Good opening lines

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    Sep 05, 2010 6:09 AM GMT
    Im curious to know, what do you think is a good thing to say to a stranger you would like to initiate a conversation with?

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    Sep 05, 2010 6:14 AM GMT
    Ive often used, "do you wanna dance" but that only works on girls in a public (non-gay only) situation lol... I heard "how do you like the music here" is a good one
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    Sep 05, 2010 6:21 AM GMT
    I've only once ever deliberately engaged another man in public. It was an "omnisexual" nightclub, so both straight and gay friendly. He was across the room, and I pointed at him. A long outstretched-arm point at him. He giggled and looked down. I made a finger gesture after pointing at him to come to me. He just kept giggling and looking at the floor. He made me walk all the damn way over there. I don't know, I was drunk. I don't do these things ever...as in...go out and engage people. But I never said anything.
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    Sep 05, 2010 6:25 AM GMT
    Too many variables...different places require different approaches.
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    Sep 05, 2010 6:39 AM GMT
    I once got a date after telling a guy there was bird shit on the bench he was about to sit on. He came and sat on the bench i was occupying, we started chatting and went out that weekend. Wound up dating for about a month.

    A month of my life I'll never get back.

    Next time I think I'll just let em sit in the bird plop.

    However, in terms of getting a foot in the door...really random comments seem to work best for me.
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    Sep 05, 2010 6:44 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidToo many variables...different places require different approaches.


    Im talking about a public place, not specifically for gays, when your out, say for instance, a concert

    But you may as well come up with some for say a supermarket, Im not picky icon_smile.gif

    Unfortunately the "pointing" thing would not work here... its considered impolite to point in Curacao icon_biggrin.gif, but it was a cute story M!
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    Sep 05, 2010 6:44 AM GMT
    Runninchlt saidI once got a date after telling a guy there was bird shit on the bench he was about to sit on. He came and sat on the bench i was occupying, we started chatting and went out that weekend. Wound up dating for about a month.

    A month of my life I'll never get back.

    Next time I think I'll just let em sit in the bird plop.

    However, in terms of getting a foot in the door...really random comments seem to work best for me.


    I liked this post. It was cute and relevant with a delightful bitter twist. Like a well mixed drink.
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    Sep 05, 2010 6:45 AM GMT
    amar_m said
    paulflexes saidToo many variables...different places require different approaches.


    Im talking about a public place, not specifically for gays, when your out, say for instance, a concert

    But you may as well come up with some for say a supermarket, Im not picky icon_smile.gif

    Unfortunately the "pointing" thing would not work here... its considered impolite to point in Curacao icon_biggrin.gif, but it was a cute story M!


    It's impolite everywhere icon_razz.gif I was drunk and confused.
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    Sep 05, 2010 6:49 AM GMT
    amar_m said
    paulflexes saidToo many variables...different places require different approaches.


    Im talking about a public place, not specifically for gays, when your out, say for instance, a concert

    But you may as well come up with some for say a supermarket, Im not picky icon_smile.gif

    Unfortunately the "pointing" thing would not work here... its considered impolite to point in Curacao icon_biggrin.gif, but it was a cute story M!
    In that case, I generally use situational events, such as "man, this checkout line is taking too long!" or "damn bro, you got some great arms!" (when the guy is in a sleeveless shirt and obviously works out) Amazingly, no guy has ever been offended by me complimenting his arms. In fact, that's exactly how I met my best friend. icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 05, 2010 6:49 AM GMT
    Well the question came up because when Im out I sometimes find myself exchanging looks with someone, but people dont approach me, so I figure it must be up to me to approach them or something lol, I just find it wierd to approach a stranger and say something random, usually I just meet people through being introduced by others, so I just thought I could use some casual conversation starters
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    Sep 05, 2010 6:56 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidHELLO!

    That always seems to work for me.


    Lol that is just awkward saying that to a stranger.. and having nothing to talk about afterward hehe
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    Sep 05, 2010 6:58 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    amar_m said
    paulflexes saidToo many variables...different places require different approaches.


