conscienti1984 saidI don't mean to seem insensitive... but why is there a black gay pride?
Because there is comfort and strength in likeness. Just as many LGBT people find strength, reassurance and affirmation from attending pride related events, black LGBT people garner additional strength, reassurance and affirmation from Black Gay Pride.
I attended DC Black Pride and In the Life (the Atlanta black gay pride event) a few years ago with an ex of mine...and his reaction has stuck with me. He was enriched by being around so many people who were "just like me!" Which I at first found odd because I was like, But you're around gay folks all the time.
However, when you don't live in a city, town or area with a large/visible black gay populace, being amongst peers, feeling that sense of community...it speaks to a deep running part of human nature. Just as a rural gay seeks the big city and moves to the gayborhood.
I remember as a kid back on the farm and daydreaming of moving to NYC and running with the downtown/East Village art fags and becoming the next Keith Haring. Experiencing that communal safety and affirmation. That sense of belonging, especially in a world (the one in which I really existed) in which I didn't belong. I can liken that somewhat to what my ex experienced at black gay pride, although I also understand it's quite different given the historical and social contexts of racism, religion, white privilege, etc.
So black gay pride serves a definite purpose - beyond the insane amount of partying you find at In the Life - for LGBT people of color. It's a pride in being gay AND black, black AND gay.
I think we are more powerful if we set aside our differences and melt together as one community. Diversity is great, but the more we acknowledge our differences as a culture the harder it becomes for many people to relate to one another.
Black Gay Pride doesn't bother me--the reason behind Black Gay Pride is what bothers me... the fact that a sub-culture feels alienated enough to host it's own pride.
And that's a WHOLE 'NOTHER discussion. Addressing how the larger ills of society are played out in the gay microcosm...is very chicken and egg. Can the gays achieve it first or will we simply coincide with the rest of our culture's slow march toward real equality in the obvious and not so obvious ways.