I like a guy I saw on facebook

  • Stin7

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    Sep 07, 2010 7:31 AM GMT
    so....... I just found the pic of this guy on facebook. I'm having a weird crush on him. I think he is cute and I want to add him...

    how should I start a conversation with him? haha He lives in the same city as I do... and that's about it. I know he is gay, because I saw all his friends but I've never met a person on facebook, never chat, I don't want to sound awkward or stupid. He seems a good guy...

    I need tips to start a conversation with someone I don't know in "real life" :p
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    Sep 07, 2010 11:37 AM GMT
    just add him and when he accepts say hi as you usually do...then ask the usual casual questions you do with anyone else that you meet face to face...it will go from there
  • alphatop

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    Sep 07, 2010 11:47 AM GMT
    Stin7 saidso....... I just found the pic of this guy on facebook. I'm having a weird crush on him. I think he is cute and I want to add him...

    how should I start a conversation with him? haha He lives in the same city as I do... and that's about it. I know he is gay, because I saw all his friends but I've never met a person on facebook, never chat, I don't want to sound awkward or stupid. He seems a good guy...

    I need tips to start a conversation with someone I don't know in "real life" :p


    Dude, go for it! What do u have to lose?

    I met amazing ppl via FB in person and made life time friends.
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    Sep 07, 2010 11:53 AM GMT
    Send a msg, you can add as friend (I get added all the time) but some ppl may think its wierd, so I always first send a msg... just open up a conversation the way you would normally
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    Sep 07, 2010 12:22 PM GMT
    send a message first. Talk.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Sep 07, 2010 12:25 PM GMT
    I wouldn't hesitate. If you have a number of mutual friends, why not? But remember "mutual friends" on FB may just be those that requested to be added and they might not know each other personally.

    But that wouldn't stop me if I wanted to meet the guy.
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    Sep 07, 2010 1:20 PM GMT
    People did that all the time when I was out in Massachusetts... They'd either send me a message or just add me. I didn't think anything of it. It's usually better to send a message first and then go from there...
  • Space_Cowboy_...

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    Sep 07, 2010 1:31 PM GMT
    That's called stalking. icon_eek.gif
  • Stin7

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    Sep 07, 2010 1:36 PM GMT
    exactly.

    I don't want to look like a stalker... it's so horrible.... icon_redface.gif
  • dreamer121

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    Sep 07, 2010 1:41 PM GMT
    send a friend request and a message... don't just send a friend request... Its less creepy when you message him.

    I have 60 'creepers' currently, and I don't add any of them because they've never talked to me. I did however add 2 guys who i didn't know who did send messages.

    Try it, the worst he's gonna do is reject the friend request... just like he would reject a "coffee date"... he may be cute, but you'll get over it otherwise.

    I think Facebook is becoming the new dating website or something for the gays when they see mutual friends. Just saying, but its kinda freaking me out.

  • Iakona

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    Sep 07, 2010 1:50 PM GMT
    I think you should go with the completely honest approach. " Hey, I have seen you around, thought you were cute. How would you like to go for a java!" Something like that where you don't seem creepy, you seem approachable, and you leave it open.... try it....what do you have to lose.
  • d_1M

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    Sep 07, 2010 2:14 PM GMT
    i think you just borderline stalker but not a stalker yet....haha

    better you hit on him on fb then in person and get i real bad experience after all you sow him there first not in person and went and find him online, right?

    what everybody said already has a point in their own way.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Sep 07, 2010 3:32 PM GMT
    Stin7 saidexactly.

    I don't want to look like a stalker... it's so horrible.... icon_redface.gif




    I think you should just send him a short note on Facebook letting him know you like what you see and would like to add him as a friend and get to know him better. Nothing wrong with putting yourself out there in an earnest effort to meet another human being. If everyone looked at this as some sort of "stalking" behavior, no one would ever meet anyone new.
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    Sep 07, 2010 3:50 PM GMT
    Basic FB 101 question. I have an account that I very seldom use, but have a few friends - family and some acquaintances. I would like to set up a completely separate FB account for the purposes discussed above. I don't want to put obvious info like my full name, etc, on that account to keep it not easily found or confused with my current account. I also don't like to set up an account with false info, so what is the best thing to do?

    Thanks.
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    Sep 07, 2010 4:04 PM GMT
    Stin7 saidexactly.

    I don't want to look like a stalker... it's so horrible.... icon_redface.gif


    I will not admit to doing this icon_rolleyes.gif lol... I say do what some have suggested so if you have any mutual friends or likes in common and come up with a elaborate story about you stumble across his page while you were cleaning up your friends list or likes and send him a message. I am NOT saying that i have EVER done that but it's a suggestion... icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 07, 2010 4:26 PM GMT
    Nyflava said
    Stin7 saidexactly.

