As gay men, do you miss the traditions associated with being in a straight relationship?

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    Aug 31, 2010 6:32 AM GMT
    I mean any of the traditions or formalities that are involved with being in a man-woman relationship, such as:

    Picking her up at her house for first dates
    Asking her parents for her hand in marriage
    Opening the door for her
    Seeing her in a wedding dress
    Getting down on one knee and proposing
    Being in the delivery room as she gives birth to your child

    or any others that you can think of... do you sometimes wish you could do these things being that these are not traditions for gay men?
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    Aug 31, 2010 6:51 AM GMT
    No.
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    Aug 31, 2010 6:53 AM GMT
    Why can't you do all of those things with a man? Well, except maybe the wedding dress one... that'd be a turn-off for me at least.
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    Aug 31, 2010 7:31 AM GMT
    coincidentally, i'm a gay man IN a straight marriage looking the other way as leaving that and going into the gay lifestyle; and i can tell you if I make the move, yes, i will miss it terribly. A very scary crossroads in my life. keith
  • Bunjamon

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    Aug 31, 2010 8:06 AM GMT
    Pyrotech saidWhy can't you do all of those things with a man? Well, except maybe the wedding dress one... that'd be a turn-off for me at least.


    I second that, just replace the female pronouns with male ones. Piece of cake.
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    Aug 31, 2010 8:28 AM GMT
    i dont want any of those things! well, except the child one but thats just never happening...
  • coastguy90814

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    Aug 31, 2010 8:46 AM GMT
    CHIdude saidI mean any of the traditions or formalities that are involved with being in a man-woman relationship, such as:

    Picking her up at her house for first dates
    Asking her parents for her hand in marriage
    Opening the door for her
    Seeing her in a wedding dress
    Getting down on one knee and proposing
    Being in the delivery room as she gives birth to your child

    or any others that you can think of... do you sometimes wish you could do these things being that these are not traditions for gay men?


    With the exception of a couple...all these can be done in a Gay marriage.
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    Aug 31, 2010 9:44 AM GMT
    I miss the opportunity to accidentally get someone pregnant.
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    Aug 31, 2010 9:49 AM GMT
    CHIdude saidPicking her up at her house for first dates
    Opening the door for her
    Getting down on one knee and proposing

    well I've done all those ones...

    I've also been there for him when he needed me, I've given my self over and let the love I felt guide me in all the things that I do. I've laughed, cried and curled up in his arms as he has mine..

    Except for that disgusting birth thing that women seem to enjoy getting up too, I aint missing a damned thing.

    Plus, now I"m single... I get to fuck everything that moves and I am!
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    Aug 31, 2010 9:50 AM GMT
    JB82 saidI miss the opportunity to accidentally get someone pregnant.


    Just because you're gay doesn't mean you are infertile.
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    Aug 31, 2010 9:51 AM GMT
    no, i enjoy my current situation.
    now i'm staying for a week with a girl in an apartment and it makes me think how lucky i am to be gay.

    and those things you can do with a male also
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    Aug 31, 2010 10:00 AM GMT
    bigtallman said
    JB82 saidI miss the opportunity to accidentally get someone pregnant.

    Just because you're gay doesn't mean you are infertile.

    When I fuck a guy, I don't accidentally get him pregnant. I said *accidentally,* the key adjective which connotates lack of deliberation. What you speak of involves deliberation. There's a difference.
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    Aug 31, 2010 10:01 AM GMT
    Growing up I was aware that that shit was all hype, just like religion. The moments that are important are the moments that are true and real between two people. There's no time to do everything and there are an incredible number of things to possibly do in this life. Why restrict your happiness to only those things that are repeated in ritual and media as part of socially controlling people's behavior?

    When civil unions became the law in NJ my partner and I were both pissed to find out that we had to have a "ceremony" with an "officiant" approved by the state. WTF? So we found a friend of a friend who was licensed, had him and some other friends over for dinner and signed all the papers.

    Then a week later we had a blowout "elopement" party where there was a keg of Sam Adams, a few of everyone on the m/f glbt scale, nudity, interracial sex in the hot tub, and musical theatre songwriters at the piano improv'ing musical commentary of the goings-on.

