted.gificon_question.gif
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    Aug 29, 2010 9:53 PM GMT
    As a married guy, at least try to find guys that are 'free' before you try a married guy.icon_idea.gif
  • Nayro

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    Aug 29, 2010 9:54 PM GMT
    what kind of situations?
  • alphatop

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    Aug 29, 2010 9:56 PM GMT
    BiGymGuy saidAs a married guy, at least try to find guys that are 'free' before you try a married guy.icon_idea.gif


    I didicon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 29, 2010 9:57 PM GMT
    oldboy saidLately, I've been in a couple of really awkward situations, regarding some str8 and married guys. Now, personaly, I find str8 man very hot, but they don't know that. I wonder what should I do...go for it....or let it go?icon_twisted.gificon_question.gif


    let it go, do not be the aggressor, be passive...I think it is bad karma to mess with anyone's' partner, married, str8 or gay... doesn't say much for your respect of commitments others have made..don't do it! If they want to play, be open and who you are and decide how you feel about the situation....but at that point is is them breaking their commitments, not you and then get out and away fast..........just my opinion.
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    Aug 29, 2010 9:59 PM GMT
    i'm married 26 yrs so to say you won't find a gay married guy would be incorrect. I guess the same would apply by asking how do you go at any guy you don't know is straight or gay,,,take a chance. use careful tact and be sensitive to the timing....Many married gay men still have tight and faithful marriages to their spouses, and may not act upon their deisres to be with another man,,,,,i didn't....hope this helps....Keithicon_cool.gif
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    Aug 29, 2010 9:59 PM GMT
    oldboy saidLately, I've been in a couple of really awkward situations, regarding some str8 and married guys. Now, personaly, I find str8 man very hot, but they don't know that. I wonder what should I do...go for it....or let it go?icon_twisted.gificon_question.gif


    Ahhhh str8 guys, why must they be so fucking beautiful!!! If he's married, let it go. If he's available, go for it. And if it works, tell me how you got him!
  • B71115

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    Aug 29, 2010 10:00 PM GMT
    Stay away from them.
  • alphatop

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    Aug 29, 2010 10:02 PM GMT
    Daelin saidwhat kind of situations?



    U know, those looong looks, unusual for a str8 guys, or openly flattering, or sudden touch, or whatever of that kind...R those some sort of secret signs that str8 guy is trying to pass on to the gay/bi guy? Or is it my imagination? Btw, I've been with more than 3 (so-called) str8 guys, in a sexual way. Two of those took the iniciative with me, although I am alpha myself...That is strange for a str8 guys, right?icon_neutral.gif
  • owen19832006

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    Aug 29, 2010 10:08 PM GMT
    stay clear of them! i did one and he wanted to meet again and i never felt as guilty and horrible!!
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    Aug 29, 2010 10:21 PM GMT
    This is a bore!

    I don't want to offend anyone but, in my opinion, gay men need to get over this srt8 guy crap.

    Look, I get it. It's the old I'm-so-hot-that-even-straight-guys-can't-resisst-me thing or it's the taboo-forbidden-fruit thing. But either way, it's a crock! First of all, if they're sleeping with you then they're NOT that straight. And you're not any hotter then the last or the next guy he finds who'll put up with his shit.

    Of course I find str8 guys hot. Not just because they're straight but because I can think all guys are hot. But men who enjoy playing hurtful sex games are the biggest losers I can think of.
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    Aug 29, 2010 10:24 PM GMT
    I'm going to have to agree with GFORCE icon_biggrin.gif
  • alphatop

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    Aug 29, 2010 10:26 PM GMT
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    GFORCE saidThis is a bore!

    I don't want to offend anyone but, in my opinion, gay men need to get over this srt8 guy crap.

    Look, I get it. It's the old I'm-so-hot-that-even-straight-guys-can't-resisst-me thing or it's the taboo-forbidden-fruit thing. But either way, it's a crock! First of all, if they're sleeping with you then they're NOT that straight. And you're not any hotter then the last or the next guy he finds who'll put up with his shit.

    Of course I find str8 guys hot. Not just because they're straight but because I can think all guys are hot. But men who enjoy playing hurtful sex games are the biggest losers I can think of.


    khm, never seen things in that perspective, thanks mate!
  • laxdude25

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    Aug 29, 2010 10:36 PM GMT
    Hey, just to put my perspective forward as a bi married guy who deals with my sexuality in an open way with my wife. I agree, that any "str8" guy who has sex with a guy is bi at least. It is better to find a guy who is comfortable with his sexuality, married or not. And I think the only way you can have a regular situation with a married guy is if he is 1) honest with himself about his sexuality and 2) ideally honest with his wife about his sexuality and his extramarital activity. Otherwise, it would be no different than messing with any guy in a partnership, except there is additional lying and hurt likely. There are so many hot men out there, I don't get the special attraction to being with a guy in denial about his sexuality, and who is not treating his current partner (male or female) with honesty and mutual respect.
  • safety43_mma1...

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    Aug 29, 2010 10:38 PM GMT
    unless u dont mind being a booty call i would walk away. if they r married or straight then let them be. it isnt worth the headaches noting personal to anyone who is. i have alot of straight friends through sports and that so keep it as a friendship.
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    Aug 29, 2010 10:39 PM GMT
    I've seen the look on the faces of women and kids who've found themselves in the middle of that stuff. That's not a very sexy moment to be sure.

