Gay men really just want to be trashy women

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    Sep 05, 2010 5:19 PM GMT
    I went on this really whack date the other day, and the guy was completely straight lookin and weve talked on the phone ect he's cool. but i met him at a bar to get some drinks and when i got there he already had a few...

    he started speaking like those quacked out chicks on the bad girls club and started doing the hand gestures saying "mmhhmm" alot and it got kind of embarrassing, hes a cool dude when he was sober, but as i looked at the guys in the club (its been a long ass time since ive gone out) i noticed all of them were acting like ghetto trashy chicks. whats with this trend lately?

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    Sep 05, 2010 5:27 PM GMT
    waxon said...i noticed all of them were acting like ghetto trashy chicks. whats with this trend lately?

    I haven't noticed such a trend. But then I never go to bars where 20-somethings hang out. I've seen no change in outward behavior, and really queeny, loud guys usually get eye-rolls from everyone, as if to say: Haven't you gotten the memo? It's not the 1970s anymore.

    In his particular case, though, it may have also been a result of nervousness and alcohol. I wouldn't be surprised if he's kicking himself right now for having messed up with you.
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    Sep 05, 2010 5:27 PM GMT
    waxon saidI went on this really whack date the other day, and the guy was completely straight lookin and weve talked on the phone ect he's cool. but i met him at a bar to get some drinks and when i got there he already had a few...

    he started speaking like those quacked out chicks on the bad girls club and started doing the hand gestures saying "mmhhmm" alot and it got kind of embarrassing, hes a cool dude when he was sober, but as i looked at the guys in the club (its been a long ass time since ive gone out) i noticed all of them were acting like ghetto trashy chicks. whats with this trend lately?



    Sounds like an awful evening! Yecch.

    I'm with you...if I wanted to go out with a girl, I'd go out with a girl. Nelly queens turn me off faster than pussy.
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    Sep 05, 2010 5:31 PM GMT
    Club life is fluid. Go a different night and you'll see a different crowd.
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    Sep 05, 2010 6:27 PM GMT
    yeah I'm more reserved , i'll dance and ill laugh and hang, but I'm not that animated and i really did think he was cute and nice and i went to the bathroom and came back and he was on about how were not a match cuz clearly im not interested and how he thinks im gorgeous and its too bad it didnt work out...meanwhile in my head I'm thinking "its date #1"...
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    Sep 05, 2010 6:29 PM GMT
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    waxon saidI went on this really whack date the other day, and the guy was completely straight lookin and weve talked on the phone ect he's cool. but i met him at a bar to get some drinks and when i got there he already had a few...

    he started speaking like those quacked out chicks on the bad girls club and started doing the hand gestures saying "mmhhmm" alot and it got kind of embarrassing, hes a cool dude when he was sober, but as i looked at the guys in the club (its been a long ass time since ive gone out) i noticed all of them were acting like ghetto trashy chicks. whats with this trend lately?



    Sounds like an awful evening! Yecch.

    I'm with you...if I wanted to go out with a girl, I'd go out with a girl. Nelly queens turn me off faster than pussy.


    its not really a matter of acting like a girl. i mean i get it theres fem guys and masc guys i dont care I'm down with both, im not attracted to femmies but theyre fucking funny sometimes and cool

    . but for some reason with the guys my age they think its cool to act trashy and uneducated and always talkin shit, i want my dude to sound educated...
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    Sep 05, 2010 6:32 PM GMT
    Oh, gay men have been doing that since time immemorial. Watch classic movies like The Women or All About Eve and you will see gaggles of catty women that have spawned both generations of drag queens and bar patrons. It is part of the bar culture. Though, it seems today we are a little less Joan Crawford and a little more Queen Latifah. It is just something you have to work with.

    I would be more concerned that you met a guy on a date and before you even showed up he was drunk.
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    Sep 05, 2010 7:22 PM GMT
    Yeah I usually go out on first date/meeting over a drink or two...the person lets their guard down and you can see if they still act the same way when a lil tipsy...I'm just not into fem guys when it comes to dating, just my taste, can't explain it...But some fem guys will try to "butch" it up because they know that I like masc dudes...I'd rather you just be you...not every connection has to be a love connection...