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  • MrNomis

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    Sep 09, 2010 3:13 AM GMT
    hi guys...i've been single for almost a year and half now. I was once was married and i have dated guys since my divorce.. i thought myself as a versatile top men since i always feared being a bottom.. My last ex and i experimented and well i did enjoy being a bottom with him. Recently i am afraid of meeting anyone and the thought of either being a top or bottom.. truth be told i've found myself in a position to have sex but i end up un interested.. Could it be i am just afraid of std's, i have become asexual, or become bottom now?
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    Sep 09, 2010 3:18 AM GMT
    Hold off having sex with a guy until you get to know him and can judge his trustworthiness to tell you the truth about any STDs. You dont have to jump right into the sack with a guy when you first meet him.
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    Sep 09, 2010 3:36 AM GMT
    Caslon15000 saidHold off having sex with a guy until you get to know him and can judge his trustworthiness to tell you the truth about any STDs. You dont have to jump right into the sack with a guy when you first meet him.


    Just "play it safe", and when in doubt..."don't".
  • MrNomis

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    Sep 09, 2010 3:56 AM GMT
    I am not one to have sex right away.. come on i have standards and whats the point of either being ass up/face down or put on a condom and fuck a guy if i really cannot have a real meaningful conversation with a guy? I mean sex is Great but what will we do the rest of the time together? I think it's just that most men just want Sex and are afraid of commitment..
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    Sep 09, 2010 4:36 AM GMT
    I wonder if your uncertainty about the role to play is acting as a cock blocker.....and you simply loose interest.

    That's not really a solution, I know, but wondering if it's true.
  • safety43_mma1...

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    Sep 09, 2010 5:16 AM GMT
    you know it is simple really if u have doubts dont do it. and it means u must have morals since u cant just sleep around. there is nothing wrong with that.
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    Sep 09, 2010 5:20 AM GMT
    mrnomis saidI've found myself in a position to have sex but i end up un interested..

    Does that mean you go limp? icon_redface.gif 'cause they make a pill for that now.

    Don't stress out about labels and just do whichever feels good to you for that period in your life.
  • MrNomis

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    Sep 10, 2010 3:06 PM GMT
    A1EX said
    mrnomis saidI've found myself in a position to have sex but i end up un interested..

    Does that mean you go limp? icon_redface.gif 'cause they make a pill for that now.

    Don't stress out about labels and just do whichever feels good to you for that period in your life.


    no i have no problem with an erection.. shit i find myself jacking off three to five times a day... i actually lose interest when someone becomes too easy and just wants me to fuck them. i suppose i want a challenge and i also want the romance. Sex is just filling a void
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    Sep 10, 2010 3:12 PM GMT
    You've been married and I guess sexually competent with both men and women in all positions. That's a LOT for our primitive brains to process. Time to reboot..maybe a body electric or extreme yoga retreat?

    If you can have erections and ejaculate.. you probably are OK testosterone wise... I suggest a break and do some journaling, reading and maybe meditation...find out where you stand in the world...it will all work out..
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    Sep 14, 2010 2:59 AM GMT
    Don't be afraid of men in general, just be weary of people who "don't do the condom thing".

    Let's be real honest right here.
    As long as you say you're a Vers or do both top and bottoming, you're doubling your chances of finding a good lasting partner for the physical... but what you really want to be doing is finding they're a genuine person and not some using douche. So, don't be afraid to reveal you do both if you're looking for your potential mate... be afraid of the one who's only in it for that.
  • MrNomis

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    Oct 24, 2010 8:55 PM GMT
    ShinyToyTrev saidDon't be afraid of men in general, just be weary of people who "don't do the condom thing".

    Let's be real honest right here.
    As long as you say you're a Vers or do both top and bottoming, you're doubling your chances of finding a good lasting partner for the physical... but what you really want to be doing is finding they're a genuine person and not some using douche. So, don't be afraid to reveal you do both if you're looking for your potential mate... be afraid of the one who's only in it for that.


    AMEN!! i keep meeting the wrong guy..the last one told me " i dont want to date you or cannot date you because I'm not relationship material and dont want to be in an instant family "
    others just want to fuck my ass because aparently i have a bottoms' ass?
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    Oct 24, 2010 8:58 PM GMT
    Nomis saidI am not one to have sex right away.. come on i have standards and whats the point of either being ass up/face down or put on a condom and fuck a guy if i really cannot have a real meaningful conversation with a guy? I mean sex is Great but what will we do the rest of the time together? I think it's just that most men just want Sex and are afraid of commitment..


    I think you just answered the question as to why you aren't so interested in sex right now. Looks like you want it, but only as part of a meaningful and committed relationship. I don't see anything wrong with that. icon_cool.gif
  • mybud

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    Oct 24, 2010 8:59 PM GMT
    Condoms.....
  • MrNomis

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    Oct 24, 2010 9:55 PM GMT
    Lube
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    Oct 25, 2010 8:54 AM GMT
    You just want a serious relationship...
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    Oct 25, 2010 9:02 AM GMT
    When i read the title topic I thought "yes, please!"
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    Oct 25, 2010 10:14 AM GMT
    amar_m saidWhen i read the title topic I thought "yes, please!"
    Ironically, I had a friend on his way over when I first saw the thread title. I simply though "yep...doing that now." icon_lol.gif