    Hey, I'm all for fantasies. But I like keeping some things just that. I don't have to act on every thought I have. And, personally, I'd trade a relationship with one half of a messed up marriage for a relationship with two guys in an open gay marriage any day.

    I don't waste my time on the wrong fantasies... icon_biggrin.gif

  • alphatop

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    Aug 29, 2010 11:06 PM GMT
    Lots of insights, thank u guys, I'll let u know how my situation is goingicon_confused.gif
  • alphatop

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    Aug 29, 2010 11:13 PM GMT
    viveutvivas said
    GFORCE saidThis is a bore!

    I don't want to offend anyone but, in my opinion, gay men need to get over this srt8 guy crap.


    I tend to like straight guys (or mostly straight at least). I like that they lack the whole gay culture - it is very refreshing. I find most of them tend to be more respectful and appreciative during sex, and they tend to want to establish a feeling of manly camaraderie during of the encounter, something hard to define, and hard to find with gay guys.


    Yes, that is my opinion on 3 married or str8 guys i have been with, so far icon_lol.gif

    It seems to me that we formed a special bond, and, even though, we live in a different sides of the world now, he is in Barcelona, and I am in Belgrade, but we are both moving soon to China where we first met. The other guy is superhot fitness model and my ex-personal trainer from Harbin, China, supposedly str8 with a gf, but....I had sex with both of them during my time in Beijing, and loved it. Such a intense I haven't felt almost with anybody, except my (ex) bf, Chilean guy, but he was one of a kind... icon_cool.gif
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    Aug 29, 2010 11:15 PM GMT
    viveutvivas said
    GFORCE saidThis is a bore!

    I don't want to offend anyone but, in my opinion, gay men need to get over this srt8 guy crap.


    I tend to like straight guys (or mostly straight at least). I like that they lack the whole gay culture - it is very refreshing. I find most of them tend to be more respectful and appreciative during sex, and they tend to want to establish a feeling of manly camaraderie during of the encounter, something hard to define, and hard to find with gay guys.



    "Manly camaraderie, more appreciative..." Huh?!?

    Respectfully, if you can't find all that with a man who's also strong enough to be out of the closet, then you're either looking in the wrong place or it's just a matter of your perceptions.
  • jimjock

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    Aug 29, 2010 11:59 PM GMT
    While I rarely like to post in the forums, I do read them often. I learn disdain for lash out reactions regarding anything inflammatory. I am even embarrassed over the petty arguments that develop between members polarized by mere points of opinion like women with vendetta's over bitchy comments.

    That said ~ my only comments remain simple. There are many men in the world that are straight but not narrow. I know it is cliche and trite, albeit true.


    Fortunately for me I have had the good pleasure of knowing a few of these men.

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    I would put it to you like this ~

    "Just because you ride a motorcycle once doesn't make you a biker."

    My question for anyone ~ If you eat a meal of just vegetables and grains, does it make you a vegetarian? I am not hijacking the thread so I will answer it also. Truly, some men can be curious and even not know that they may be.

    It may be the right circumstances, or that you are the right type of guy that trips their trigger. I have known many that forget not to fall for the straight guy, expect the white picket fence or the happily ever after. Still consider you may not like his pissed off wife either. The sanctity of marriage is what it is, and means different things to different people. I have my own history and transgressions so I would be kidding you if I didn't admit them. Nonetheless, I know I hurt more than just the husband and their marriage. I was selfish and didn't consider his children, their happiness, or the home.

    This is a place of exchange between intelligent men, with an opportunity to bounce ideas off of each other aloud. You are an intelligent man so read the responses, make an educated decision for yourself, and trust your gut. If your actions were printed in the newspaper tomorrow how would they make you feel? Would you want to be on the other end?

    Be well gentlemen and play nicely with each other. Thank you for letting me share as well.
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    Aug 30, 2010 12:34 AM GMT
    I always attract single straight dudes not married ones.icon_redface.gif
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    Aug 30, 2010 12:39 AM GMT
    viveutvivas said
    GFORCE said
    viveutvivas said
    GFORCE saidThis is a bore!

    I don't want to offend anyone but, in my opinion, gay men need to get over this srt8 guy crap.


    I tend to like straight guys (or mostly straight at least). I like that they lack the whole gay culture - it is very refreshing. I find most of them tend to be more respectful and appreciative during sex, and they tend to want to establish a feeling of manly camaraderie during of the encounter, something hard to define, and hard to find with gay guys.



    "Manly camaraderie, more appreciative..." Huh?!?

    Respectfully, if you can't find all that with a man who's also strong enough to be out of the closet, then you're either looking in the wrong place or it's just a matter of your perceptions.


    Well, maybe they are just mostly straight bi guys. Why should they come out as gay then? It wouldn't make any sense. I am not looking for a boyfriend here.


    Buddy, if they aren't cheating then I say enjoy.
  • alphatop

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    Aug 30, 2010 12:46 AM GMT
    RUMEL saidI always attract single straight dudes not married ones.icon_redface.gif


    Why is that bad?
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    oldboy said
    RUMEL saidI always attract single straight dudes not married ones.icon_redface.gif


    Why is that bad?


    Married men, I don't want to get myself in trouble with them. They always flirt with me in front of their wives or children. In the bathroom, you know the answericon_lol.gif
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    Aug 30, 2010 6:15 PM GMT
    if they are attached or still living with their ex then walk away. If they are straight and/or married just leave em alone, its not worth it.