first timer needing advice

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    Sep 07, 2010 7:03 AM GMT
    so i met a guy on craigslist and i've been emailing him about fucking in the near future (like next week), and since it's a fetish of mine he asked his friend and so it's gonna be a threesome if i decide to go through with it. I'm nervous mainly because i;m bi-curious and i want to experience something different. Since this is a craigslist encounter should I take extra precautions? what brand of condoms offer the best protection? can i suck them off without them wearing a condom and be safe? yeah... i'm kinda nervous because not only am i receiving my first fucking, but it involves 2 guys icon_eek.gif
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    Sep 07, 2010 11:35 AM GMT
    OK I just had to respond...

    In fact, oral sex has rarely been reported to cause transmission of HIV... But its been reported yes
  • trvlmscl

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    Sep 07, 2010 11:48 AM GMT
    Dude, baby steps.

    ESPECIALLY if you are hooking up thru craigslist, try only one-on-one first. Don't settle for less if "less" shows up at your door. If it works out and you are excited for more, only then would I suggest that you try a 3-way.
  • jlly_rnchr

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    Sep 07, 2010 12:05 PM GMT
    I don't endorse this at all. I hate to be a debbie downer, but this is not a good avenue to walk down to explore your feelings.
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    Sep 07, 2010 1:25 PM GMT
    STOP - DO NOT PASS GO Your first time should be with someone you know personally and have established some trust with. Chatting online doesn't satisfy this requirement. You could get yourself into a BAD situation with one relatively speaking "unknown" guy [from Craigs list] and his friend [insert psycho killer] who is totally unknown to you.
  • trackrocks

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    Sep 07, 2010 1:34 PM GMT
    I completely agree with the above statements!!!!!!!!
  • d_1M

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    Sep 07, 2010 2:04 PM GMT
    JustZeke saidSTOP - DO NOT PASS GO Your first time should be with someone you know personally and have established some trust with. Chatting online doesn't satisfy this requirement. You could get yourself into a BAD situation with one relatively speaking "unknown" guy [from Craigs list] and his friend [insert psycho killer] who is totally unknown to you.


    ok never done it i will never do it.

    but

    my friend in mexico where is even more dangerous does this kind of stuff
    1 he makes sure to tell some one who is meeting
    2 he makes sure some one knows WHERE is he going to be
    3 he always do safe sex regardless or topping or bottoming

    still you could get this done in a more safe ground, like some have already said, and not take any less like said also. and this guy im quoting is actually telling you loose it first to some one you know i guess haha why to give it to a estranger



  • Leo123

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    Sep 07, 2010 2:18 PM GMT
    If you want to do this then I think you should. Don't hold back on your urges -you've been doing that for a long time..!

    Now, you do need to be safe, yes. Choose the right places and the right attitude for this.

    Meet the guys in a public place first and head to a hotel room. I wouldn't suggest someone's place, specially if located in shady neighborhoods.

    Always use condoms for anal sex. (good brand condoms bought in a drugstore). Buy some KY lubricant (very important). Do NOT butt fuck without some lube. It feels better and the condom might break if you don't have it.

    For oral sex, there's low STD risks there. Preferably, use a condom too because of this specific situation.

    Rubbing dicks, jerking, foreplay, these are all Ok without a condom.

    But hey have a good time above all. Relax and you don't need to be paranoid if you're doing the right thing.
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    Sep 07, 2010 2:24 PM GMT
    jlly_rnchr saidI don't endorse this at all. I hate to be a debbie downer, but this is not a good avenue to walk down to explore your feelings.

    Agree. There are too many variables at work here, the most significant being a Craigslist pickup, combined with a first time for gay sex. Too many things to go wrong.

    Not the least of which is a 3-some. Even I wouldn't do a blind 3-some from online, despite my considerable experience with gay sex ( AHEM... icon_redface.gif )

    As stated above, take baby steps. Or at least smaller ones. This could likely be too much too soon, plus I'm not sure about the basic safety of it, and I'm not just talking about HIV and STDs.
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    Sep 07, 2010 3:00 PM GMT
    Please with the "should I make the guy wear a condom when I blow him "questions on this site.I dont know about the rest of the country honey but I never had a guy ask me that in the good ole Big Apple.I mean could it get more boring!UGH Go Jack off instead.
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    Sep 07, 2010 3:05 PM GMT
    Yes I agree with most above....STOP! Meet a cool guy, become friends, experiment with him and leave Craig's list folks to those with more experience.
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    Sep 07, 2010 3:20 PM GMT
    Seriously not worth it, you can find better quality guys than that.

