self affirmations

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    Sep 01, 2010 6:28 AM GMT
    I've decided that this kind of self-affirmation thing is good for my mental health!
    So I figured I'd share what I felt and wrote tonight after a difficult stint of not being too kind to myself.

    I'm not one of the girls.
    I am a guy, a man.
    I have dignity.
    I am not --- "GAY" --- as if that is a separate entity that defines people, defines me.
    I am not a prototype or a clone.
    I have interests.
    I have feelings.
    I have beliefs -- albeit they're currently confused beliefs
    I have my own sense of humor.
    I am not a piece of meat.
    I am not my body.
    I am not worthless.
    I am not to be walked over.
    I am interesting.
    I get along with folks of all types.
    I have my own personal issues.
    I have my own family.
    I have goals.
    I have desires.
    I have a brain.
    I work hard.
    I deserve respect
    --and from myself
    I am not perfect.
    I make mistakes.
    I am not and will never be all things to all people, and that is okay.
    I am exploring life.
    I do not need to put up with being mistreated
    --even from myself
    I will be patient with myself.
    I will love myself.
    I will be kind to myself.
    I will strive for my own goals.
    I will to stop to smell the roses.
    I will be good to myself.
    I will re-teach myself discipline.
    I will accept my mistakes,
    that I make them,
    that I'll never be perfect,
    and yet will not let that define me.
    I am good. And worth my own time.
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    Sep 01, 2010 11:02 AM GMT
    I would take out the "I am not" ones, your subconscious brain doest recognize negative conjunctions, so it hears "I am" instead. Replace it with something else, or take it out all together. For example "I'm not one of the girls" should be "I am one of the guys" Also I would take out the "I will's", its future tense and your brain will always consider it a future goal instead of a present one. So for example instead of "I will be patient", say "I am patient". But all in all, props to you for wanting to rewrite your brain!! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 01, 2010 11:06 AM GMT

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    Sep 01, 2010 11:13 AM GMT
    Being gay is wrong
    I am going to Hell
    I am contributing to the acceleration of the end of the world
    I am worthless
    Half of the country believes I am immoral
    I did not try hard enough to change my sexual orientation
    I can turn straight
    Homosexual relationships can be equated with incest, pedophilia, bestiality, polygamy, and rape.

    That's what I told myself from ages 12 to 20. Unfortunately, negatively thinking is easily acquired and very hard to quell. It thook me years to change my thinking.

    Now I think happy thoughts and dance around in large flowery fields chasing beautiful butterflies and bunnies.
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    Sep 01, 2010 11:42 AM GMT
    conscienti1984 said
    Now I think happy thoughts and dance around in large flowery fields chasing beautiful butterflies and bunnies.


    Too Funny!! LMAO



    I think a lot of us here were impacted negatively by attitude in our environment (parents/other authority figures) while we were growing up. In my case, I tried to conform to my parents ideal of the happy hetero person. Even though I knew I liked men at an early age, I didn't act on my true desires until I was 27.
  • LJay

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    Sep 01, 2010 12:21 PM GMT
    Thanks, guys. This is a lot more helpful to me that I would have expected. Just not the kind of thing that I would normally do, but well worth it. Something to work on in a good way.
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    Sep 01, 2010 3:43 PM GMT
    conscienti1984 saidBeing gay is wrong
    I am going to Hell
    I am contributing to the acceleration of the end of the world
    I am worthless
    Half of the country believes I am immoral
    I did not try hard enough to change my sexual orientation
    I can turn straight
    Homosexual relationships can be equated with incest, pedophilia, bestiality, polygamy, and rape.

    That's what I told myself from ages 12 to 20. Unfortunately, negatively thinking is easily acquired and very hard to quell. It thook me years to change my thinking.

    Now I think happy thoughts and dance around in large flowery fields chasing beautiful butterflies and bunnies.


    Dude, what kinda doomsday church were you a member of? This seems to be going a little beyond run-of-the-mill self loathing.
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    Sep 01, 2010 4:48 PM GMT
    Tazo995 said
    conscienti1984 saidBeing gay is wrong
    I am going to Hell
    I am contributing to the acceleration of the end of the world
    I am worthless
    Half of the country believes I am immoral
    I did not try hard enough to change my sexual orientation
    I can turn straight
    Homosexual relationships can be equated with incest, pedophilia, bestiality, polygamy, and rape.

    That's what I told myself from ages 12 to 20. Unfortunately, negatively thinking is easily acquired and very hard to quell. It thook me years to change my thinking.

    Now I think happy thoughts and dance around in large flowery fields chasing beautiful butterflies and bunnies.


    Dude, what kinda doomsday church were you a member of? This seems to be going a little beyond run-of-the-mill self loathing.



    Well... with churches with very strong anti-gay theology, a gay church member is likely to internalize this kind of message. If the creator of the universe and humankind views you as an abomination, and you believe that, then your mind can run wild with all the ways in which you are a horrible vile creature. I've been talking to a lot of guys in this situation lately, and somehow many of them retain a strong sense of self-worth through it, and don't let the church they grew up in define them... those guys are something special, and people I like to surround myself with and learn from.
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    Sep 01, 2010 4:51 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]alwbuckland said[/cite]
    conscienti1984 said
    Now I think happy thoughts and dance around in large flowery fields chasing beautiful butterflies and bunnies.


    lol
    can i join you?
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    Sep 01, 2010 6:43 PM GMT
    conscienti1984 saidBeing gay is wrong
    I am going to Hell
    I am contributing to the acceleration of the end of the world
    I am worthless
    Half of the country believes I am immoral
    I did not try hard enough to change my sexual orientation
    I can turn straight
    Homosexual relationships can be equated with incest, pedophilia, bestiality, polygamy, and rape.

    That's what I told myself from ages 12 to 20. Unfortunately, negatively thinking is easily acquired and very hard to quell. It thook me years to change my thinking.

    Now I think happy thoughts and dance around in large flowery fields chasing beautiful butterflies and bunnies.



    Ditto.

    Except for the chasing butterflies and bunnies. Yes, I dance around in large flowery fields....on Tuesdays.
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    Sep 01, 2010 7:16 PM GMT
    conscienti1984 saidBeing gay is wrong
    I am going to Hell
    I am contributing to the acceleration of the end of the world
    I am worthless
    Half of the country believes I am immoral
    I did not try hard enough to change my sexual orientation
    I can turn straight
    Homosexual relationships can be equated with incest, pedophilia, bestiality, polygamy, and rape.

    That's what I told myself from ages 12 to 20. Unfortunately, negatively thinking is easily acquired and very hard to quell. It thook me years to change my thinking.

    Now I think happy thoughts and dance around in large flowery fields chasing beautiful butterflies and bunnies.


    Don't forget this....

  • idkagudname

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    Sep 01, 2010 8:09 PM GMT
    i like this affirmation exercise
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    Sep 01, 2010 8:39 PM GMT
    @ Valentino89 - Hats of to you for being proactive and getting rid of the mental garbage. Many guys older than you still haven't taken that step.

    @ Conscienti - your post gave me a big smile! Thanks.
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    Sep 01, 2010 11:14 PM GMT
    yall are on crack... lol
    love the videos!
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    Sep 02, 2010 12:53 AM GMT
    carly_boy said[quote][cite]alwbuckland said[/cite]
    conscienti1984 said
    Now I think happy thoughts and dance around in large flowery fields chasing beautiful butterflies and bunnies.


    lol
    can i join you?


    Why of course you can! icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 13, 2010 8:42 AM GMT
    I am job.
    I am hate sunshine.
    I have make sense.
    Where is she come from?
    I am kill you.