    Im talking about a public place, not specifically for gays, when your out, say for instance, a concert

    But you may as well come up with some for say a supermarket, Im not picky icon_smile.gif

    Unfortunately the "pointing" thing would not work here... its considered impolite to point in Curacao icon_biggrin.gif, but it was a cute story M!
    In that case, I generally use situational events, such as "man, this checkout line is taking too long!" or "damn bro, you got some great arms!" (when the guy is in a sleeveless shirt and obviously works out) Amazingly, no guy has ever been offended by me complimenting his arms. In fact, that's exactly how I met my best friend. icon_wink.gif


    OK lets be specific, your exchanging looks from across different areas of the room, how could you excuse the fact that you just go over there and talk to someone....? (did I mention I find that awkward and strange? lol)
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    Sep 05, 2010 6:58 AM GMT
    Ok so you approach them and you go "Kiss me. Kiss me long, kiss me hard, kiss me wet, but kiss me NOW. KISS ME DAMMIT! TAKE ME!!" then you can talk about the weather and lady gaga.
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    Sep 05, 2010 7:31 AM GMT
    meh I feel these things are all inapproppriate... "kiss me" is no what Im after when I first meet someone "yo man" is much too casual and is only for close friends, "hello" is just awkward if you dont know the person and have no reason to engage in conversation ....

    Man, its so much easier just sitting the bar being the bar potatoe lol
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    Sep 05, 2010 8:03 AM GMT
    My favorite line is "hi", or else some context driven wit, delivered with a James Bond accent and a smile.



    I tend not to let them see what I am packing so quickly though
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    Sep 05, 2010 8:06 AM GMT
    lol, ok Im going back to the bar and drinking my tea... where I dont bother anyone, nice and comfort zone yummy lol
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    Sep 05, 2010 8:10 AM GMT
    amar_m saidOK lets be specific, your exchanging looks from across different areas of the room, how could you excuse the fact that you just go over there and talk to someone....? (did I mention I find that awkward and strange? lol)
    You don't. You wait til the opportunity arises, or engineer an opportunity. That way it's completely normal and expected, rather than unprovoked and creepy.
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    Sep 05, 2010 9:24 AM GMT
    Engineer an opportunity???? *yawn* ok by now Im losing interest, this is toooo much thinking I will have to do.. appreciate the advice though, but this is gettig way too complicated for my taste! I agree with Ciar, just get drunk and point, in my case, pretend to point at my cup of tea lol

    *Picks up his tea and newspaper and reads on*
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    Sep 05, 2010 3:04 PM GMT
    If they have a drink in their hand...make some silly comment about what they are drinking (obviously not pejorative)...you could always just say, "Hi, my name is _______" and a willing person will find a way to keep the conversation going, usually by introducing themselves icon_wink.gif

    After that, the stupid game of twenty questions never really works out to your advantage...just hope both of you are somewhat buzzed and the conversation will grow legs. Its always good to observe your surroundings and make some comment about the people, the place, whatever is necessary. And remember, you can always invent something...say you just got back into town from _____ and decided to head out tonight...that will create an opportunity for them to ask YOU an open ended question. Besides, making a little white lie about a non-existent getaway is no worse than dropping those stupid one-liners...and its always been infinitely more successful for me.
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    Sep 05, 2010 3:14 PM GMT
    this doesn't quire relate to the original post, but i overheard someone use a fanstasic line last weekend. talk, dark & handsome walked over to built Latino guy who was standing next to me, smiled, and said, "whatever you want to do tonight, let's make it happen."
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    Sep 05, 2010 3:17 PM GMT
    Don't ask me, I was hitting on a str8 guy all night last night.
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    Sep 05, 2010 3:23 PM GMT
    onejock said "whatever you want to do tonight, let's make it happen."



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    And thats something they say to a stranger? And it works? WAY too straightforward for here, Im flabbered!

    This thread is getting interesting lol
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    Sep 05, 2010 4:26 PM GMT
    I go for the more direct approach. Just saying "hello, I'm Jason. May I ask your name?" the worst that can happen is that the person says "no". Or I'm straight, which hasn't stopped me before. I had a guy come up to me who really didn't care for my name, just asked if I was interested in sleeping with him. A little too direct with his approach for my taste.
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    Sep 05, 2010 4:38 PM GMT
    Brah....being honest...I'd come up to ya and say....Hey...saw ya from across the room and your eyes drew me in.....I'm Steve....my plan
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    Sep 05, 2010 4:46 PM GMT
    amar_m saidIm curious to know, what do you think is a good thing to say to a stranger you would like to initiate a conversation with?

    wow, i have never used a opening line. i don't believe in using game to get someone. then again, i have never had to do it either.