Hooking up on first date

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    Sep 08, 2010 2:02 AM GMT
    I met a really amazing guy and we had really amazing sex that night after conversation. We realized we both have a lot in common, and there's definite chemistry. In short, I really like this dude, but I'm thinking sex should have waited.

    Is it over, or could this be just the beginning? I'd like to see him again, and am not sure to proceed. Wow, I think I'm infatuated!
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    Sep 08, 2010 3:57 AM GMT
    Hope for the best, but, forget about it and don't take it to heart if nothing comes of it.

    later edit: Be active in making it happen, but see above and move on if it doesn't.
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    Sep 08, 2010 6:28 AM GMT
    been there done that. move on unless he contacts you...
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    Sep 08, 2010 6:32 AM GMT
    Agamemnon saidbeen there done that. move on unless he contacts you...

    /ignore

    Call him- Don't text- Don't sit around waiting for him.... he might be doing the same. icon_neutral.gif
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    Sep 08, 2010 6:39 AM GMT
    A1EX said
    Agamemnon saidbeen there done that. move on unless he contacts you...

    /ignore

    Call him- Don't text- Don't sit around waiting for him.... he might be doing the same. icon_neutral.gif


    Agreed
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    Sep 08, 2010 7:22 AM GMT
    Yeah, take the initiative.

    Worst he could do is say no or ignore you... after that, you've done your part icon_cool.gif
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    Sep 08, 2010 7:35 AM GMT
    The best first date is when you both communicate that you are mutally into each other and sex will happen in in the near future. There is fun and excitement in stead of fear and frustration .
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    Sep 08, 2010 1:07 PM GMT
    been there done that several times, sex on the first date! nothing to be ashamed of
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    Sep 08, 2010 1:09 PM GMT


    Ring him!

    Do not be one of these people who plays games, take the plunge you have nothing to lose
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    Sep 08, 2010 1:09 PM GMT
    Have you rang him yet?
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    Sep 08, 2010 1:09 PM GMT
    Why don't you just call him up and ask him out for a second date if you liked him?

    I've done the sex on the first date and we ended up dating for a short while after, I've done sex on the first date and never saw them again - I don't think it really makes that much difference, I never bothered with rules and just went with what felt right at the time.
  • rnch

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    Sep 08, 2010 1:11 PM GMT
    A sexy, intelligent, witty, handsome guy and I hooked up 2 hours after we met.

    over two and a half years later; it's still goin' on and we call each other "boyfriend". icon_cool.gif
  • tuffguyndc

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    Sep 08, 2010 1:14 PM GMT
    If you two genuinely like each other than why not see if you two can make something happen. if he doesn't oh well than he obviously was not the guy for you.
    good luck buddy
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    Sep 08, 2010 1:15 PM GMT
    Agreed. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and a half after a 'hookup'. icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 08, 2010 1:17 PM GMT
    morpheus85 saidAgreed. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and a half after a 'hookup'. icon_smile.gif


    ^^^^^^ Tears of joy, not kidding
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    Sep 08, 2010 1:18 PM GMT
    CALL!!!

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    Sep 08, 2010 3:40 PM GMT
    But see, why do I always have to be the one to make an initiative? In the past, when I've felt this way for a guy after a hookup, everything sort of deteriorated after that first call (I made), and we never saw each other again.

    I didn't understand why because there was intense mutual attraction between us, and both expressed interest in hanging out.

    While I admit that this current guy is a crazy catch, so am I, and I want to be pursued for once. Its just that we are really compatible, and in six years of dating I have never met someone so like myself:

    1. He's 26, I'm 24
    2. Were both very physically attractive and have toned/lean bodies we want to work on (I've always felt people of similar attractiveness do better together).
    3. Both career ladder-climbing professionals.
    4. Similar interests
    5. Grew up in same state, now living in Austin
    6. Both come from affluent families
    7. Both each other's "type"
    8. Similar personalities...conversation just flows

    Like I said, the chemistry is unbelievable. I'm not looking to date him yet, but in my past experiences, mitigating a social relationship after a hookup can be really hard.

    I don't want to rush this, it just needs to happen naturally. I hope he sees in me what I do in him.
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    Sep 08, 2010 3:51 PM GMT
    The_Austonian saidBut see, why do I always have to be the one to make an initiative? In the past, when I've felt this way for a guy after a hookup, everything sort of deteriorated after that first call (I made), and we never saw each other again.

    ... I want to be pursued for once. ....


    then I would suggest you keep the cookies in the cookie jar and give future guys something to pursue.
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    Sep 08, 2010 3:56 PM GMT
    The_Austonian said

    2. Were both very physically attractive and have toned/lean bodies we want to work on (I've always felt people of similar attractiveness do better together).


    Pictures or it isn't real.
  • Kage

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    Sep 08, 2010 3:57 PM GMT
    The_Austonian saidI met a really amazing guy and we had really amazing sex that night after conversation. We realized we both have a lot in common, and there's definite chemistry. In short, I really like this dude, but I'm thinking sex should have waited.

    Is it over, or could this be just the beginning? I'd like to see him again, and am not sure to proceed. Wow, I think I'm infatuated!


    You have had sex on the first date?!?icon_eek.gif
    You slut!!!
    Just kidding.icon_twisted.gif

    A tad too late to say it should have waited...a tad. C'est La vie!

    The only way to know if it is over is to...you guessed it...speak to other guy...yes speak.
    See if he feels the same and if he wants a rematch and if he doesn't well then you have to move on, you both had a good shag but that it all it was.



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    Sep 08, 2010 4:27 PM GMT
    This is a tough call...MANY gay guys I know say that if they have sex with a guy on the first date (especially where there's penetration) they don't take them seriously after that...

    I'm indifferent to it all...The one time I had sex with a guy after first meeting him, I lost interest quickly after...
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    Sep 08, 2010 4:56 PM GMT
    There was no penetration, just jacking, sucking, rolling around on top of eachother and making out. And a HUGE fucking cumshot from him that shot me in the face and chest.

    I'm starting to think though that if this dude is on the same page I am, hell see me for what I am and want to get to know me better. If not, his loss.
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    Sep 08, 2010 5:16 PM GMT
    The_Austonian saidI met a really amazing guy and we had really amazing sex that night after conversation. We realized we both have a lot in common, and there's definite chemistry. In short, I really like this dude, but I'm thinking sex should have waited.

    Is it over, or could this be just the beginning? I'd like to see him again, and am not sure to proceed. Wow, I think I'm infatuated!


    Talk about it without any agenda or games. If he is into you too he'll appreciate that you are making an effort to think of this past the other night.
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    Sep 08, 2010 5:41 PM GMT
    Why do you think you should have waited? i mean if you really had the chemistry, you cannot stop it too. Things happen very fast without having second thoughts. And one definitely feels a close bond(not explicitly) if they had sex with someone. You say you had great sex...now that is a good thing for you. May be try calling him after few days gap and intitiate a converstion. Try to know how he felt about you else move on bro.

    Simply follow your heart babyicon_smile.gif
    And very few amazing people see love after sex. you are one lucky.
  • Midas426

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    Sep 08, 2010 5:54 PM GMT
    The_Austonian saidBut see, why do I always have to be the one to make an initiative?
    Heh...that one sentence alone captures how I feel most of the time. It always seems I have to be the one to take the initiative when it comes to guys. At times I won't get any follow through from them. When that happens though I back off...no need to make a fool of myself chasing a guy that makes no effort at all.