Answer this?????

  • mybud

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    Sep 05, 2010 6:40 PM GMT
    You know the forum questions.....Would you cuddle?....would you fuck?....Why do some guys get offended when you answer truthfully?....My view.... it has to do with their low self esteem....But I want to hear other viewpoints......BUD
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    Sep 05, 2010 6:44 PM GMT
    because gays dont like to be told no?

    i answer those once in a while but i always forget to check back to see what ppl say and by that time theres 1000 posts that i dont feel like sorting through...

    the world may never know
  • tuffguyndc

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    Sep 05, 2010 6:49 PM GMT
    i never respond to those forums because i think they are stupid. they remind me of the cosmo and vogue magazine questions about do you what your man is thinking? or if your man is doing this than your relationships might be in trouble. i would rather respond to something with a little more intriguing than would you cuddle with the guy above you.

    I will agree with waxon about gay men not liking to being told no. I mean most gay guys are ridiculous. I think most act as if they are supposed to get everything they want which is clearly no realistic thinking
  • Timbales

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    Sep 05, 2010 6:52 PM GMT
    waxon saidbecause gays dont like to be told no?



    I don't think anyone likes to feel rejected.

    to the OP: If they guy above you in those threads doesn't cut it for you, can't you just not answer?
  • MuscleComeBac...

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    Sep 05, 2010 7:02 PM GMT
    Many of the topics you refer to are the equivalent of "do these jeans make my ass look huge?" And on a public forum, where civility rightly is a good tact to take against just about any prevailing wind, telling the guy above you that he's either got an ass sufficient to take out advertising, or that he has none at all, goes against the egalitarian model.

    No matter how much of a jock any of us truly are, there's a timid chap inside living in fear of once again having to stand in line waiting to be picked for dodge-ball, and ending up being the begrudging last choice of the team captain on whom you have a secret crush.

    School is out, life is in session, don't beg the question if you already know the answer is unpleasant.

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    Sep 05, 2010 7:27 PM GMT
    Timberoo said
    waxon saidbecause gays dont like to be told no?



    I don't think anyone likes to feel rejected.

    to the OP: If they guy above you in those threads doesn't cut it for you, can't you just not answer?


    no1 likes to be told know but gay (or the ones my age that i know of ) tend do have the mindset of " everyone wants me"
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    Sep 05, 2010 8:11 PM GMT
    waxon said
    Timberoo said
    waxon saidbecause gays dont like to be told no?



    I don't think anyone likes to feel rejected.

    to the OP: If they guy above you in those threads doesn't cut it for you, can't you just not answer?


    no1 likes to be told know but gay (or the ones my age that i know of ) tend do have the mindset of " everyone wants me"


    Lol not the ones I know, sometimes thats the act they put on because other gay guys seem to like confidence and all that
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    Sep 05, 2010 8:58 PM GMT
    I think, whether it is rational or not, most do it, even if it is subconsciously, for affirmation that they are attractive to other guys. The truth can be hard to take.

    Personaly, I get a kick out of seeing the responses I get although I'll admit getting passed on or told no isn't fun!:
  • turtleneckjoc...

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    Sep 05, 2010 9:06 PM GMT
    sashaman saidI think, whether it is rational or not, most do it, even if it is subconsciously, for affirmation that they are attractive to other guys. The truth can be hard to take.

    Personaly, I get a kick out of seeing the responses I get although I'll admit getting passed on or told no isn't fun!:


    And who would pass on you or tell you "no!" Those responses are saved for me!

    It's a little disheartening to be turned down sometimes, and it's not because of low self-esteem (as seen earlier). I think everyone, regardless of their age or looks, strives to be accepted and it's those that have the closed minds that turn away those people. I believe that everyone at the table has something to offer.....even you mybud!
  • bmw0

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    Sep 05, 2010 9:15 PM GMT
    My opinion is if you can't take the truth, don't post. People seem to get so offended when they hear the truth, then get so mad when they are lied to. It would be a good thing if everyone would understand that we are not everyones type. Not being someone's type DOES NOT make you ugly. The next person you meet might find you to be the most beautiful person on earth. icon_biggrin.gif
    I also don't believe in leagues. Ever walk down the street and see a couple (gay or straight) and think, what is he doing with her? or what is she doing with him? If that don't prove my point i don't know what will. So smile and take rejection, no matter who you are you will most likely be someones perfect guy. icon_smile.gif
  • mybud

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    Sep 10, 2010 5:11 PM GMT
    I'm right....yup
  • owen19832006

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    Sep 10, 2010 5:22 PM GMT
    why would anyone get offended? its a game! and it reflects people's preferences! I'm not everyones cup of tea, but everyone is not mine either! we all have our likes and dislikes and people we are attracted to, in all fairness, you would need to have a very low self esteem to let a comment on a 'networking' website affect you in any way shape or form!
  • JESIE

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    Sep 10, 2010 5:34 PM GMT
    Jesie:
    I'm not the best looking
    I'm not the fittest person
    I'm not the best cut/toned/athletic person
    but
    I am me
    I inspire to be better
    and my personality makes up for my looks (winks)

    Advice:
    just be you
    your not going to please everyone, the art of learning from rejection=growth.
    people need to get over it
    and put a god d*mn smile on your face icon_biggrin.gif


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    Sep 10, 2010 6:10 PM GMT
    what Jesie said, very smart manicon_biggrin.gif,

    you know its so cliched but true, looks arent everything,they fade quicker than you think,
    so it doesnt really matter a fuck what anyone thinks of you physically, your personality/ attitude is key to being happy in this world not your looks cause EVERYONE has silly little hang ups about their appearance (my big ears used to drive me nuts but im over it now)..

    just live and be happy
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    Sep 10, 2010 6:25 PM GMT
    You know that old trope of the wife asking her husband "how do I look?"
    Well, those threads are the same. Just like the husband can't answer "that arm flab is just pouring out of you sleeve darling and I have seen truck stop hookers with better makeup" so too you can't give a truthful answer.

    Diplomacy is a better quality than honesty for honesty's sake.
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    Sep 10, 2010 6:44 PM GMT
    tuffguyndc saidi never respond to those forums because i think they are stupid. they remind me of the cosmo and vogue magazine questions about do you what your man is thinking? or if your man is doing this than your relationships might be in trouble. i would rather respond to something with a little more intriguing than would you cuddle with the guy above you.

    I will agree with waxon about gay men not liking to being told no. I mean most gay guys are ridiculous. I think most act as if they are supposed to get everything they want which is clearly no realistic thinking


    OOOH, HE TOLD Y'ALL!!!
    *snaps fingers high in the air semicircularly!*
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    Sep 10, 2010 6:47 PM GMT
    But seriously, lame stuff like that i just don't respond.
    If it is something lighthearted and fun, okay, sure. But i know some of us here take it a little too serious, then i go 'okay, whatever' and move on to the next forums.