IS GAY DATING JUST TOO AWESOME?

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    Sep 08, 2010 4:16 PM GMT
    Lately I've come to learn that on RealJock, any declaration that anything Gay is of any inconvenience in any way will get you chastised much like a Jew that declares Hitler was "just misunderstood". LOL.

    So to help demonstrate I'm not as unhappy and "self-loathing" as many claim (for not living like they do) I seriously thought about a list things we all have to LOVE when it comes to dating:

    1. Male companionship
    2. No "man vs woman" complications
    3. No Gay Marriage, good for men not interested in getting married (most of them)
    4. No accidental children
    5. Equality in the relationship/No male chauvinism
    6. Understand each others bodies/Same equipment
    7. Pressure to have a tight body so most gay men are very hott
    8. Non-committable dudes for guys that DON'T want relationships
    9. Clingy relationship hungry dudes for guys that WANT relationships
    10. Over-sexed culture (all men love sex, some more than others)
    11. RealJock.com

    The list goes on...

    Add to this list if you want to!


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    Sep 08, 2010 8:38 PM GMT
    I think the point most guys on here try to make, and I'll try to be clear about this one, is that you're trying too hard to fit all of us into a box. Generalizing your own discomfort, misunderstandings or dislike of anything in particular doesn't mean the rest of us have to think it's something bad.

    I'm personally not sure of the point of your post, other than grasping at some way to connect to other guys. Quit trying so damn hard. We're gay, we like dick. We're also human so we have a million and four personality differentiations that make our relationships complex and not always perfect. That's life. Deal.
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    Sep 08, 2010 8:49 PM GMT
    Xian_Buffed saidI think the point most guys on here try to make, and I'll try to be clear about this one, is that you're trying too hard to fit all of us into a box. Generalizing your own discomfort, misunderstandings or dislike of anything in particular doesn't mean the rest of us have to think it's something bad.

    I'm personally not sure of the point of your post, other than grasping at some way to connect to other guys. Quit trying so damn hard. We're gay, we like dick. We're also human so we have a million and four personality differentiations that make our relationships complex and not always perfect. That's life. Deal.


    Perfectly stated!
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    Sep 08, 2010 9:30 PM GMT
    Xian_Buffed saidI think the point most guys on here try to make, and I'll try to be clear about this one, is that you're trying too hard to fit all of us into a box. Generalizing your own discomfort, misunderstandings or dislike of anything in particular doesn't mean the rest of us have to think it's something bad.

    I'm personally not sure of the point of your post, other than grasping at some way to connect to other guys. Quit trying so damn hard. We're gay, we like dick. We're also human so we have a million and four personality differentiations that make our relationships complex and not always perfect. That's life. Deal.

    Sigh, here we go again...Even in the thread where I try to lighten the mood, the FIRST comment is more sanctimonious lecturing. Are half the Gay men on RealJock Harvard Professors with doctorates in Sociology and Psychology now?

    This is just a website and I try to post threads to add to the myriad of discussions here in the forums. You may not agree with my POV, but that's the point right, we're all different.

    Most normal people, if they agree or disagree with a post, will give their opinions on the topic and keep it moving (if they post anything at all). I love when guys leave comments advancing the discussion/debate. Especially since my threads and responses are not even close to the more controversial ones on RealJock. Those people here that feel the need to stray off topic and psychoanalyze the OP strike me as pretentious, self-aggrandizing and condescending. *SHRUGS*


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    Sep 08, 2010 9:37 PM GMT
    Uh, I agree with no.1 and no.11...all the others are potentially really bad things. Except maybe no.4
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    Sep 08, 2010 9:44 PM GMT
    You did sorta set yourself up with the opening paragraphs. Without those I don't think you'd have drawn the reaction you didn't want.

    As for the dating...haven't done that in nearly ten years, but when I was single and coming out I do remember the excitement of trips to neighboring (bigger) cities and meeting other guys. It was a revelation that I wasn't alone.
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    Sep 08, 2010 9:45 PM GMT
    Ciarsolo saidUh, I agree with no.1 and no.11...all the others are potentially really bad things. Except maybe no.4

    LOL, yeah, I guess it all depends on your point of view. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 08, 2010 9:46 PM GMT
    RudeMech saidYou did sorta set yourself up with the opening paragraphs. Without those I don't think you'd have drawn the reaction you didn't want.

    As for the dating...haven't done that in nearly ten years, but when I was single and coming out I do remember the excitement of trips to neighboring (bigger) cities and meeting other guys. It was a revelation that I wasn't alone.

    GOOD ONE! Didn't think of that! Yeah, cabin trips are big too, great for getaways!
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    Sep 08, 2010 9:54 PM GMT
    Indy404 saidLately I've come to learn that on RealJock, any declaration that anything Gay is of any inconvenience in any way will get you chastised much like a Jew that declares Hitler was "just misunderstood".

    So to help demonstrate I'm not as unhappy and "self-loathing" as many claim (for not living like they do) I seriously thought about a list things we all have to LOVE when it comes to dating:

    [snip]

    Add to this list if you want to!

    OK, now that's the kind of positive thinking I like to hear! I really do come down hard on negativity, when that's all I seem to be seeing. If I have misjudged you then I owe you an apology.

    And so, if you will allow me, I will make a contribution to your list:

    - Understanding his mind as I do my own, no "Venus vs. Mars" translations needed
    - Sex that either one of us might initiate, instead of it always being expected that I as the man will make the first move on the woman
    - Being able to swap clothes (not being a cross-dresser)
    - Having a million more things in common that I can relate with a guy than I can with a woman, with whom "relating" is always an effort
    - Letting him in the front door in my underwear, and peeing with the bathroom door open while he's there
    - Using the same gym locker room together, and the same shower room, no need to be segregated
    - Doing all kinds of "guy stuff" together that women rarely like to do
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    Sep 08, 2010 10:07 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said- Understanding his mind as I do my own, no "Venus vs. Mars" translations needed
    - Sex that either one of us might initiate, instead of it always being expected that I as the man will make the first move on the woman
    - Being able to swap clothes (not being a cross-dresser)
    - Having a million more things in common that I can relate with a guy than I can with a woman, with whom "relating" is always an effort
    - Letting him in the front door in my underwear, and peeing with the bathroom door open while he's there
    - Using the same gym locker room together, and the same shower room, no need to be segregated
    - Doing all kinds of "guy stuff" together that women rarely like to do

    AWESOME!

    I LMAO at number 5 on your list! So true...

    The only "guy" thing that seems to still be a problem is belching/farting...a lot of guys still don't like this even though its stereotypically a "guy" thing...LOL
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    Sep 08, 2010 10:09 PM GMT
    When my partner and I were dating we emailed each other poetry...I might just have to revive that practice with him. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 08, 2010 10:11 PM GMT
    RudeMech saidWhen my partner and I were dating we emailed each other poetry...I might just have to revive that practice with him. icon_biggrin.gif


    That is so sweet!
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    Sep 10, 2010 6:39 AM GMT
    I decided I no longer wanted to date women because of the crazy mind shit I had with them. Having to prove your love all the time is not my thing. So now I'm with a guy, and wtf, the mind stuff is all back again. Did I just trade tits and cunt for pecs and dick?

    Are we just as crazy in the head as them? I'm really liking dick. I want to keep liking it.

    Can it be that we can be attracted to the same fucked up type whether it be male or female? That would really, really suck. I don't want to go back to therapy.