Trying out new sports

  • Tritimium

    Posts: 261

    Sep 07, 2010 8:48 PM GMT
    When I was 18, I took up triathlon and rowing (alternately), because I wanted to get fit and needed a sort of confidence boost after being pretty useless at sports through school.

    8 years later, I've realised that I haven't actually really enjoyed either of them very much, yet spent a lot of time, effort and money doing them and trying to improve - with not much to show!!! I also feel as though I haven't made any friends through either of them, probably because I wasn't enjoying them. This is a rather distressing observation.

    So - time to try new things, I think. Any suggestions? I would prefer something where there are likely to be a good number of folks in the 20-30 age range, male and female. I don't really care any more if I'll be any good at it - I just wanna have fun and make some new friends.

    As I said, I was useless at games at school, but would now like to give them a go - nevertheless, the 'useless' mindset is still there and may be an obstacle, but I'm determined to fight it.

    I need to keep up my gym training though (2-3 x per week), so the emphasis has to be on fun rather than a workout. That said, I'm not shy of getting sweaty. icon_biggrin.gif

    Thanks a lot for your thoughts.

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 07, 2010 10:13 PM GMT
    Hi Trit:

    I would aim for sports that in a sense their is a social venue to play the sport and in a sense you enjoy. Also, do not be afraid to experiment, if it does not fit right then go to another sport, do not feel obligated if you feel is not your thing.

    There also need to be a connection with the players in the sport and outside, this will take time, but if you are committed to each practice, game, social event then it should give you the results that you are looking for - depending on what you are looking for I would aim for:

    *Soccer League
    *Softball League
    *Volleyball League
    *Water Polo League
    *Basketball League
    *Mt. Biking League
    *Cycling League

    Although, the last two might not require to it in a social setting to do the sport, it is enjoyable if you do it with a group of guys and gals. Some of these leagues meet once/twice a week for practice, and there is usually a match. Not sure if you tried any of the above before.

    Just some thoughts. Good luck.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 07, 2010 11:28 PM GMT
    You need just one sport.
    Bam
    Ultimate Frisbee
    Done
    If your with a good group they will tell you to keep doing upper body workout, because that sport is more physical work than you think.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 07, 2010 11:42 PM GMT
    The first things that come to mind are softball or netball, as those sports usually have good social comps which are mixed. Good luck!
  • victor8

    Posts: 237

    Sep 07, 2010 11:53 PM GMT
    and a gay bowling team...i don't but have friends that do...and they seem to have alot of fun!!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 08, 2010 1:11 AM GMT
    go for mountain biking - especially if you give a go at freeriding, the crowd there is young, and very hip.
    x country is mixed but you'd meet tons of young guys.
    same in downhilling

    but there is a learning curve in either disciplines . But you'll come across
    really hot , young, cool, lean and fit riders.

    down side : money ... bikes aren't cheap , but you can rent them at bike shops usually ( at least the ones near popular riding places ) . gives you a chance to try it out.
    mitchellcodnor.jpg
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 08, 2010 1:16 AM GMT
    Tritimium:

    Have you tried raquetball or volleyball? I've really enjoyed both of these less obvious sports, in terms of social connections and (believe it or not) the workout. I know, I know... they're not popular, "masculine" sports. But they can really spike the heartrate, the learning curve is rapid in terms of improvement in skills, and they're actually a lot of fun.

    Joining a cycling and/or running club that competes in local races as a team is also a great choice. Hope that's helpful.

    -bd1982
  • neosyllogy

    Posts: 1714

    Sep 08, 2010 1:17 AM GMT
    Brazillian Jiu-Jitsu (the "brazillian" part is important - it's a legit competitive sport, not a "self-defense" joke).
    Alternately, Judo.
    Alternately, Thai Boxing or MMA.

