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    Sep 02, 2010 8:57 PM GMT
    Hey guys, I've recently accepted to myself that I'm gay...ex-frat boy and all my friends are either ex-fraternity guys or ex-college athletes, so I'm more on the masculine side of the spectrum. For now I'm keeping it private, but I've started experimenting and fucking love it...can't believe I've tried to tell myself I'm into girls for so long.

    Part of my hangup was that I always believed all gay guys were extremely feminine, but this website has taken a lot to relieve me of that fear...it looks like there are a lot of sick guys out there.

    Anyways, I have one face photo but haven't put any others up yet because I'm a little embarrassed to be honest...you guys have the best bodies and it has really motivated to gain weight and put on a lot of muscle. Right now I'm 5'8", 150, but I want to pack on some more muscle. I'm gonna send in my verification photo tonight.

    I'd love to talk online with anybody around my age (early to late 20s) who can give me advice on being gay and/or gaining muscle. Particularly anybody who dealt with being gay in a social circle that is very "bro'd" out and alpha male. Ironically, admitting to myself that I'm gay has got me wanting to explore my jock side even more than when I thought I was straight.

    I can't really say that I'm totally happy that I'm gay, but at least I've admitted it to myself. Maybe the self acceptance will grow in time.

    Looking forward to being a part of the community!
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    Sep 02, 2010 9:09 PM GMT
    yes of course i'll be your best friend, and love you, and feed you, and take you for walks.....sorry i didn't get past the part about you being gay,....seriously, there's a whole wealth of wisdom and experience on rj, not just amongst guys your own age. talk to some of the 'older' (fukk i hate that word) guys who have been around and taken the knocks... they're invaluable. Take time, i'm 58 and in the same boat as your are,,,so see? we all have to paddle....you'll be ok brother....keithicon_cool.gif
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    Sep 02, 2010 9:29 PM GMT
    travelfan said...
    Part of my hangup was that I always believed all gay guys were extremely feminine, but this website has taken a lot to relieve me of that fear...
    Thank you for saying that! Every time I mention that as a reason more closeted guys don't come out, people slam me and say I'm full of shit...but it's the truth. However, be advised that the gay rights movement was started by - and most commonly run by - our more feminine counterparts, so they do deserve a lot of respect for having the balls to be themselves in spite of the hatred.

    As for your coming out, congrats! Welcome to the swishy gay jock club. *does the Z snap* icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 02, 2010 9:52 PM GMT
    Welcome to RJ.

    Just a minor thing. On your profile you say "straight acting". You might consider changing that to "masculine". Straight acting suggests straights act masculine and gays normally do not, which, as you can tell from the site is not the case.

    As far as all kinds of advice is concerned, the forums are your best bet. Probably every question you can think of now has likely been asked and discussed many times.
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    Sep 02, 2010 10:03 PM GMT
    Welcome to Real Jock! Glad to hear that you have recently learned more about who you are...I hope that you eventually learn to appreciate who you are and not see it in a negative light.

    I don't want to give you a hard time..but just for future reference...it is not good to use terms like DL or straight acting....many gay people find that offensive. I just thought that you would want to know.



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    Sep 02, 2010 10:37 PM GMT
    Sorry about accidentally offending with my terminology. Good to know for the future. Hah and sorry about offending in terms of age, I'm not trying to discriminate against any age, just know that my age range is not the most mature and so am looking for somebody who has dealt with coming out at that point in their lives.
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    Sep 02, 2010 10:42 PM GMT
    just be yourself, stumble, bumble, fumble and fall. we all do, we're all the same as everybody else in the world, except better in one way.....we like each other a lot better,.......well.......most of the timeicon_smile.gif keithicon_cool.gif
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    Sep 02, 2010 11:07 PM GMT
    Welcome newbie! You seem likable in a naive cute way. Don't eff it up now icon_biggrin.gif Lest I remind everyone of Orangettegate.
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    Sep 03, 2010 4:31 AM GMT
    Ciarsolo saidWelcome newbie! You seem likable in a naive cute way. Don't eff it up now icon_biggrin.gif Lest I remind everyone of Orangettegate.



