somedaytoo saidJust wondering if anyone has held been significantly involved in church or even held a position when they came out. How has the knowledge of being gay affected things??
* Please no church bashing guys. There's enough threads already around for that.
I've never personally been in the position you describe. Some of my gay friends have, and lost minor lay positions they held in their churches, and a couple of them got kicked out of the choir.
My grown partner was attending Catholic Mass one time with his mother, who knew he was gay. The priest started preaching from the pulpit against gays, saying how sinful they were and condemned to Hell. My partner got up from the pew and walked out, never to return.
There was a comment above about not having to publish our orientation in the parrish bulletin. Indeed we don't. But what happens what we're being condemned and preached against? Sit there and accept that?
I'm not a believer or a regular church goer. But I like the atmosphere and the spirit at a gay-friendly church, and I'll attend for that experience alone. The first MCC I ever attended brought me to tears, so that I had to flee to the back of the church, when I saw gay & lesbian couples going down the aisle openly arm-in-arm to receive communion. It remains ones of my strongest & most emotional memories.
In addition to the gay MCC, many churches are gay-friendly, like the Unitarian in most communities, and there are others, including among the more main-line denominations. We even have some renegade Catholic priests here who run their own gay ministry, though you may question their legitimacy if you are Catholic. We also have a gay Jewish synagogue that I've attended, and those services are beautiful, too.
I see no reason why you can't attend church and not have to hide being gay. On the contrary, attending services AS an openly gay man, than in spite of being gay, and be a wonderfully liberating experience. Without leaving your present church yet, I would first experiment with attending a gay or gay-friendly church. Maybe you will find your answer there.