Is it bad that my Dad is one of my best friends?

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    Sep 06, 2010 2:34 AM GMT
    So for the past decade I have talked to my Dad on the phone literally ever other day at least, but I've lived distances away from him. Now, I moved closer to him only about an hour away, and I currently call at least once a day. I don't really have any connections here. Maybe one which is good, but do you think this is a bad thing having my Dad being my best friend?

    We are both off of work tomorrow so I'm driving down to see himicon_smile.gif I think I might ask him if I call him too much..?..

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    Sep 06, 2010 2:37 AM GMT
    If you don't call him, does he call you?

    And no, it's not bad to have your Dad as a best friend.
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    Sep 06, 2010 2:39 AM GMT
    I bet 90% of guys here will be jealous and wish they had such a great relationship with their dads. So don't start seeing an issue where there is none and enjoy what you have. Seems like your dad has accepted you as an adult.
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    Sep 06, 2010 2:41 AM GMT
    If he hasn't heard from me in a day because I do get busy. He will call and leave me a VM. Saying, "I love you, just seeing how you are."

    Where I came from I had a great group of friends whom I still call them mostly on a daily basis, but it's a 3hr time gap. So, now I'm here with no connections so I've kind of gotten needy I guess towards my Dad.

    He asks me if I've met anyone yet at least biweekly, but I explain to him I'm kind of enjoying learning to love myself again. He assures me that I will.
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    Sep 06, 2010 2:44 AM GMT
    Does your mom still give him head? ...just saying.
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    Sep 06, 2010 2:45 AM GMT
    I'm not as close to my mother. She's got her own life. I have mine.
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    Sep 06, 2010 2:46 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]bhp91126 said[/cite]I bet 90% of guys here will be jealous and wish they had such a great relationship with their dads. .../quote]I'm in that 90%, sorta. I do have a kinda relationship like that with my mom (dad died in '94...never was close to him). I can't wait for my mom and her sisters to come boy-watch with me at the beach. Mom chastises me for being gay (I'm going to hell, ya know), but loves my taste in men. icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 06, 2010 2:50 AM GMT
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    Caslon15000 saidDoes your mom still give him head? ...just saying.

    Cass!!!!!!!!!
    What the hell was that all about?
    Tacky and uncalled for...icon_eek.gif

    Ah, cool your jets. ... I was just jerking y'all's chain. ... I knew somebody would respond. ... icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 06, 2010 3:20 AM GMT
    Caslon15000 saidDoes your mom still give him head? ...just saying.


    Don't worry. I'm the most inappropriate fucker ever. (When I'm not dealing with patients)
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    Sep 06, 2010 6:00 AM GMT
    bhp91126 saidI bet 90% of guys here will be jealous and wish they had such a great relationship with their dads. So don't start seeing an issue where there is none and enjoy what you have. Seems like your dad has accepted you as an adult.


    Ya, I wish my relationship with my Dad was like this... he's the strong silent type I suppose. And I guess I'm kind of like him so it's hard for us to open up to each other but I'm working on it. You are very lucky to have a relationship like this with your Dad, me and my Dad barely talk, and when we do it's about work. Nothing wrong with that at all, try and keep it that way!
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    Sep 06, 2010 6:09 AM GMT
    I've a great relationship with my parents, it's been an amazing plus in my life. Treasure the time you have with them icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 06, 2010 6:21 AM GMT
    No. The time you share with your father is precious and special. Do not take it for granted. Share as much as you can. Say "I love you" to him as much as you can. You will never regret it, and will cherish that time and those words for the res of your life.

    You are blessed.

    Alan
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    Sep 06, 2010 6:21 AM GMT
    It has already been said a few times; treasure the time you have with him and enjoy the calls. I was lucky enough the last few years of my fathers life to be in the same work camp as him. Most nights we had supper together and spent a couple of hours talking and watching movies. While there were issues (like any relationship) it is time that I would not trade for anything and left me with memories that can not be replaced.

    There are no expectations and no ulterior motives with this relationship- relax and enjoy the ride- stop questioning if anybody else thinks it is bad. He has been supportive and a friend for three decades through the good and the bad- be grateful for the relationship that most people would envy.
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    Sep 06, 2010 6:26 AM GMT
    my dad was my best friend till i came out. then we didnt talk for a while and now we r getting back to the best friend thing again. i dont know if it will ever be like before but he is triing. and no it isnt bad that is the best and i am so happy for u.
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    Sep 06, 2010 6:35 AM GMT
    bhp91126 saidI bet 90% of guys here will be jealous and wish they had such a great relationship with their dads. So don't start seeing an issue where there is none and enjoy what you have. Seems like your dad has accepted you as an adult.


    this.
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    Sep 06, 2010 3:00 PM GMT
    Both of us miss our Dads, who passed away within six months of each other.

    What you have is pretty special, and your Dad obviously thinks so too. You guys are making memories which one day will be all one of you has. icon_wink.gif


    -Doug
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    Sep 06, 2010 3:03 PM GMT
    My dad died 7 years ago today, and I've only recently began to be able to forgive him for everything that happened between us. You're very lucky.
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    Sep 06, 2010 3:17 PM GMT
    I think that's amazing - figuring since my relationship with my father isn't as strong. Like many per say - I'm a momma's boy. However, relationship with my parents are amazing...I love them unconditionally.
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    Sep 06, 2010 3:18 PM GMT
    bhp91126 saidI bet 90% of guys here will be jealous and wish they had such a great relationship with their dads. So don't start seeing an issue where there is none and enjoy what you have. Seems like your dad has accepted you as an adult.


    Yup, I sure wish i did icon_smile.gif
  • Leo123

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    Sep 06, 2010 3:21 PM GMT
    You're lucky to have your dad as your best friend.

    Some guys turn gay because their dads didn't give them much attention growing up. Treasure this.
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    Sep 06, 2010 3:26 PM GMT
    No it's great, both my Dad and Mum are my BFFs!
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    Sep 06, 2010 3:27 PM GMT
    That's great that your dad loves you so very much. I have two sons and before they went to Afghan, I would talk to them daily via text or phone. A love of a father to his son is a deep bond. Enjoy it son, for one day he'll be gone.
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    Sep 06, 2010 3:30 PM GMT
    Enjoy your relationship with your father while you can. It's great that you are in touch every day.

    As far as wondering if that's a bad thing, NO it is not. You only have one father, and it sounds like he cares for you a great deal. Revel in it! Don't let anyone come between you, and don't listen to anyone that tells you that it's not a good thing.
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    Sep 06, 2010 3:31 PM GMT
    I am a little jealous. I dont know how i would react if my father called me. We live 20 minutes apart but our phone conversations usually last 40 seconds. and 10 is awkward silence. He isnt a very talkative person unless he is in front of his church ministering.
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    Sep 06, 2010 3:35 PM GMT
    I think it's great you have such a good relationship with your Dad. I have always talked to mine almost every day. We've always gotten along well, minus the usual Father-son tensions...LOL