RealJock I need your Advice

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    Sep 08, 2010 6:29 PM GMT
    So I been going out with this guy and I really like him alot,we met on the internet on a gay website but he lives close to me,but on the website I had I was a virgin and that was forever ago and im not no more but he still thinks I am.He has told me many times he likes me because im different because im waiting for the right guy and because I have not had sex yet like every gay he knows.What should I do and I have a question will he know when the moment comes to us being together that im not a virgin?
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    Sep 08, 2010 6:33 PM GMT
    Save yourself a lot of time and trouble, just tell him the truth. Do you really want to be involved with a guy who would not be understanding of your situation?
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    Sep 08, 2010 6:53 PM GMT
    circumstances change with time, Tony. Would you want the relationship to be based on anything but the truth? Treat him the same way you want to be treated.....it'll be fine...Keithicon_cool.gif
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    Sep 08, 2010 7:02 PM GMT
    Just play along with it....
    You've already taken it this far...
    Why not give him the whole virgin fantasy?

    When it comes time to having sex with him...
    fake it like it hurts, moan really loud, tell
    him it's so big, and beg out for moar!

    Afterwards whisper softly to him about how
    you're so glad you lost your virginity to him,
    and how he's so special to you, then cuddle
    and kiss all night, or go for another round!

    I'm sure you're capable of doing that. ;)
    Roleplaying is fun. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 08, 2010 7:05 PM GMT
    Just tell him you haven't updated your profile lately, and that you have plenty of experience now. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 08, 2010 7:12 PM GMT
    MRMICHIGAN saidWhat should I do and I have a question will he know when the moment comes to us being together that im not a virgin?

    Unlike a woman, a man can be a virgin over and over again. There's no physical evidence one way or the other, unless you're so stretched you have to wear a butt-plug.

    Plus you're 18? He will believe you. Play innocent, let him have his own fantasy. Complain about the pain, make him go slow, and act all surprised by the whole thing.

    But "I was a virgin and that was forever ago"? At 18 hun, your "forever" is a blink of my eye, I don't care how young you lost your cherry.

    In any case, I would not confess your fib. Just don't make a habit of lying in the future, OK? Liars always get caught eventually. This one I think you can slide by with.
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    Sep 08, 2010 7:18 PM GMT
    lol thanks ill just see what happens I guess ,and we met on manhunt and I only been with 4 guys so I dont think he will notice im not and no need to fake pain im sure it will hurt.
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    Sep 08, 2010 7:22 PM GMT
    You should tell him. But that doesn't mean you have spill your guts. Keep your leg-tossing history to yourself. You don't need to detail your every ceiling tap dancing episode. It will save you the embarassment if you can't remember all their names, when and where you met them, or where you woke up. And for heaven's sakes, don't mention any bathroom quickies or how quickly you had pull your panties up in the bushes when a cop passed by. Keep your fingers crossed he doesn't recognize you from any Craiglist ads, if you posted any. And cancel any you have now. And if he introduces you to his father, act like you don't know him. It shouldn't be too hard to steer clear of any bars where you might have a history of indiscreet lap dances, pole dances, or bar top strip teases. And if any of your past tricks meet you on the street, as the two walk by, keep walking quickly and act like it is a case of mistaken identity. And if anyone shouts "slut," don't answer!

    Or don't tell him.

    Whichever.
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    Sep 08, 2010 7:23 PM GMT
    A lot of people judge other over the stupidest things ever. They dont realize how stupid it is until they get to know you better. If lying to him now will help you show him more about you as a person and a lover then lie to him now. That will give you all the time you need for him to really appreciate everything you are. Eventually you'll be free to tell him the truth and he simply won't care...if he does then he doesn't hold any valid feelings for you, so you should just move on.


    ps: no he wont be able to tell youre not a virgin...(guessing youre bottom)guys dont bleed...well unless you over do it.
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    Sep 08, 2010 7:32 PM GMT
    charlitos saidA lot of people judge other over the stupidest things ever. They dont realize how stupid it is until they get to know you better. If lying to him now will help you show him more about you as a person and a lover then lie to him now. That will give you all the time you need for him to really appreciate everything you are. Eventually you'll be free to tell him the truth and he simply won't care...if he does then he doesn't hold any valid feelings for you, so you should just move on.
    But if the other guy finds out before Tony feels comfortable telling him, it could create a shitstorm...or not...depending on how the other guy feels in the first place.
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    Sep 08, 2010 7:41 PM GMT
    Caslon15000 saidYou should tell him. But that doesn't mean you have spill your guts. Keep your leg-tossing history to yourself. You don't need to detail your every ceiling tap dancing episode. It will save you the embarassment if you can't remember all their names, when and where you met them, or where you woke up. And for heaven's sakes, don't mention any bathroom quickies or how quickly you had pull your panties up in the bushes when a cop passed by. Keep your fingers crossed he doesn't recognize you from any Craiglist ads, if you posted any. And cancel any you have now. Anacid he introduces you to his father, act like you don't know him. It shouldn't be too hard to steer clear of any bars where you might have a history of indiscreet lap dances, pole dances, or bar top strip teases. And if any of your past tricks meet you on the street, as the two walk by, keep walking quickly and act like it is a case of mistaken identity. And if anyone shouts "slut," don't answer!

