Little gifts when meeting someone for the first time

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    Aug 30, 2010 9:51 PM GMT
    So I've noticed a trend of giving and receiving little gifts when meeting someone for the first time (I guess more so in my situation where I almost exclusively meet people I first interact with online). Probably the most memorable one was a gift bag which I noticed was...cold. Really cold. I reached inside and there was an ice pack. I'm like "...=D?" and he's like "dig deeper". There was a pack of uncooked bacon inside! I had commented to this guy how I loved bacon and he not only got me bacon, but an ice pack to keep it at proper temperature until I got home.

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    What's the sweetest or most peculiar introductory gift you've received?
  • Webster666

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    Aug 30, 2010 10:03 PM GMT
    I'm the giver.
    Where do you find somebody who's actually thoughtful and considerate ?
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    Aug 30, 2010 10:07 PM GMT
    I use to give one flower. Like one rose. I gave this one guy a small box of godiva chocolate truffles once
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    Aug 30, 2010 10:12 PM GMT
    I had been chatting with this guy online for a few months and we became pretty good friends. In one of our conversations it came up that I hated purple. He was bummed because he absolutely loved purple. He asked under what circumstances he could get me to wear his favorite color and I said that the only purple I had ever liked was a long sleeved clubbing shirt from Express. The first time I met him was at the Starbucks in West Hollywood he had a box with that purple shirt in it! It was very sweet! I wore it out that night with some sexy pants and had a great time! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 30, 2010 10:14 PM GMT
    Years ago an ex took me to dinner to meet his freaky new age religious mom. I brought the old stand by gift of flowers for her. She handed me a tiny gift wrapped box and I'm thinking "wow she got me jewelry". I open the box and inside is a crystal. It has healing powers she told me, but all I was thinking was, "Great. Just what I need. A piece of dirty broken glass."
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    Aug 30, 2010 10:18 PM GMT
    only one time did I ever get a first date gift. The guy got me the huge stuffed teddy bear. you could push his tummy and the song let me be your teddy bear.
  • jgymnast733

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    Aug 30, 2010 10:23 PM GMT
    A bottle of champagne....or wine...
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    Aug 30, 2010 10:30 PM GMT
    I don't normally receive gifts, unless it's wine or something like that. Though, a friend of mine did get a gift once...Herpes...The gift that keeps on giving.




    Totally kidding I just really needed to use that line! icon_redface.gificon_confused.gificon_eek.gif
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    Aug 30, 2010 10:43 PM GMT
    Recently, as cheezy as this sounds he brought me home baked sugar-free cookies.
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    Aug 30, 2010 10:59 PM GMT
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    Aug 30, 2010 11:06 PM GMT
    I think the most wonderful introductory gift I've gotten is head.
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    Aug 30, 2010 11:26 PM GMT
    Rarely first-time gifts, because these things are seldom pre-arranged with me. You meet in a bar, you buy him a drink, and that's it. Or you meet at some social function, or at a friend's house.

    The one time I traveled a great distance (1500 miles) to meet a guy from online, I packed some little souvenir items from my home state. And he gave me souvenirs, as well, while I was there, our gifts being little mutual mementos of my visit. Months later we became partners.

    But usually it's the second meeting when gift tokens are presented. By then I often know what he likes to drink, so I'll bring a bottle. I avoid intimately personal gifts at first, but will continue with little gifts during the dating, getting increasing personal as I know him better.

    One BF liked Swarovski crystal (which I don't). So when we went to an opera charity gala with a silent auction that included a red Swarovski crystal heart, on the eve of Valentine's Day, I had to have it for him. It was an enormous auction, and he was focused on some paintings, including some for a live auction portion, and actually overlooked the heart.

    So I won it, and at the end of the evening when they announced the winners he was shocked, first as an item that he hadn't seen and would have bid on, and second that it was me who got it, along with some other loot. When we got back to his place, where we had dressed (it was black-tie formal), I presented it to him. He was in tears, but then he had a surprise for me.

    He went into this locked cabinet, and took out 2 Swarovski boxes. In one was a smaller version of the red heart, and in the other a larger. The one I gave him was the medium size.

    Turns out they were an edition of 3, that he understood had been withdrawn, and he hadn't been able to get the missing piece. And I had given it to him, for Valentine's Day, no less. He swore I was clairvoyant, and I myself didn't know why that silly crystal caught my attention, except that it was a Swarovski heart. Just an incredible bit of good luck.

    That gift really cemented our relationship. Giving gifts is a good idea, and every now and then you really hit the mark with the guy, in a way that shows not merely your generosity and affection, but also your consideration for his feelings when you best match the gift to the guy.
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    Aug 31, 2010 12:23 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidI think the most wonderful introductory gift I've gotten is head.


    I can't wait to meet you.
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    Aug 31, 2010 12:44 AM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    The one time I traveled a great distance (1500 miles) to meet a guy from online,


    HOW far? The triumph of hope over jetlag.
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    Aug 31, 2010 12:57 AM GMT
    I know of your affinity for the Bacon icon_smile.gif and love your posts.

    But, Seriously? that didn't freak you out at all?
  • BIG_N_TALL

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    Aug 31, 2010 1:05 AM GMT
    I got Belgian chocolates icon_biggrin.gif
  • JJ_Atoli

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    Aug 31, 2010 1:09 AM GMT
    I'm usually the one who gives the gifts. Haven't received any that I can think of.
    The presents have ranged from flowers to action figures (it was an inside joke) - everybody likes a present. It's a great way to start out.
  • BIG_N_TALL

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    Aug 31, 2010 1:13 AM GMT
    As for giving gifts, it's hard to say. I usually go on what I think the guy's interests or hobbies might be. I do like giving candy or occasionally flowers if I think the guy would like them.
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    Aug 31, 2010 1:58 AM GMT
    im a fan of the single, odd flower. anything but the norm
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    Aug 31, 2010 2:01 AM GMT
    I don't bother. You're just perceived subsequently as being too needy or rushing into matters too quickly. Plus, such courteous thoughts are usually met with deaf appreciation.
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    Aug 31, 2010 2:01 AM GMT
    Never got a gift, never gave gifts, never had a boyfriend, never had sex etc etc.
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    Aug 31, 2010 2:02 AM GMT
    I think on the first date, its too much and not necessary, however if it proceeds beyond a third date, little gifts are what make it fun. I remember a guy I dated once was having a bad day, i bought him a rubber ducky (it was an inside joke between us) a bottle of wine and a flower. It made his evening so much better. I then proceeded to give him a message after a couple of glasses of wine. But on the first date??? I dont think so...
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    Aug 31, 2010 2:15 AM GMT
    I never show up anywhere empty handed....Maybe on a first date, I'll hold off but after that, watch out.

    Lately since it's summer, I get fresh fruit (strawberries, blueberries, grapes, clementimes, peaches) clean and prepare them, and give them as gifts to my friends.

    I'll stop by a friend's job, and surprise them with the fruit ready to eat.

    It's easy, fun, and healthy.
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    Aug 31, 2010 2:16 AM GMT
    an iphone lol he baught me an iphone and paid it for 2 months mhmm
  • wildkatz

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    Aug 31, 2010 2:23 AM GMT
    I'm usually the giver, honestly I"ve never received anything on a first date before.

    The last time I did this, the uy had sent me pictures of himself wearing this really beautiful necklace. He had intimated that he'd lost it some time ago, and it was his favorite necklace,............ so I bought the supplies and remade the necklace to give him on our first date :-) We dated for 2 years after that! LOL!