    I don't want to look like a stalker... it's so horrible.... icon_redface.gif


    I will not admit to do ing this icon_rolleyes.gif lol... I say do what some have suggested so if you have any mutual friends or likes in common and come up with a elaborate story about you stumble across his page while you were cleaning up your friends list or likes and send him a message. I am NOT saying that i have EVER done that but it's a suggestion... icon_wink.gif


    AHH! So that's your secret. HAHAHA thanks icon_razz.gif
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    Sep 07, 2010 4:27 PM GMT
    Ricovelas said
    Nyflava said
    Stin7 saidexactly.

    I don't want to look like a stalker... it's so horrible.... icon_redface.gif


    I will not admit to do ing this icon_rolleyes.gif lol... I say do what some have suggested so if you have any mutual friends or likes in common and come up with a elaborate story about you stumble across his page while you were cleaning up your friends list or likes and send him a message. I am NOT saying that i have EVER done that but it's a suggestion... icon_wink.gif


    AHH! So that's your secret. HAHAHA thanks icon_razz.gif


    i did NOT say i EVER did that hahaha but it worked i mean works so i heard
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    Sep 07, 2010 4:40 PM GMT
    erm, try taking a look at his likes and if you have some in common, you could always start by saying that you too also like x kind of music or singer etc... that way, should not be so desperate or stalking... icon_razz.gif
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    Sep 07, 2010 5:09 PM GMT
    Iakona saidI think you should go with the completely honest approach. " Hey, I have seen you around, thought you were cute. How would you like to go for a java!" Something like that where you don't seem creepy, you seem approachable, and you leave it open.... try it....what do you have to lose.


    Mr.Lakona has it. I get friend requests from friends of friends I have never met before. Just flat out saying what you are feeling just puts all the cards out on the table. He knows what is up and if there is any interest he will message you back.

    I would just tell him of the mutual acquaintance so you don't seem like some random, creepy, stalker.
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    Sep 07, 2010 5:19 PM GMT
    Iakona saidI think you should go with the completely honest approach. " Hey, I have seen you around, thought you were cute. How would you like to go for a java!" Something like that where you don't seem creepy, you seem approachable, and you leave it open.... try it....what do you have to lose.


    I third this. A funny remark here or there might help too ;)



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    Sep 07, 2010 5:39 PM GMT
    sagoodboy10 saidjust add him and when he accepts say hi as you usually do...then ask the usual casual questions you do with anyone else that you meet face to face...it will go from there


    Really? I ignore ADD REQUESTS from people I don't know. Facebook is NOT MySpace.
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    Sep 07, 2010 6:10 PM GMT
    What is it about Facebook that so many men open on Realjock are afraid of? Is it the fact that your full name is revealed? Personal pictures, friend lists and wall posts can be blocked to certain "groups of accepted friends" so that can't be the reason...Is Facebook seen as being more respectable than Realjock so access to your profile there is more limited/elite?
  • BIG_N_TALL

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    Sep 07, 2010 6:14 PM GMT
    Lostboy saidsend a message first. Talk.


    YES! I don't add people I generally don't know. Even if I haven't met you in person, I am waaaayyyy more likely to 'add' you if I have talked to you - IM or email - than I am if I haven't talked to you.
  • BIG_N_TALL

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    Sep 07, 2010 6:18 PM GMT
    Indy404 saidWhat is it about Facebook that so many men open on Realjock are afraid of? Is it the fact that your full name is revealed? Personal pictures, friend lists and wall posts can be blocked to certain "groups of accepted friends" so that can't be the reason...Is Facebook seen as being more respectable than Realjock so access to your profile there is more limited/elite?


    I know a lot people that have more personal info (i.e. contact info, where they are, etc.) on their FB pages, than most guys on RJ. I don't have this sort of info on my page, but I still like to know who is or isn't potentially monitoring me via FB. As someone who was once stalked, I'd prefer to know you (or at least something about you) instead of adding random people... and yes, I've ignored a lot of random people who have added me.
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    Sep 07, 2010 7:00 PM GMT
    Dude i had the same experience too... I saw this real cute guy in fb..i messaged him saying "Hey gary.I saw you in the Love is love.Its all equal group.Just wanted to tell and complement you that you are way cute and i kept looking at your display pic icon_smile.gif If this complement from me offended you, then i am sorry else i would like to know you more."
    for this he replied-"Haha, well thank you for the complement"
    i asked him-"So can we be friends? "
    he replied-"Well I added you...didn't I?"

    but mate although this went successful, too bad he is in US and i am in Bangalore....sighicon_neutral.gif...;)