First timer - help with hooking up

  • gaytor

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    Sep 09, 2010 1:49 AM GMT
    Hey everyone, I know, another question from a faceless profile. Sorry.

    Well, I'm a 24 year old gay guy and have been out for a few years. I am still totally a virgin, so have done nothing with another person. I have always been very romantic and wanted to wait for a boyfriend but as time goes on, I realize that that wont be happening soon. I guess I am way too picky or something and it feels hopeless.

    I am always very horny and think about sex all the time. I'm tired of waiting and I find that not having this is making me extremely unhappy, its very hard to just ignore. I also feel like the best years of my life are wasting away. My teens and early twenties are almost gone and I haven't had any fun.

    Yesterday I decided I want to just hookup with someone online to get it out of the way. I just want to feel less crazy and happier and maybe this might help ease my mind. I just need some advice on this. I was thinking about posting on craigslist but i know it's pretty creepy. Any other sites I can use? Also, should I meet up with the guy somewhere first? Any other safety issues I should be concerned with? (of course i will use protection). I just want it to be quick and get it over with. I don't intend to get intimate with kissing/touching or anything either. Just receive a bj and maybe top the other guy.

    Just any advice to make this easier for me as I am very nervous about it.
    Thanks in advance guys.
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    Sep 09, 2010 2:05 AM GMT
    Sounds like you're not really into having much fun with the other guy. In that case, yep, I'd say go with Craigslist.
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    Sep 09, 2010 2:06 AM GMT
    Make sure to hookup with someone you consider very very hot.
    Reason: It's obvious from the way you type that you simply want sex. If that happens to work into an eventual relationship, having a mediocre guy will exponentially increase the temptation for cheating, since you've never been with a guy whom you consider very very hot.

    PS. This is just from personal experience. My first bf was hot/mediocre, and I always cheated. Fortunately it was a fully open relationship, otherwise I wouldn't have been able to stick around more than a few months.
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    Sep 09, 2010 6:24 PM GMT
    Ask them to host. If they come to your place, and they end up being psycho... now a psycho knows where you live. Poor choice. Always ask to meet in public, to "see how things go" first. Try adultfriendfinder or something like it. Where the people who sign up have to at least identify themselves to the site, even if there is no personal information on their profile. It promotes an environment less conducive to serial killers. Good luck, be safe.