When kissing is a turn-OFF. :-(

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    Sep 01, 2010 5:22 PM GMT
    What can a guy do when he meets another hot/sweet guy - but the kissing (a) tastes odd/bad and/or (b) FEELS weird. I've read the other kissing threads... which didn't quite address the issue(s).

    Normally I'd just figure we're physically incompatible and move on, but sometimes it's someone one really enjoys being with and perhaps we'd not like to write things off too hastily (several nice dates).

    Do you guys think it's possible to "teach" someone better or more compatible kissing techniques? Example: their tongue is limp and a bit "slimy", like an oyster. icon_eek.gif I don't even know where to start with that?

    I wasn't born yesterday - but kissing is a major thing for me. Mouthwash/brushing only covers so much - then there's taste/body chemistry. What's a man to do in such a situation when it's someone they genuinely enjoy in many other aspects (body, mind, personality)? I'm a bit confused/vexed. Any good advice/stories from the front-lines of dating? icon_neutral.gif
  • rnch

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    Sep 01, 2010 6:51 PM GMT
    my bf is up to almost a pack a day of cigs. icon_sad.gif

    even when he douches his mouth and tongue with toothpaste and mouthwash.....after a few minutes of intense kissing the GOD DAMNNNN nicotene taste returns. icon_mad.gif

    i'd like to tell him "it's me or the cigs"....but his addiction is so strong i may not like the answer. icon_cry.gificon_cry.gif
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    Sep 01, 2010 9:57 PM GMT
    rnch saidmy bf is up to almost a pack a day of cigs. icon_sad.gif

    even when he douches his mouth and tongue with toothpaste and mouthwash.....after a few minutes of intense kissing the GOD DAMNNNN nicotene taste returns. icon_mad.gif

    i'd like to tell him "it's me or the cigs"....but his addiction is so strong i may not like the answer. icon_cry.gificon_cry.gif


    lol I am aware of that, the nicotine takes a day to flush out of your system, until then it remains in your whole body systemically and it is smellable
  • Midas426

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    Sep 01, 2010 10:11 PM GMT
    Yeah smoking and kissing don't go together. I had a hook up with a guy that didn't tell me he smoked and when we kissed, it felt like an ashtray was going down my throat. Yuck!!!

    Other than smoking, if you really like the guy, then yeah I think it might not hurt to teach him some techniques.
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    Sep 01, 2010 11:08 PM GMT
    rnch saidi'd like to tell him "it's me or the cigs"....but his addiction is so strong i may not like the answer. icon_cry.gificon_cry.gif

    Yikes! icon_neutral.gif

    Sorry to hear that, buddy. Maybe you should talk to him about how much you don't want to be taking care of his emphysema. It's a good potential reality. Not fair to you.

    I'LL TELL HIM! icon_twisted.gif
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    Sep 02, 2010 12:01 AM GMT
    res_ident saidWhat can a guy do when he meets another hot/sweet guy - but the kissing (a) tastes odd/bad and/or (b) FEELS weird. I've read the other kissing threads... which didn't quite address the issue(s).

    Normally I'd just figure we're physically incompatible and move on, but sometimes it's someone one really enjoys being with and perhaps we'd not like to write things off too hastily (several nice dates).

    Do you guys think it's possible to "teach" someone better or more compatible kissing techniques? Example: their tongue is limp and a bit "slimy", like an oyster. icon_eek.gif I don't even know where to start with that?

    I wasn't born yesterday - but kissing is a major thing for me. Mouthwash/brushing only covers so much - then there's taste/body chemistry. What's a man to do in such a situation when it's someone they genuinely enjoy in many other aspects (body, mind, personality)? I'm a bit confused/vexed. Any good advice/stories from the front-lines of dating? icon_neutral.gif


    How does his ass taste? Is it a tight warm hole? Is it like the grand canyon?

    If it's like the GC you need to move on
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    Sep 02, 2010 12:05 AM GMT
    So... mouth-gag's not an option, huh...

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    Sep 02, 2010 12:06 AM GMT
    MadeNUSA said

    How does his ass taste? Is it a tight warm hole? Is it like the grand canyon?

    If it's like the GC you need to move on


    My god, I dont think Ive ever quite heard something that perturbing before lol icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 02, 2010 12:33 AM GMT
    If they can't kiss, I know it won't last with me.

    That's just something I've got to have! Iv'e gone out with guys who may not have been as hot to look at as others, just because of the way they kissed and... well, did other stuff.icon_redface.gif

    It's a game changer.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Sep 02, 2010 12:39 AM GMT
    res_ident saidWhat can a guy do when he meets another hot/sweet guy - but the kissing (a) tastes odd/bad and/or (b) FEELS weird. I've read the other kissing threads... which didn't quite address the issue(s).

    Normally I'd just figure we're physically incompatible and move on, but sometimes it's someone one really enjoys being with and perhaps we'd not like to write things off too hastily (several nice dates).

    Do you guys think it's possible to "teach" someone better or more compatible kissing techniques? Example: their tongue is limp and a bit "slimy", like an oyster. icon_eek.gif I don't even know where to start with that?

