Looking to move.. suggestions?

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    Feb 26, 2008 8:05 PM GMT
    Ok guys, I'm looking to get away from South Carolina, and any place like it. Looking for a nice, queit town, somewhere with plenty of jobs, nice community, things like that. Any of you have any suggestions?icon_question.gif



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    Somewhere that has water, ie, lake or ocean. Would like for the weather to be nice most of the time.. I like warm weather. Maybe a decent school in the area, as I would like to continue my education. Maybe somewhere a car isn't that neccissary, because I do love to walk. Uhh.. somewhere that has nice housing/apartments that aren't sky high expensive. I'll think and add more later. Thanks in advance for the input!
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    Feb 26, 2008 8:21 PM GMT
    Aside from the fact that you should move into my neighborhood (as I know anyone here would icon_wink.gif ), here are my thoughts:

    I recently talked to a friend about places he could live in. He said there were big cities, little cities (or towns) and suburbs. He said he could live in big or little cities cuz he needed to be in walking distance to interesting things, food, gym, and people, but not in a suburban place where you needed a car to get anywhere or where the public transportation really sucked.

    I guess we're looking for a quiet town or area cuz I remember you once saying you're a country boy at heart. Oh I also remembered another friend from Tennesse who didn't want to move too far away from the South; one time she ended up moving to Dallas which she deemed was still in her comfort zone.

    Well with the information you provided so far, it sounds like we want to move you out of the South, so that would be either West Coast or East Coast or Midwest. Haha, to tell you the truth, I'd probably need more info to make suggestions ;).
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    Feb 26, 2008 8:31 PM GMT
    Albuquerque New Mexico is full of neat job opportunities and it is a beautiful place to live. Manhattan rocks. Chicago is my vote for the most beautiful city in America. New Orleans needs good people.

    In Europe I like Zurich, Aix en Provence, Paris, London, Berlin, Lyon, Barcelona, and of course Vicenza and Venice are lovely.

    Good luck,
    Terry
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    Feb 26, 2008 8:54 PM GMT
    Well I'll just start listing places, maybe to generate some discussion:
    California: The only thing that sucks about this state IMO is that you almost need a car. But, actually, I know a lot of people who get by fine without a car.

    SF Bay Area: Well, I spent a good deal of time here in school and now living here. My one friend who lives in Berkeley gets by just fine without a car. Great weather if on the cool side and it's as open here as I think you'd get anywhere. The BART can get you into the city pretty fast.

    Los Angeles: I grew up here on the Westside. LA really is such a driving city. Yeah, I would scratch this one pretty much actually ...

    I also lived in Pittsburgh for a couple of years and I actually liked it a lot, but being a Cali boy, the weather took it's toll on me. However, not a big gay community there that I saw; certainly not too many bars or clubs.

    Off the top of my head, other cities that I hear are nice: Minnesota, Phoenix (well, I like Arizona), Denver (lotta outdoor stuff), Portland is supposed to be a nice city.
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    Feb 26, 2008 10:03 PM GMT
    Zack it all depends on what you like. and how much money you have. the northeast is expensive and crowded and cold and snowy. Florida is very hot and crowded with bad traffic, but has best beaches in this country.
    I've lived in LA, another very expensive but always perfect weather, but crowded, lots of traffic and bad smog. I hear the carolinas is theplace to be, the weathers not too bad, and its not costly. Maybe just move to a more gay friendly big city in the Carolinas. I hear North Carolina's more gay friendly. And Another great gay city with great weather if you like it warm is Austin , Tx and not too expensive yet.
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    Feb 26, 2008 10:10 PM GMT
    AUSTIN or SEATTLE - however, seattle might have too much rain for you.

    i travel to both often and am planning to move and/or work in both places.

    austin is a big city in a small town (or vice versa). cool people, lots to do, public transportation, still moderately reasonable prices for housing.

    i also have a spare bedroom in my house here in l.a. if you want! ;) ...i've got a pool!!!!
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    Feb 26, 2008 10:13 PM GMT
    Up until you mentioned housing costs, you perfectly described San Diego or something nearby. Actually rent is not as bad as some places, but certainly higher than a small town in the south. Parts of San Diego are walkable, but the whole city is kind of broken up into different communities and beaches. I have spent most of my life in Atlanta, Ga; Savannah, Ga; and now California.

