If you're partnered and at a dance/club/party/etc...

  • JimJim

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    Sep 08, 2010 1:04 AM GMT
    how do you feel about your partner dancing with others?

    1) Don't allow it at all
    2) Allow it but only with females and its kept PG
    3) Allowed with females only but they can get as dirty as they want
    4) Allowed with both men and women, as long as it's PG
    5) Allowed with both men and women, can get dirty only with women.
    6) Doesn't matter to you at all and your guy can dance however (dirty) he wants with whoever, regardless of gender.


    Now before anyone asks, by "dirty" I mean the typical stuff you might see at a club like heavy grinding or other pseudo-sexual dance moves/touching.

    For me personally, I'm around a 4-5. If I were partnered I'd want my guy to be able to dance and have fun, but the thought of a boyfriend dancing provocatively with another man makes me uncomfortable.

    So what are your thoughts/opinions/experiences? I feel like this question might be more relevant to younger members since sexualized dancing is more popular amongst younger folk, but anyone feel free to chime in with your thoughts.

    And don't feel like you're limited to the choices I listed above, it's just a rough outline.
  • GQjock

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    Sep 08, 2010 1:18 AM GMT
    If it's my BF?

    What I allowed in the past was
    He can do whatever the hell he wanted with the women
    cause I knew they didn't count

    But with the guys ... no reason to
    He was with me icon_cool.gif
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    Sep 08, 2010 1:22 AM GMT
    JimJim saidhow do you feel about your partner dancing with others?

    We don't give it a thought. We don't go to gay dance clubs at our age, our dancing limited to galas we attend. We both dance with our gay, lesbian, and straight female friends, just a social thing, nothing sexual.

    A few years earlier, however, my late partner & I did go gay club dancing regularly, and he was very jealous. My dancing with another guy would enrage him. So I didn't, only danced with him. Nor did he want to dance with anyone else with me, so I never was faced with discovering how I might feel about that.
  • mizu5

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    Sep 08, 2010 1:33 AM GMT
    I'd feel uncomfortable if he was dancing with another guy, unless it was a mutual friend and i knew how they felt about each other.
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    Sep 08, 2010 2:56 AM GMT
    4-5 I love to dance and he will dance if I want him to. We've danced with other people particularly at country bars. I've had guys ask me to dance and he's fine with it. Not gonna get nasty unless it's jokingly and then only with close friends. Really depends on who you're dancing with.
    We've been together nearly ten years and we are both very confident in our relationship. Neither one of us is going to do anything to hurt the other one.
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    Sep 08, 2010 5:06 AM GMT
    Yea I don't really mind if he dances with other guys but I'll still go with option 5. Of course, if he is bi at all, that goes down to option 4. Not going to lose a boyf to a woman... Not again icon_lol.gif