    Oh no...you had to bring that episode up, didn't you? icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif

    So, what was this about a lot of sick guys? Unhealthy physically or mentally? icon_confused.gif

  • BIG_N_TALL

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    Sep 03, 2010 4:37 AM GMT
    congrats to you! icon_biggrin.gif Accepting it yourself is the hardest part - it's my experience anyways. I do have a little bit of heartache though. I cared about someone in college who was in a fraternity, but I don't think he ever was able to bring himself to accept it. So, I guess it goes without saying you remind me of him a lot. Anyways, I'm very happy for you, and I'm sure you'll like it here very much
  • EricLA

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    Sep 03, 2010 4:44 AM GMT
    Welcome Bay Area boy, and congrats on reaching self-acceptance.
  • MrPapo317

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    Sep 03, 2010 4:45 AM GMT
    Welcome to RJ and glad to see that you're finding yourself.
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    Sep 03, 2010 4:54 AM GMT
    Welcome

    I came out around your age and had some of the same biases. Best advice I have is just to develop yourself as a whole person and not get too wrapped up in sexual orientation or worry too much about what other people do or how they act. You really can drive yourself batshit crazy if you let all the trivial stuff get to you. Also, it just makes coming out easier if you are at peace with who you are, and realize that there are a lot of other things that make a person besides sexual orientation, muscles, money, material possessions, etc.

  • BIG_N_TALL

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    Sep 03, 2010 4:59 AM GMT
    Runninchlt saidWelcome

    Also, it just makes coming out easier if you are at peace with who you are, and realize that there are a lot of other things that make a person besides sexual orientation, muscles, money, material possessions, etc.



    This is so very, very, very true. Muscles don't make the man, in my opinion. They are great to look at, but don't forget to look at the whole package.
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    Sep 03, 2010 5:08 AM GMT
    metta8 said
    I don't want to give you a hard time..but just for future reference...it is not good to use terms like DL or straight acting....many gay people find that offensive. I just thought that you would want to know.


    I think DL is perfectly acceptable- it's "straight-acting" that bothers me.
    "Straight-acting" is what he used to be... he pretended to like and, I'm assuming, fuck chicks- that's "straight-acting."
  • RSportsguy

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    Sep 03, 2010 5:27 AM GMT
    Welcome Travelfan! I hope you find this site to be both educational and supportive as I do!!
  • ATLANTIS7

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    Sep 03, 2010 5:48 AM GMT
    Welcome enjoy Wonerland!
  • mybud

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    Sep 03, 2010 5:48 AM GMT
    Welcome to our community.....I offer my friendship...no strings......all the best...BUD
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    Sep 03, 2010 5:49 AM GMT
    Welcome. I am sure you will enjoy this adventure you've just begun.
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    Sep 03, 2010 5:54 AM GMT
    Congrats on the first step. Ex-frat guy myself from a uber conservative area of Texas, so I know what a challenge it can be. Just be true to yourself, try not to judge yourself or others too harshly, and remember to keep a positive attitude. It'll take you far and makes you attractive to others!
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    Sep 03, 2010 6:51 AM GMT
    Wow, you guys have been awesome! Thanks for all the great advice and the great messages you've sent me. Sorry for offending here and there, I'm probably gonna make a lot of blunders, but hopefully as I learn more about gay life they'll lessen.

    If anything, just realizing there are others like me has made me more comfortable checking out dudes and admitting to myself I'm gay...I know there will be a ton of hardships in front of me in my journey but I bet in the end I'll learn to love it.
  • Kage

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    Sep 03, 2010 6:55 AM GMT
    Welcome to RJ.
    The guys here are really nice guys and almost all of them are easy on the eye. icon_wink.gif



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    Sep 03, 2010 10:53 AM GMT
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    Sep 03, 2010 11:36 AM GMT
    meninlove said

    So, what was this about a lot of sick guys? Unhealthy physically or mentally? icon_confused.gif



    HAAHAHAHA

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    Aww doug and Bill thats so cute how you're behind the times icon_smile.gif

    "sick guy" is newspeak for "a cool cat" "awesome bro" "a cowubunga dude"

    Need I say more? ;)
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    Sep 03, 2010 11:37 AM GMT
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    OK, why is this turning me on?? Im feeling somewhat evil now icon_redface.gif