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    Sep 07, 2010 3:42 PM GMT
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    Sep 07, 2010 5:35 PM GMT
    Damn dude don't be stupid. Meet up in a public place first and then proceed from there. Many hot guys are looking for the same thing as you and you could have a fun time but craigslist can't be trusted to produce nice guys 100% of the time. So just work the odds to your favor.
  • Sk8Tex

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    Sep 07, 2010 5:51 PM GMT
    Ditto to all of the giant DO NOT DO's above....

    I had a friend who met up with two guys online to do the exact same thing. They met at a bar, had alot of drinks, then went back to his place...one guy said he didn't feel well and crashed on the couch. The other guy went in the bedroom with my friend to fool around....

    Long story short the guy that stayed in the living room robbed him for all he was worth, and he was too embarassed to call the cops to report it, because I mean...what do you say?

    The reward just is not there for the risk involved.

    He's lucky it was just material possesions he was robbed of...
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    Sep 07, 2010 7:13 PM GMT
    amar_m saidOK I just had to respond...

    In fact, oral sex has rarely been reported to cause transmission of HIV...

    There are many other STDs you can get via blowjobs though...

    But craigslist? Really?

    Makes me wonder if this is real.
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    Sep 08, 2010 3:51 AM GMT
    Well I don't know any gay/bi guys so it would be a bad idea going up to all my full on straight friends and ask them to fuck me. So where else do I turn to? I guess I'll just go out and buy a couple dildos until one day when I befriend a gay/bi top
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    Sep 08, 2010 6:08 AM GMT
    Just_Zeke saidSTOP - DO NOT PASS GO Your first time should be with someone you know personally and have established some trust with. Chatting online doesn't satisfy this requirement. You could get yourself into a BAD situation with one relatively speaking "unknown" guy [from Craigs list] and his friend [insert psycho killer] who is totally unknown to you.


    listen to the man he is totally right on this one. not to mention if u trust the guy and he trusts u then if it hurts too bad he will back off.
  • UncleverName

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    Sep 08, 2010 6:21 AM GMT
    GuyFawkes_ saidWell I don't know any gay/bi guys so it would be a bad idea going up to all my full on straight friends and ask them to fuck me. So where else do I turn to? I guess I'll just go out and buy a couple dildos until one day when I befriend a gay/bi top


    What hiring a professional escort or two? You could still get together in a public place, and go back to a hotel and practice safe sex.

    I'd still strongly recommend telling a friend where you're going to be and possibly to check up on you by phone. Actually, if it's at a hotel, you could come up with some reason for the hotel to check up on you. Maybe a wake up call or pre-ordered room service?

    In terms of being safe(r) than craigs list, why don't you try and meet some guys here on real jock? Meet them in public first maybe with no set plans the first time, hang out for a few hours and make sure they're not a psycho. If you did that with two separate guys that didn't know each other, and then the three of you hook up, odds are pretty slim that they're both psychos.

    It might still be painful. In fact, it most likely will be, so I'd strongly suggest going and buying some toys and practicing first either way.
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    Sep 08, 2010 6:33 AM GMT
    Guy Fawkes?
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    Sep 08, 2010 2:08 PM GMT
    Apart from anything, it sounds kinda dangerous.

    Two men, who you don't know, who may be much bigger/stronger than you. They could do anything! Don't mean to scare you, but be sensible.

    I look back on when I had some hook-ups through the internet and think to myself, I got lucky that they were all decent guys and no one tried to take advantage of me, because no one knew where I was etc. Obviously you're not a kid and the whole "don't talk to strangers" thing no longer applies, but try to be a bit careful!

    If you do go through with it, make sure you have plenty of condoms and lube available and insist it's used!
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    Sep 08, 2010 2:14 PM GMT
    GuyFawkes_ saidso i met a guy on craigslist and i've been emailing him about fucking in the near future (like next week), and since it's a fetish of mine he asked his friend and so it's gonna be a threesome if i decide to go through with it. I'm nervous mainly because i;m bi-curious and i want to experience something different. Since this is a craigslist encounter should I take extra precautions? what brand of condoms offer the best protection? can i suck them off without them wearing a condom and be safe? yeah... i'm kinda nervous because not only am i receiving my first fucking, but it involves 2 guys icon_eek.gif


    Oh mate...
    Your first time with an internet fuck? And you want a 3some?
    I strongly don't recommend that...

    Is there no one you know that can...errr...assist you at least for your first few times?

    It is going to hurt the first time and some random dude, never mind 2, off the nett is not going to care about you afterwards and make sure you're OK during it.