Should I start dating women?

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    Sep 03, 2010 12:19 AM GMT
    Seriously... I'm sure that I'm at my heart gay, but I haven't been able to make any strides at 28 in any serious dating let alone finding a match.

    I find connecting with women intellectually easier, and talking to gay men awkward. This is seriously confusing, as I'm sexually attracted to men, and not at all to women. And to top it off it has been even more so for some reason after coming out to friends and family. My dating has become scarce since. WHY!?!?!
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    Sep 03, 2010 1:49 AM GMT
    Id rather be alone than be unhappy. I don't think a women would make you happy. I get asked out by girls all the time and never by guys but I say no because in the end my heart wouldn't be in it. It also wouldn't be fair to the women you dated.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Sep 03, 2010 2:00 AM GMT
    Could you stick your tongue between her legs without gagging? Dude. Focus.
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    Sep 03, 2010 2:03 AM GMT
    I sometimes go out with women, mostly lesbians, and we're just interested in having a good time. What is your goal? If it's sex, then you need to do a reevaluation.

    You may not be gay. Perhaps you are bi or even straight. Nothing wrong with that, you just need to figure out what you are.

    In Salt Lake City, you are in the worst place for a gay man. Don't expect anything there, unless with a lot of angst and issues,

    You wanna have a normal gay life, if that's what you are? Move somewhere else.
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    Sep 03, 2010 2:04 AM GMT
    Try meeting men in person rather than online and it will fix itself. If no at bars, then through community groups or volunteering or sports.
  • tituspullo197...

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    Sep 03, 2010 2:06 AM GMT
    (1) don't look for love; it'll find you when it's ready.

    (2) there's a lot of fun and self-discovery to be had in the mean time.
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    Sep 03, 2010 2:06 AM GMT
    Art_Deco saidI sometimes go out with women, mostly lesbians, and we're just interested in having a good time. What is your goal? If it's sex, then you need to do a reevaluation.

    You may not be gay. Perhaps you are bi or even straight. Nothing wrong with that, you just need to figure out what you are.

    In Salt Lake City, you are in the worst place for a gay man. Don't expect anything there, unless with a lot of angst and issues,

    You wanna have a normal gay life, if that's what you are? Move somewhere else.


    Or he can be poly, pan, etc etc
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    Sep 03, 2010 2:07 AM GMT
    If you lie by not being up front with everything you said in this post, then HELL NO you shouldn't date a woman! Just because you're feeling down you don't have the right to fuck with someone elses feelings! Now if you tell her everything you've said here and she's down with a platonic "love affair", then by all means. To do anything less makes you no better than a mysoginistc wife beater IMO.

    Sorry if I seem harsh, but the suggestion of USING others to meet our emotional needs is sickening. Real relationships are give and take.
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    Sep 03, 2010 2:07 AM GMT


    You look like a fun person LOL.

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    Sep 03, 2010 2:08 AM GMT
    Yes by all means go date women. Leave the men for those of us that appreciate them!
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    Sep 03, 2010 2:12 AM GMT
    I looked at you're profile and you have stats listed as overweight. You don't look overweight at all imo
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    Sep 03, 2010 2:15 AM GMT
    You're 28.


    I reiterate: you are 28.
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    Sep 03, 2010 2:18 AM GMT
    MikeInSLC saidSeriously... I'm sure that I'm at my heart gay, but I haven't been able to make any strides at 28 in any serious dating let alone finding a match.

    I find connecting with women intellectually easier, and talking to gay men awkward. This is seriously confusing, as I'm sexually attracted to men, and not at all to women. And to top it off it has been even more so for some reason after coming out to friends and family. My dating has become scarce since. WHY!?!?!


    Because you're in SLC. You need to move away from the messed up SLC guys. Trust me, life is better on the outside.
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    Sep 03, 2010 2:25 AM GMT
    Which gets your dick hard? Women, men, or both?

    Date accordingly.
  • 2PecanDeBeurr...

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    Sep 03, 2010 2:26 AM GMT
    exactly
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    Sep 03, 2010 3:05 AM GMT
    if you're going to ask a woman out on a date you absolutely owe it to her to be upfront with her about your (confused?) sexuality. that's not something to spring on her later on.
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    Sep 03, 2010 3:08 AM GMT
    MikeInSLC said

    I find connecting with women intellectually easier,
    Quit dating 'children' and twinks...................
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    Sep 03, 2010 3:10 AM GMT
    it would be more constructive for you to have this conversation with a therapist, rather than a message board. just a thought.
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    Sep 03, 2010 3:19 AM GMT
    The last time I dated a woman I was upfront about being bi and not (at the time) interested in LTR. We ended up having an affair that lasted months. She totally appreciated my honesty and I had one of the funnest summers ever. But dude, seriously, the affairs like that fizzle quickly if the two of you are not into each other physically. But then again. There's only one way to find that out. Have fun! Keep an open mind.
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    Sep 03, 2010 3:40 AM GMT
    Mike, would you want to date someone who is completely unattracted to you sexually? Because this is what some poor girl would get from you. Stay the course; there are lots of good men out there.

    -Doug

    "This is seriously confusing, as I'm sexually attracted to men, and not at all to women"
  • mybud

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    Sep 03, 2010 4:11 AM GMT
    Dude...my advice.....don't start with women....been there... done that...In high school I hooked up with a bud I played high school sports with....it was sex...passion...aggression ...all rolled up into one....at the same time I was dating chicks....before going off to college....my bud told me he loved me...I freaked.....never saw him again...this caused years of dating chicks and sex that was lackin...Brah...your guy is out there...extend yourself more.....keep searching....don't back slide with chicks......my thoughts.....good luck.....BUD
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    Sep 03, 2010 4:14 AM GMT
    mybud saidDude...my advice.....don't start with women....been there... done that...In high school I hooked up with a bud I played high school sports with....it was sex...passion...aggression ...all rolled up into one....at the same time I was dating chicks....before going off to college....my bud told me he loved me...I freaked.....never saw him again...this caused years of dating chicks and sex that was lackin...Brah...your guy is out there...extend yourself more.....keep searching....don't back slide with chicks......my thoughts.....good luck.....BUD


    Yeah that guy in HS was me, BUD! ....... end joke/icon_neutral.gif
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    Sep 03, 2010 4:18 AM GMT
    Can't believe you guys don't see the problemo here.

    You need a fag hag in your life dude.

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    Sep 03, 2010 4:31 AM GMT
    fine fine; ill step it up


    ill date u..
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    Sep 03, 2010 4:50 AM GMT
    barriehomeboy saidCould you stick your tongue between her legs without gagging? Dude. Focus.


    Favorite post!!