Behavior Of Shy Men

  • NyRuinz

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    Sep 04, 2010 12:09 AM GMT
    Question for all the shy guys. There is this guy who has shown interest in me, but is very shy. He is very soft spoken, and whenever we talk he jumps from topic to topic, and shakes my hand like he's trying to break it and then darts off. He said he wanted to hang out with me one day and gave me his number, but whenever I call him he never returns my calls, but when he see's me in person he's acting like a love struck child. Do you think he is too nervous to be alone with me???
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    Sep 04, 2010 12:13 AM GMT
    Whatever he said.
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    Sep 04, 2010 12:19 AM GMT
    If you want to hang out with him make plans when you see him. "Hey, nice seeing you again. How about we get dinner tonight, around 6?". If he is unable to commit to anytime in the next week, fuck it. A commitment to dinner isn't that big a deal. If his shyness prevents him from meeting up with you you are not his therapist and required to fix his little brain.
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    Sep 04, 2010 12:20 AM GMT
    However, if you happen to actually BE a therapist I'd sell him a 10-pack of your $150 per 30 minutes talk sessions
  • jgymnast733

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    Sep 04, 2010 12:21 AM GMT
    Watch out, cause once you get together he's gonna tear you apart good..icon_exclaim.gif
  • NyRuinz

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    Sep 04, 2010 12:25 AM GMT
    jgymnast733 saidWatch out, cause once you get together he's gonna tear you apart good..icon_exclaim.gif


    Huh???icon_eek.gif
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    Sep 04, 2010 12:29 AM GMT
    Those shy guys are always the most aggressive guys when you get them alone. Fuckin pure munch time.
    So get some extra sleep and store up all your energy. He's so pent up, he'll set off the smoke alarms.
  • NyRuinz

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    Sep 04, 2010 12:32 AM GMT
    woofydude saidThose shy guys are always the most aggressive guys when you get them alone. Fuckin pure munch time.
    So get some extra sleep and store up all your energy. He's so pent up, he'll set off the smoke alarms.


    Now i"m scared he's built like a G.I Joe doll too, I may need to down a red bull lol.
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    Sep 04, 2010 12:35 AM GMT
    NyRuinz said
    woofydude saidThose shy guys are always the most aggressive guys when you get them alone. Fuckin pure munch time.
    So get some extra sleep and store up all your energy. He's so pent up, he'll set off the smoke alarms.


    Now i"m scared he's built like a G.I Joe doll too, I may need to down a red bull lol.


    With no genitals?
  • metta

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    Sep 04, 2010 12:44 AM GMT
    just a couple of basic general rules from someone that has always been shy:

    - don't play games. be straight forward and honest with him. if you just want to hookup with him, then tell him and ask him if is interested. If you are interested in the possibility of going out on a date....then tell him. He may feel more comfortable once he understands what you want and learns a little more about what kind of person you are.

    - don't pressure him...you do and he will probably back off.

    - from what you have described, it sounds like he is intimidated by you. A nice honest casual compliment about him can go a long way.

    - and yeah....you should probably take the batteries out of your smoke alarms... ;) (j/k)


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    Sep 04, 2010 12:59 AM GMT
    There's going to be a hot tryst in the old town soon
  • GQjock

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    Sep 04, 2010 1:03 AM GMT
    viveutvivas saidJust fuck him and put him out of his misery. icon_razz.gif


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    That was good

    But seriously ..... just get him alone somewhere with and talk
    He'll come around

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    Sep 04, 2010 1:27 AM GMT
    NyRuinz saidQuestion for all the shy guys. There is this guy who has shown interest in me, but is very shy. He is very soft spoken, and whenever we talk he jumps from topic to topic, and shakes my hand like he's trying to break it and then darts off. He said he wanted to hang out with me one day and gave me his number, but whenever I call him he never returns my calls, but when he see's me in person he's acting like a love struck child. Do you think he is too nervous to be alone with me???


    He's too nervous because he really likes you. In a way, maybe he's insecure... And gets that way around you because he doesn't want to fuck it up. However, his shyness could be what is making him fuck up after all. How do I know, personal experience? Yeah, maybe. Except that I was the shy guy icon_sad.gif
  • NyRuinz

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    Sep 04, 2010 2:33 AM GMT
    CHIdude said
    NyRuinz saidQuestion for all the shy guys. There is this guy who has shown interest in me, but is very shy. He is very soft spoken, and whenever we talk he jumps from topic to topic, and shakes my hand like he's trying to break it and then darts off. He said he wanted to hang out with me one day and gave me his number, but whenever I call him he never returns my calls, but when he see's me in person he's acting like a love struck child. Do you think he is too nervous to be alone with me???


    He's too nervous because he really likes you. In a way, maybe he's insecure... And gets that way around you because he doesn't want to fuck it up. However, his shyness could be what is making him fuck up after all. How do I know, personal experience? Yeah, maybe. Except that I was the shy guy icon_sad.gif


    Well that I know he definitely is, because if he see's me talking to another guy (friendly convo) he gives me the look of death.
  • Kev67

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    Sep 04, 2010 2:43 AM GMT
    metta8 saidjust a couple of basic general rules from someone that has always been shy:

    - don't play games. be straight forward and honest with him.




