Just a fuck or Relationship type?

  • MrNomis

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    Sep 09, 2010 12:58 PM GMT
    it seems the guys i meet just want to have sex lately and i even been told that i was just " sex conquest " what is it that really that some gay men fear from a relationship?
  • MrNomis

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    Sep 09, 2010 1:09 PM GMT
    I at times wonder if i just have set high expectations of someone or myself.. am i actually seeking outer beauty instead of inner beauty? I suppose we dismiss people due to a flaw or we are just trying to hard and looking at the wrong man.
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    Sep 09, 2010 11:28 PM GMT
    A lot of guys it seems have such high (physical) standards for their potential mate. And more often than not they figure out too late that it's the person not the package that makes for a relationship. That's not to say you shouldn't be attracted to the man you want to spend your life with but trying to define him before you ever meet him is insane. Its like putting on blinders.
    It seems you know what type of guy you want as far as emotion and personality goes. That's what's going to hold a relationship together. So, shift your focus to that and try to see the physical secondarily. You'll be surprised how many great guys there are. Keep a good attitude because bitter queens are a dime a dozen and make really bad company.
  • rioriz

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    Sep 09, 2010 11:39 PM GMT
    mrnomis saidit seems the guys i meet just want to have sex lately and i even been told that i was just " sex conquest " what is it that really that some gay men fear from a relationship?


    Well I think it is kind of forward to just tell someone they are a conquest but he didn't have sex alone...if you want more than just sex keep your legs closed...icon_rolleyes.gif
  • MrNomis

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    Sep 09, 2010 11:53 PM GMT
    @ rioriz.. i get it... trust me i do.. and yeah i am Prudence McPrud.. sex is not what i want i want more but that was my whole point of the question.. to why is it that most gay men just want sex?
  • rioriz

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    Sep 10, 2010 12:00 AM GMT
    mrnomis said@ rioriz.. i get it... trust me i do.. and yeah i am Prudence McPrud.. sex is not what i want i want more but that was my whole point of the question.. to why is it that most gay men just want sex?


    I don't think that is all most gay men want be many, like myself at times, have become so jaded because of bad relationships or not finding "the one" that we start to just enjoy the simple intimacy of sex. If I am really interested in someone I dont have sex right away but if I can tell there will be nothing serious I dont mind a good fuck!
  • tuffguyndc

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    Sep 10, 2010 12:05 AM GMT
    rioriz said
    mrnomis said@ rioriz.. i get it... trust me i do.. and yeah i am Prudence McPrud.. sex is not what i want i want more but that was my whole point of the question.. to why is it that most gay men just want sex?


    I don't think that is all most gay men want be many, like myself at times, have become so jaded because of bad relationships or not finding "the one" that we start to just enjoy the simple intimacy of sex. If I am really interested in someone I dont have sex right away but if I can tell there will be nothing serious I dont mind a good fuck!
    rioriz, i actually happen to agree with your statement. although, i wouldn't consider my being jaded but just know what i want. i do think that a lot of guys are bitter, jaded and sometimes just want sex. hell, i think all guys go through that phase. u just hope you come out of it and do not pass over a potential soul mate.
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    Sep 10, 2010 12:09 AM GMT
    In the search for love, success, or whatever I think that a lack of focus on what's really important is what makes us feel like we'll never get what we want. It's not that what you want isn't out there, but perhaps you're just not looking in the right places or maybe you're not in a place mentally/emotionally to recognize it.
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    Sep 10, 2010 12:13 AM GMT
    I am a romantic that is currently going through a personal "relationship black-out" period. For me, The idea of getting involved with a guy at the moment is presently equal to my desire to go on FearFactor and eat a dish of leeches..But a little booty occassionally never hurt anyone icon_biggrin.gif
  • MrNomis

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    Sep 10, 2010 12:48 AM GMT
    I suppose this will go with that saying " everything happens for a reason ".. i am happy single but i do tend to want to be in a relationship and i suppose it happens at the wrong time.. Either way i ain't no quitter and i will do everything to just be me and see what happens.. i know there are lots of great guys that could potentially be great friends with me and possible one of them could be my life partner. icon_smile.gif i have faith....thanks for your input guys
  • JJ_Atoli

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    Sep 10, 2010 6:52 AM GMT
    I think it has a lot to do with the fact that men are programmed to be monogamous. Sure there are some who want to be...but the majority don't. They wanna get naked and have fun and then be able to continue to get naked and have fun without anything getting in the way of that.