    In the worlds of sports, I'd recommend BJJ to anyone though!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 08, 2010 1:18 AM GMT
    Pick up a martial art. There's little equipment to buy and usually a good sense of community. Not only will you get a good workout, you'll also be learning some good skills to have!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 08, 2010 2:02 AM GMT
    you will laugh...but if you live in an area where there is a club...fencing is so much fun! you will meet lots of young people and its a great conversation starter outside of competition. the sword has a certain side effect of temporarily increasing your ego as well icon_biggrin.gif
  • tuffguyndc

    Posts: 4437

    Sep 08, 2010 2:13 AM GMT
    uombroca saidHi Trit:

    I would aim for sports that in a sense their is a social venue to play the sport and in a sense you enjoy. Also, do not be afraid to experiment, if it does not fit right then go to another sport, do not feel obligated if you feel is not your thing.

    There also need to be a connection with the players in the sport and outside, this will take time, but if you are committed to each practice, game, social event then it should give you the results that you are looking for - depending on what you are looking for I would aim for:

    *Soccer League
    *Softball League
    *Volleyball League
    *Water Polo League
    *Basketball League
    *Mt. Biking League
    *Cycling League

    Although, the last two might not require to it in a social setting to do the sport, it is enjoyable if you do it with a group of guys and gals. Some of these leagues meet once/twice a week for practice, and there is usually a match. Not sure if you tried any of the above before.

    Just some thoughts. Good luck.
    uombroca, i agree with you. i don't really think you would want to play any sports where people are there to compete. If I were you, I would try hiking, trail running, biking, and camping. I would not try competitive sports because you would not enjoy them especially if you are not very good at sports and you don't want to compete. those types of sports you will not make many friends if all you want to do is be apart of it. Those sports are very competitive. Anyhow, try some of the ones I have mention. I think you should also consider swimming too. There are a lot activity groups that would allow for socializing such as kayaking, white water rafting, cycling, mt, biking, hiking, and camping. No of these activities requires you to be athletic and there is no competing either
  • Tritimium

    Posts: 261

    Sep 08, 2010 10:32 PM GMT
    Thanks for the ideas guys! I actually really want to do water polo, it's just finding a club that's right for me. Have tried volleyball over the summer - it's really fun actually, and might go back to it. Hadn't thought of racquetball - I'll see whether there's a team in my city. (I might check it out on YouTube first!!!! Not entirely sure what it is.....)

    I was also tempted to try a martial art or some sort of combat / boxing discipline.....just not sure if it would suit my personality! (I wouldn't hurt a fly...)

    I'm asking this because I'm in a slightly odd position in that, when I started out doing triathlon (and rowing) at 18, I was determined to win medals....but soon realised that I was competing against folks that had been swimming all through school, and thus they had several years' advantage in that respect. So it gradually eroded my confidence. I was pretty disciplined though, and sacrificed socialising with the other members in order to train well the next day (and given the other demands in my life) - but in hindsight that was a rather dumb approach, perhaps. So, along with a lot of other changes I'm making in my life, I'm now trying to emphasise gym training but also do some sort of sport that I can have a giggle with and make some new friends. And which doesn't cost too much at the moment!

    That said, I do sorta miss rowing! But it's very demanding.

  • safety43_mma1...

    Posts: 4251

    Sep 09, 2010 6:35 AM GMT
    one word football
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Sep 19, 2010 1:30 PM GMT
    one word basketball icon_biggrin.gif
  • 4travel

    Posts: 77

    Sep 19, 2010 1:48 PM GMT
    Hockey is awesome, but not sure if there are beginners leagues in your area. There is a good social aspect to it.
  • DanOmatic

    Posts: 1155

    Sep 19, 2010 1:52 PM GMT
    Triathlon and rowing are two very extremely demanding sports that require a hell of a lot of focus and discipline. For that reason, they're populated, by and large, by people who tend to be extremely "Type A", who are often borderline (if not completely) OCD. That's always been a huge turn-off for me, as it's often the ones who aren't all that good who get totally wrapped up in it.

    It's not surprising that you weren't making friends and enjoying yourself. However, there are exceptions. I've been really lucky to have a group of training buddies (male and female) who are tons of fun to be around. Not only do we see each other socially inside and outside the context of training, but we take care of each others' kids/dogs, travel together, and help each other out when one of us needs something. I think you can do those sports and find them enjoyable, but you'll have to seek out people who do not take themselves too seriously.

    One option: go join a trail running group. Trail runners (and mtn bikers) are much more laid back and less cut-throat than triathletes.