    I wasn't born yesterday - but kissing is a major thing for me. Mouthwash/brushing only covers so much - then there's taste/body chemistry. What's a man to do in such a situation when it's someone they genuinely enjoy in many other aspects (body, mind, personality)? I'm a bit confused/vexed. Any good advice/stories from the front-lines of dating? icon_neutral.gif
    I don't know what to tell you buddy. I would probably just cut my loses. I mean, I don't think you can teach someone to kiss. I think that one is either you can or you can't. Kissing is also a big deal for me too. If a guy can't kiss than that is pretty much it for me.
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    Sep 02, 2010 12:42 AM GMT
    Garlic - Adds a delicious flavor to food, but not to a man's mouth.
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    Sep 02, 2010 1:20 AM GMT
    you broads can be so damn picky...

    just kidding.

    You have a point. I have heard that the level of testosterone in saliva is a big factor in sexual arousal. Read the bit below under heading "Pheromone studies" And the odor/ taste may have a biological component that is just not arousing you.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Biology_and_sexual_orientation

    Now as for this limpness, oyster-like quality, ....go to Home Depot and get some sandpaper? Sorry. I realize that might not be much help. Good luk though.
  • DrewT

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    Sep 02, 2010 2:57 AM GMT
    You can teach another guy to kiss better. It does work. If you still don't like the taste tell them to eat better, floss, and brush. Rinsing with hydrogen peroxide is a good solution too.
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    Sep 02, 2010 2:59 AM GMT
    Simply_Drew saidYou can teach another guy to kiss better. It does work. If you still don't like the taste tell them to eat better, floss, and brush. Rinsing with hydrogen peroxide is a good solution too.


    I'm afraid that hydrogen peroxide will burn my mouth ;X
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    Sep 02, 2010 3:02 AM GMT
    For the bad breath, Dr. Tung's Tung Brush and Tung Gel might work. The problem with it will be the uncomfortable discussion that you will need to have to tell him he has bad breath. Same problem with his limp tongue and telling him he needs to get it a little erect and learn how to kiss.
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    Sep 02, 2010 4:21 AM GMT
    If you decide to stay with him, realize that you're going to have to put up with shoddy kissing for as long as you're together. Someone can get a little better at kissing if you really harp on them, but if they are a bad kisser, they'll probably never be a great kisser, despite training.
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    Sep 02, 2010 6:38 AM GMT
    MixedHead saidSo... mouth-gag's not an option, huh...

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    Nice piece of leather. Looks good on you! icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 02, 2010 6:47 AM GMT
    a soft and slow kiss is the hotest thing ever... just teach your guy and tell him what you want. icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 02, 2010 12:59 PM GMT
    GAMRican said
    MixedHead saidSo... mouth-gag's not an option, huh...

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    Nice piece of leather. Looks good on you! icon_lol.gif


    You said somethin' 'bout my face...

    I mean, awwww, thank you... You should check out my basement some time, I have so much more icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 02, 2010 2:32 PM GMT
    There are times when my BF likes to go lax on shaving his face... And there are times where the brushburing is just KILLING the excitment of the kiss (no matter where he's kissing..)

    I'm guilty of this as well, and have to be mindful, but for me it just SUCKS!
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    Sep 02, 2010 2:36 PM GMT
    I get turned off by kissing when I'm not into the person
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    Sep 02, 2010 8:26 PM GMT
    GAMRican said
    MixedHead saidSo... mouth-gag's not an option, huh...

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    Nice piece of leather. Looks good on you! icon_lol.gif

    My sentiments... Ha!! icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 02, 2010 8:38 PM GMT
    Thanks for the advice... keep 'em comin'. I feel like I should tell him something if we are to move forward. But... this is a difficult conversation for get into. Not like it's life-or-death or a total deal breaker. It's not so much that he has bad breath... it's just... it tastes odd. I don't know how else to describe it. icon_neutral.gif

    The mechanics of kissing... hmmm.... well - it's such an individual thing. Though it seems a lot of Americans - as opposed to Europeans I've known - don't often have the best kissing technique for my tastes. Odd.
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    Sep 11, 2010 8:03 PM GMT
    as you brought out kissing, i have my story to shareicon_smile.gif
    All of a sudden, there was a guy who pounded on me once and started kissing. It was never shocking and i did not push him as he was sweet and communicative. But I still kept my lips shut as he was running his tongue around my lips. May be I was thinking what was going on! lol. I then boldly opened my mouth as wide as possible, stick out my tongue and that is it. I determined to give my best. My tongue was in his mouth searching for nothing and his too...lol but we were in ecstasy.Nothing equals a good deep kiss to turn on.Finally he had to say two things that I am a good kisser and I bit his lips...lol
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    Sep 11, 2010 8:06 PM GMT
    VenkyJock saidas you brought out kissing, i have my story to shareicon_smile.gif
    All of a sudden, there was a guy who pounded on me once and started kissing. It was never shocking and i did not push him as he was sweet and communicative. But I still kept my lips shut as he was running his tongue around my lips. May be I was thinking what was going on! lol. I then boldly opened my mouth as wide as possible, stick out my tongue and that is it. I determined to give my best. My tongue was in his mouth searching for nothing and his too...lol but we were in ecstasy.Nothing equals a good deep kiss to turn on.Finally he had to say two things that I am a good kisser and I bit his lips...lol


    Bad breath is a sure turn off atleast for that moment. It could fill or kill your sex icon_smile.gif