    It isn't a fear of a relationship - it's the fear of losing freedom?
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    Sep 10, 2010 6:54 AM GMT
    I have way too much shit going on in my life to waste time on a "relationship". I just want a guy to come over, suck my dick and then get the fuck out. And just because you're invited back doesn't mean we are dating, it just means you suck dick good.
  • Kage

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    Sep 10, 2010 7:01 AM GMT
    mrnomis saidit seems the guys i meet just want to have sex lately and i even been told that i was just " sex conquest " what is it that really that some gay men fear from a relationship?


    How about we swop.
    All the guys that I meet just want to have relationships and they are all relationship material and great guys but I only want sex.
  • owen19832006

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    Sep 10, 2010 7:06 AM GMT
    one offs are good, great, especially in desperate times!
    and some one offs might turn out to become regulars, and those regulars, one might become a steady an then a bf...! Happened to yours truly!icon_cool.gif
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    Sep 10, 2010 7:44 AM GMT
    I know. it is sad when someone only fails to see a heart.
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    Sep 10, 2010 8:07 AM GMT
    I want a relationship! But all the guys I like just want to be friends, and then I get hit on by the guys i'm not interested in. . . boo!COLORED TEXT GOES HERE
  • HndsmKansan

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    Sep 10, 2010 12:26 PM GMT
    With being involved with my bf for almost 12 years, I'd say relationship.. no doubt.
  • wellwell

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    Sep 10, 2010 12:44 PM GMT
    ...Bi & MARRIAGE-MINDED HERE
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    Sep 10, 2010 12:46 PM GMT
    def the marrying kind, now who wants to marry me.... icon_biggrin.gif
  • wellwell

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    Sep 10, 2010 12:48 PM GMT
    ...want 2 share a wife & raise some kids? Let'z Talk!
  • LJay

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    Sep 10, 2010 1:43 PM GMT
    Hey, Freddie, what's your address?
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    Sep 10, 2010 1:48 PM GMT
    BornFreedef the marrying kind, now who wants to marry me....


    With those eyes and that smile, probably most of the male population of earth.icon_razz.gif

    And I'm the leader of that groupicon_wink.gificon_redface.gif
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    Sep 10, 2010 2:24 PM GMT
    mrnomis saidit seems the guys i meet just want to have sex lately and i even been told that i was just " sex conquest " what is it that really that some gay men fear from a relationship?



    Some men are just selfish. There are great men out there, don't give up!!
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    Sep 10, 2010 2:27 PM GMT
    fastfreddie saidI have way too much shit going on in my life to waste time on a "relationship". I just want a guy to come over, suck my dick and then get the fuck out. And just because you're invited back doesn't mean we are dating, it just means you suck dick good.


    Ain't that the truth. icon_twisted.gif
  • MrNomis

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    Sep 10, 2010 2:46 PM GMT
    BornFree saiddef the marrying kind, now who wants to marry me.... icon_biggrin.gif

    i am the marrying type aswell.. i just have not met the right guy.. and like Aznwick said " I want a relationship! But all the guys I like just want to be friends, and then I get hit on by the guys i'm not interested in. . . boo! " and i did once think as Owen19832006 stated at times " one offs are good, great, especially in desperate times! and some one offs might turn out to become regulars, and those regulars, one might become a steady an then a bf...! Happened to yours truly" but for now i suppose i need to work on me first.