Sep 02, 2010 2:09 PM GMT
The thought just occured to me (especially as I am about to go on a date with a guy) about whether it is good to find out right away or fairly soon when dating of each other's sexual role (top/bottom/vers) preference. I'm sure if I really really like a guy as a person and the attraction is there, then maybe it shouldn't matter if say we were both bottoms or both tops, but that may be also wishful thinking. I enjoy sex and think it's a part of a healthy relationship. I don't think it's a first date kind of question, after all I don't want to come across like I'm only into the person so we could hook up right away. I just wonder when is the right time to bring it up, and supposing we were both tops or both bottoms, if that is a relationship deal-breaker for anyone. I actually am versatile, so I guess that helps avoid this potential situation, but I also have a strong preference for one role.