    You should mention what kind of work you are looking for too.

    Maybe you should try visiting a few places for a long weekend or something. You do seem like you are ready for a change. Being young and unattached should make you more mobile too. Now is the best time for you to broaden your horizons.
  • thisguy023

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    Feb 26, 2008 10:15 PM GMT
    Easy: Amsterdam
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    Feb 26, 2008 10:17 PM GMT
    Lilman--

    It sounds like South Florida totally fits your requirements. We have beach, it's a pedestrian-friendly town (Wilton Manors), it's not too expensive to rent and getting less and less expensive to buy, and it's the second-gayest town in the USA by percentage of population (US Census statistic) after only West Hollywood, California.

    You'd like it.
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    Feb 27, 2008 12:19 AM GMT
    i grew up in south carolina and georgia... when i read your bashing stories i didn't realize you were right down the road... i'm in charlotte, so i'm not gonna suggest you come here - you need more of a change. san diego fits all your criteria (except jobs perhaps). it's FANTASTIC and if you can find a roommate, i bet you'd love it there.

    i didn't care for l.a. - the people there think the only two places worth living in are l.a. and nyc, and l.a. has better weather, so why bother? a very annoying attitude to put up with for 4 years.

    nyc is a mess. go there only to visit.

    atlanta is fun, but i don't know that it really fits what you say you want.

    seattle is depressing.

    boston might be nice for you, but it gets cold and i don't know what you do or how easy it'd be to find a job in it.

    outside of its metro areas, rural florida is just like south carolina.
  • iHavok

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    Feb 27, 2008 7:05 AM GMT
    Look into Chico, CA.

    Most of the places people list are neither quiet nor towns. Your wish for a place where u can get around without a car kinda limits it to a college town.

    Look into Iowa City, IA.

    You can find someplace nice just about anywhere, it's just a matter of looking, and of accepting trade offs...Some places will be more expensive, but will be worth it for quality of living. Others will not have the best jobs, but might have better schools.

    Either way, yur moving closer so, WootWoot for me! :-)
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    Feb 27, 2008 7:36 AM GMT
    lilmaninsc saidOk guys, I'm looking to get away from South Carolina, and any place like it. Looking for a nice, queit town, somewhere with plenty of jobs, nice community, things like that. Any of you have any suggestions?

    Somewhere that has water, ie, lake or ocean. Would like for the weather to be nice most of the time.. I like warm weather. Maybe a decent school in the area, as I would like to continue my education. Maybe somewhere a car isn't that neccissary, because I do love to walk. Uhh.. somewhere that has nice housing/apartments that aren't sky high expensive. I'll think and add more later. Thanks in advance for the input!


    Depends on your education and professional development...

    IF I had to start all over again? Maybe...

    1 - Somewhere on the beach between LA and San Diego.
    2 - Hawaii
    3 - Fort Lauderdale

    If you prefer 4 seasons then :

    1 - Portland, OR
    2 - Boston, MA
    3 - Burlington, VT (especially if you are into healthy living, the outdoors, and like 'quirky')