    Or don't tell him.

    Whichever.


    lmfao your funny I didnt mean to lie I was a virgin when we met but im not no more lol
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    Sep 08, 2010 8:52 PM GMT
    SO... I would just like to know one thing. Why do sooo many threads start with the word "SO"??? Do people actually talk this way??? Is this the "New English" ?? It kind of makes me feel like I wasted a whole helluva lot of time in school studying my native language... icon_sad.gif
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    Sep 08, 2010 9:14 PM GMT
    IMO a lie is a bad way to start. It's a poor foundation for friendship or LTR.
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    Sep 08, 2010 9:21 PM GMT
    RudeMech saidIMO a lie is a bad way to start. It's a poor foundation for friendship or LTR.


    Agreed. Just because you have had sex doesn't mean you didn't wait for the right guy, just like your online guy said. Hopefully I'm not assuming too much here, but if he values chastity so much, Manhunt seems like an odd place to express that view.
  • MrPapo317

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    Sep 08, 2010 9:25 PM GMT
    Just tell the truth. Didnt you have a post a week or two ago about you lying your friends that you took pics with Lady Ga Ga. This is definitely one thing you dont want to lie about
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    Sep 08, 2010 9:27 PM GMT
    The truth is the best option, especially if you get in a relationship, do you really want to start off on a lie? It's a small world, what if he meets one of the guys you were with before, and finds out the truth from them, best it comes from you.

    If he turns you away, just come visit me, I won't hold your lack of virginity against, just something else ;-)
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    Sep 08, 2010 9:55 PM GMT
    Better tell him the truth (without the gory details like the time you had sex with your friend's Dad) or it will come back on you and hurt like hell.

    -Doug
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    Sep 08, 2010 10:11 PM GMT
    Just tell him you broke your hymen as the result of an equestrianism accident.


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    Sep 08, 2010 10:27 PM GMT
    Ask yourself this question. How did that lady gaga lie turn out for you? If your not going to tell the truth at least use protection for yours and his sake.
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    Sep 08, 2010 10:32 PM GMT
    Truth. It's part of trust, which is the foundation of something of value.
    Don't start with a misconception.

    You haven't lied to him, yet. You've not corrected his expectation, which is obfuscating the facts, and that's...well, just ugly. Man up. Chances are he's attracted to you and talking up his interest in you because you 'waited' just so that you're more comfortable. Like HE'S never done it before. C'mon...

    Truth. That's my vote.
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    Sep 08, 2010 10:35 PM GMT
    Do something completely abnormal in the gay community... tell him the truth and initiate that conversation.

    Seriously. If this guy is so enamored with you because he thinks you're a virgin, it may just be a fetish he has. And if that's the case, he's interested in you for the wrong reasons.

    If that's not the case, he'll like you even when you tell him the information he's relied on is - ah - out of date.
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    Sep 08, 2010 10:52 PM GMT
    Friendsrbetter saidSO... I would just like to know one thing. Why do sooo many threads start with the word "SO"??? Do people actually talk this way??? Is this the "New English" ?? It kind of makes me feel like I wasted a whole helluva lot of time in school studying my native language... icon_sad.gif



    So as far as I know it's a west coast thing, it made it's way into my speech and I don't think it's gonna go anytime soon. So yea.
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    Sep 08, 2010 10:55 PM GMT
    It sounds like you lie a lot. First about a picture with Lady Gaga, now about being a Virgin...
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    Sep 09, 2010 12:07 AM GMT
    well the lady gaga was a little lie that grew but you guys dont get it i was a virgin when we met and started to talk but i lost it and i never told him,and no i dont lie im not like a huge lier or something im just scared if i tell him the truth''hey guess what im not a virgin''he will stop talking to me.
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    Sep 09, 2010 12:08 AM GMT
    meninlove said Better tell him the truth (without the gory details like the time you had sex with your friend's Dad) or it will come back on you and hurt like hell.

    -Doug


    dont remind me that was a big mistake i made..