    I'm in agreement here. I used to be really shy, and when a guy was really direct and just said what he wanted and was specific, it was a big relief. If you want to go on a date, I'd recommend suggesting something very specific, like dinner or coffee at a specific place and time. If you're looking for a hookup only, just ask if you can come over, and again be specific with day and time. It doesn't mean it will always be that way, but it will get past the initial mixed signals phase.

    It always worked for me!
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    Sep 04, 2010 2:45 AM GMT
    Give him time to come around,....patience is key with shy people
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    Sep 04, 2010 2:50 AM GMT
    NyRuinz saidbecause if he see's me talking to another guy (friendly convo) he gives me the look of death.

    If he's giving you the look of death when he's too shy to talk to you, imagine what may happen when he's got the nerve to speak his mind. Perhaps him being too shy to talk is a blessing in disguise.
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    Sep 04, 2010 2:53 AM GMT
    He's insecure, afraid he's not good enough for you, afraid of rejection. Make a positive move, and it doesn't have to be big, like asking him for coffee.
  • NyRuinz

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    Sep 04, 2010 3:00 AM GMT
    Agamemnon saidGive him time to come around,....patience is key with shy people


    That's what I've been thinking, and to be honest I get nervous around him too, but I suck it up and just be myself
  • metta

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    Sep 04, 2010 5:32 AM GMT
    NyRuinz said
    CHIdude said
    NyRuinz saidQuestion for all the shy guys. There is this guy who has shown interest in me, but is very shy. He is very soft spoken, and whenever we talk he jumps from topic to topic, and shakes my hand like he's trying to break it and then darts off. He said he wanted to hang out with me one day and gave me his number, but whenever I call him he never returns my calls, but when he see's me in person he's acting like a love struck child. Do you think he is too nervous to be alone with me???


    He's too nervous because he really likes you. In a way, maybe he's insecure... And gets that way around you because he doesn't want to fuck it up. However, his shyness could be what is making him fuck up after all. How do I know, personal experience? Yeah, maybe. Except that I was the shy guy icon_sad.gif


    Well that I know he definitely is, because if he see's me talking to another guy (friendly convo) he gives me the look of death.


    hmmm....shyness and jealousy are two different things. I have always been shy but I really don't have any jealousy issues.
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    Sep 04, 2010 5:44 AM GMT
    To me it sounds more like some sort of anxiety he's experiencing than shyness. I have anxiety and I have a tendency to be very reserved when I'm around large groups especially, but when I do engage I'm usually bouncing off the walls so to speak and everything intentionally comes out at a million miles an hour. People probably think I'm nuts, but fortunately I've gotten to know a few new people and have a few new positive life experiences over the past few years, and the anxiety has faded.

    Once he gets comfortable around you, his behavior will probably change even though he may still be a bit high strung. Usually what breaks the ice for me and brings me down out of overdrive is when someone cracks a joke and makes me laugh.

    That's just kind of the impression I got.
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    Sep 04, 2010 6:48 AM GMT
    woofydude saidThose shy guys are always the most aggressive guys when you get them alone. Fuckin pure munch time.
    So get some extra sleep and store up all your energy. He's so pent up, he'll set off the smoke alarms.


    Yup Im EXTREMELY shy around guys, do this is definitely true
  • d_1M

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    Sep 04, 2010 8:14 AM GMT
    GQjock said
    viveutvivas saidJust fuck him and put him out of his misery. icon_razz.gif


    rofl.gif

    That was good

    But seriously ..... just get him alone somewhere with and talk
    He'll come around



    you sure he doesnt have a boyfriend?
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    Sep 04, 2010 10:09 PM GMT
    Another former shy guy here

    Be direct and be patient. Don't send any mixed signals because that will result in him over analyzing or he might think you're not interested in him.

    Take the lead and schedule a first date so you can get to know each other better. He'll open up to you the more time you spend with him.

    And yes, shy guys do have a lot of pent up sexual energy. Be prepared for when the opportunity for real sex presents itself. Two shy guys= best sex in the world.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 04, 2010 10:36 PM GMT
    I feel I need to chime in. We see the world as a reflection of ourselves. Shy guy gushing and being socially awkward does not always mean sex pending to happen.

    We all get a man crush every now and then but sometimes all we want is to just talk or someone to pay attention to us.

    I think you are going into this with too many expectations. Him not returning calls is a bad sign. If someone has a crush on you and you call them you know they will return your call , yes even the shy ones do. We are not aspergers, just shy for god's sake.

    Offer to meet him for coffee or friendly little lunch next time you see him.

    Then we shall see what the story is.

    If I had sex with all the people I get hyper and talkative around, there would be another name for me. Believe me sometimes we just want to entertain people and be cooky on purpose, it does not mean we want to hump you until smoke alarms go off. Lol.