    Good Luck
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    Feb 27, 2008 7:45 AM GMT
    Savannah, Georgia.
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    Feb 27, 2008 4:41 PM GMT
    Thanks a lot guys.. I'll be saving up to visit most of these places to check it out before I do anything. I am leaning more towards the west coast though.
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    Feb 27, 2008 4:51 PM GMT
    For an area with a small town feel, but close enough to a big city, I'd suggest northern SF bay area such as Santa Rosa or nearby area. Housing is not too expensive, there are several schools nearby (Sonoma State, SF State, etc.) and the ocean isn't far. You could even go for Sebastopol or Bodega (though the rent increases the closer you get to the ocean). If I wasn't living in San Diego (which I love. might be too big city for you, though) I'd head back up that way.
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    Feb 27, 2008 5:04 PM GMT
    Yea, as jackl was telling me earlier, through messenger.. Berkeley, CA sounds like a nice place. Might be one of the first places I visit.
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    Feb 27, 2008 5:17 PM GMT
    nicensmoothla saidAUSTIN or SEATTLE - however, seattle might have too much rain for you.

    i travel to both often and am planning to move and/or work in both places.

    austin is a big city in a small town (or vice versa). cool people, lots to do, public transportation, still moderately reasonable prices for housing.

    i also have a spare bedroom in my house here in l.a. if you want! ;) ...i've got a pool!!!!

    I second Austin. Although we just moved to Houston due to a job transfer, I absolutely loved it there (traffic notwithstanding).

    Denver would be another good option. I grew up there. It's a very hip and modern city with lots of amenities and a laid-back quality of life. The winters can be brutal, but Denver has over 300 days of sunshine per year.
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    Feb 27, 2008 5:27 PM GMT
    I think it's best to move in small steps, financially, and in terms of family relationships. Have you considered Charleston SC, Charlotte, Raleigh, or Atlanta? The attitudes in those cities are very different than the attitudes in smaller towns in the south, and they're still close enough to visit family with a car ride.

    Now if you have enough money to fly wherever you want, or no connections to SC, or you are thinking of just a short term move, that's different, but I think too many people place too little value on being close to their roots.

    On the other hand, if you have a really bad history that you need to escape, that's something different.
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    Feb 27, 2008 5:29 PM GMT
    Lilman, sounds like your list pretty much does exclude big cities like NYC, SF, and LA. The first two do have great mass transit, but all three places cost a lot to live, particularly housing. I can't speak to a lot of places, but Austin is EXTREMELY liveable. It has a great lake and the population is very healthy (you find a lot of people walking in their neighborhoods), young, and highly educated. And they're a very friendly group. Not sure what the job outlook is at the moment. I know things can get competitive because a lot of people move to Austin, fall in love with it, and don't leave. Which is why you find PhDs pushing brooms (or at least that's the stereotype I've heard mentioned here and there).
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    Feb 27, 2008 5:36 PM GMT
    EricLA saidLilman, sounds like your list pretty much does exclude big cities like NYC, SF, and LA. The first two do have great mass transit, but all three places cost a lot to live, particularly housing. I can't speak to a lot of places, but Austin is EXTREMELY liveable. It has a great lake and the population is very healthy (you find a lot of people walking in their neighborhoods), young, and highly educated. And they're a very friendly group. Not sure what the job outlook is at the moment. I know things can get competitive because a lot of people move to Austin, fall in love with it, and don't leave. Which is why you find PhDs pushing brooms (or at least that's the stereotype I've heard mentioned here and there).

    The job market is still very good in Austin. Austin is also one of the few cities that hasn't been affected much by the mortgage/credit crunch. For instance, I sold my house in Austin within ten days of listing it.
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    Feb 27, 2008 5:48 PM GMT
    Based on your criteria, you sure as sh** ain't movin' to Ohio.
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    Feb 27, 2008 5:57 PM GMT
    HAWAII i just loved it and you won't get "LOST" there i am sure.....

    Puerto Rico wow great place.....

    And those Puerto Ricenos Bueno !!!!
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    Feb 27, 2008 6:06 PM GMT
    A lot of nice places you guys are listing. Some sound really promising, but like I said, will check them out before hand.
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    Feb 27, 2008 6:11 PM GMT
    Also there is Life outside the USA its called "Europe"
    anyone heard of that?

    Great Beaches Great Sea's Great life and load's of History!
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    Feb 27, 2008 6:14 PM GMT
    Nowhere in Kentucky.