    It was a great party that people still talk about and it came from what *we* enjoy, not what some hallmark card script says we should enjoy.
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    Aug 31, 2010 10:02 AM GMT
    In a word ? No
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    Aug 31, 2010 10:03 AM GMT
    JB82 said
    bigtallman said
    JB82 saidI miss the opportunity to accidentally get someone pregnant.

    Just because you're gay doesn't mean you are infertile.

    When I fuck a guy, I don't get him pregnant. I said *accidentally,* the key adjective which connotates lack of deliberation. What you speak of involves deliberation.


    You don't know any FTMs, do you?

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    Aug 31, 2010 10:25 AM GMT
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    JB82 said
    bigtallman said
    JB82 saidI miss the opportunity to accidentally get someone pregnant.

    Just because you're gay doesn't mean you are infertile.

    When I fuck a guy, I don't get him pregnant. I said *accidentally,* the key adjective which connotates lack of deliberation. What you speak of involves deliberation.


    You don't know any FTMs, do you?


    No but I would totally fuck one if I met one.
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    Aug 31, 2010 10:29 AM GMT
    JB82 said
    bigtallman said
    You don't know any FTMs, do you?


    No but I would totally fuck one if I met one.


    It is really interesting to me how a man who used to be a woman and still has a vagina can totally read as a man so that I will find him sexually attractive, but a "chick with a dick" will not arouse me at all.

    There are FTMs everywhere but there seem to be a lot of them in NYC area. HOT HOT HOT for the most part. And totally male. And with, you know, two fuckable areas down there which makes for very hot 3ways.
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    Aug 31, 2010 10:36 AM GMT
    bigtallman said
    JB82 said
    bigtallman said
    You don't know any FTMs, do you?


    No but I would totally fuck one if I met one.


    It is really interesting to me how a man who used to be a woman and still has a vagina can totally read as a man so that I will find him sexually attractive, but a "chick with a dick" will not arouse me at all.

    There are FTMs everywhere but there seem to be a lot of them in NYC area. HOT HOT HOT for the most part. And totally male. And with, you know, two fuckable areas down there which makes for very hot 3ways.


    lol... wow, I am relatively open but that is just too much for me to comprehend.
  • alphatop

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    Aug 31, 2010 10:39 AM GMT
    I don't miss anything, I have everything. I am bisexualicon_smile.gif Imagine the choices...
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    Aug 31, 2010 10:41 AM GMT
    Traditional is so unoriginal. If too many are doing it, I probably don't want to.
  • BigBangLove

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    Aug 31, 2010 10:42 AM GMT



    Yeah i do miss...especially when Being gay....getting laid is all you can look foward too
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    Aug 31, 2010 10:44 AM GMT
    McGay saidTraditional is so unoriginal. If too many are doing it, I probably don't want to.


    Familiarity breeds liking. I would hate to be around someone who rejects something just because it's traditional. I enjoy fitting in.
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    Aug 31, 2010 10:44 AM GMT
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    Yeah i do miss...especially when Being gay....getting laid is all you can look foward too


    What an impoverished sense of self and possibility and imagination you seem to have. What you write is just so wrong it's impossible to know where to start.
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    Aug 31, 2010 10:46 AM GMT
    bigtallman said
    JB82 said
    bigtallman said
    You don't know any FTMs, do you?


    No but I would totally fuck one if I met one.


    It is really interesting to me how a man who used to be a woman and still has a vagina can totally read as a man so that I will find him sexually attractive, but a "chick with a dick" will not arouse me at all.

    There are FTMs everywhere but there seem to be a lot of them in NYC area. HOT HOT HOT for the most part. And totally male. And with, you know, two fuckable areas down there which makes for very hot 3ways.


    WTF! SHOW ME LINKS!!!!!! I wanna know who they are!
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    Aug 31, 2010 10:46 AM GMT
    JB82 said
    McGay saidTraditional is so unoriginal. If too many are doing it, I probably don't want to.


    Familiarity breeds liking. I would hate to be around someone who rejects something just because it's traditional.


    Yeah, following tradition or rejecting tradition simply because it's tradition is just playing with the same rules - it's the same line, just one end or the other. Much better is to discard tradition as a starting place and do what you want. If it ends up aligning with something traditional, who cares?