How do you know if he really wants to see you?

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    Sep 09, 2010 1:34 AM GMT
    I've been hanging out with this guy for a few weeks, we're not official or anything. It just seems like I'm making the effort to text and visit him. Does he really want to see me? He said he likes me and wants to be exclusive but thats as far as that conversation went. Plus, I'm lucky if I get a response if I text him. I know you're all going to say he's not worth it, but I've already gone and got myself attached icon_rolleyes.gif What should I do?
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    Sep 09, 2010 1:43 AM GMT
    Have the guts to not contact him for a while and let him text/call you for a change. If he's into you he'll get in touch.
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    Sep 09, 2010 2:08 AM GMT
    nyc2010 said...t I've already gone and got myself attached icon_rolleyes.gif What should I do?
    Detach.
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    Sep 09, 2010 2:38 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    nyc2010 said...t I've already gone and got myself attached icon_rolleyes.gif What should I do?
    Detach.


    Amen!
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    Sep 09, 2010 2:42 AM GMT
    Tell him what you need and want. If he's serious he'll make the effort. Likewise ask him what he needs. Being upfront takes a lot of stress out of the equation.
  • Webster666

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    Sep 09, 2010 2:43 AM GMT
    Don't do anything, and see what happens.
    If he's interested, he'll contact you.
    If not, stop wasting your time on somebody who doesn't want you.
    Go out and find somebody who deserves you.
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    Sep 09, 2010 2:46 AM GMT
    As some of the people said above, stop contacting him for day or two and see if he contacts you first. If you find that too hard, tell him right on how you feel about it and see how he reacts.
  • HankFit247

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    Sep 09, 2010 2:50 AM GMT
    Ditto on everything already said.

    Men are like busses. Your job is to decide which one to get on, which ones to let pass. This one has already plowed you over.
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    Sep 09, 2010 2:51 AM GMT
    Is he busy? Self absorbed? Unable to emotionally attach himself? oh wait that's me.

    Some guys won't put the effort in no matter what, my life is so busy with family, work, travel, that I put zero effort into my "other" but he sticks around and behaves much like you.

    Tell him what you want, if he puts no effort in, move on. Lip service is not fair to you.
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    Sep 09, 2010 2:53 AM GMT
    southbankguy said
    Tell him what you want, if he puts no effort in, move on. Lip service is not fair to you.


    Double ditto.
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    Sep 09, 2010 3:10 AM GMT
    nyc2010 saidI've been hanging out with this guy for a few weeks, we're not official or anything. It just seems like I'm making the effort to text and visit him. Does he really want to see me? He said he likes me and wants to be exclusive but thats as far as that conversation went. Plus, I'm lucky if I get a response if I text him. I know you're all going to say he's not worth it, but I've already gone and got myself attached icon_rolleyes.gif What should I do?


    I kinda have a similar situation, so heres my insight;
    Talk it out with him, and be observant on everything he says. Some people are afraid of commiting because theyve been hurt before and have trust issues; and some like to lead you on, so know the difference. Share each others opinions on where each of you is coming from.
    After that, like what the guys said before me, detach and try limiting or not contacting him for awhile.
    If he initiates some sort of contact, good sign. If not, move on.
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    Sep 09, 2010 3:16 AM GMT
    If a love interest does not reciprocate the way you do please don't give it a second thought, and just walk away!


    Leandro ♥
  • shauno1987

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    Sep 09, 2010 3:29 AM GMT
    Im in the exact same situation so thanks for posting this! After a few dates I still cant tell whether he is interested in me as a friend or more.. I have also become attached... Recently I have cut down on my texts and calls to him but its so frustrating waiting for a response from him... I have decided to just go with the flow and enjoy his company. Bottom line is, he knows Im interested in him as more than a friend- I've given him the signs... if he feels the same he knows where to find me ^^ I think you should do the same. However also be aware that some guys may genuinely be really busy, or they just not into texting or calling. For example I always have a great time with my guy when we together, but then I dont hear from him for like 3 weeks until we go another date. Goodluck!
  • rioriz

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    Sep 09, 2010 3:44 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    nyc2010 said...t I've already gone and got myself attached icon_rolleyes.gif What should I do?
    Detach.



    You are always so wise!
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    Sep 09, 2010 4:23 AM GMT
    rioriz said
    paulflexes said
    nyc2010 said...t I've already gone and got myself attached icon_rolleyes.gif What should I do?
    Detach.



    You are always so wise!
    Nah, just been there and learned my lesson. icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 09, 2010 4:39 AM GMT
    Don't assume he is not interested. Maybe he is like me and has a hard time making the first move to contact someone no matter how badly they want to. I guess it can be a sticky situation. Ask him how he feels.
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    Sep 09, 2010 5:31 AM GMT
    Thanks guys.. I haven't contacted him today, so I'll wait and see what happens. I'll keep you updated icon_wink.gif