Window shopping. Do guys ever meet up?

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    Feb 26, 2008 9:04 PM GMT
    My little theory is this: gay men rarely meet up off the internet.

    For example, on Gaydar my profile has been looked at 16955 times. Of those people I've probably met, well, ok, had sex with maybe 20. Now, if I was mathmatician (which I'm most certainly not) that would be a ratio of fuck all - or something like that, i'm sure one of you geeks can figure that one out.

    But anyways, t'internet? A way to meet men or just free porn?
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    Feb 26, 2008 9:16 PM GMT
    when I was younger and experimenting with my sexuality, sure.. I met a couple guys off the net. After a bad experience, I stopped talking to them all together on the internet. I haven't met anyone since then.. and if I do, I will have to get to know them as well as I can on here before I do anything. As for using it to hook up, no, porn, no, meeting guys who have general interests and talking about life, i'm all for it.
  • BlackJock79

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    Feb 26, 2008 9:21 PM GMT
    I have met quite a few men from the internet... ok, I've had sex with quite a few men from the internet. LOL, I'm about the same as you redheadguy, about 20-30... I'm planning on meeting at least 2 or 3 of the guys from RealJock, and I would LOVE to meet everyone on my hot list. Ok, I would LOVE to have sex with everyone on my hot list. icon_redface.gif But you're right, the ratio of how many men I've met and how many have looked at my profile is probably under 1%.
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    Feb 26, 2008 9:23 PM GMT
    @ redheadguy

    What's your ratio of men you glance at across a bar compared to the number you sleep with? Is it much closer than your internet ratio?
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    Feb 26, 2008 9:32 PM GMT
    Well, I was thinking rather more of my success rate at a sauna (bath house) rather than bars.

    In my many years experience, bars in London are rather snooty places where guys would rather talk to their friends than actually chat-up other guys.
  • asupas

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    Feb 26, 2008 9:42 PM GMT
    For me, it's just free porn (thank god for that, I'm far too cheap to pay for it.). Admittedly, I've met up with a couple guys for coffee or dinner. Most of the time the guy either completely misrepresented themselves or were just interested in sex.

    I prefer to meet guys in a more traditional way, at a bar, gym, through friends, etc.
  • NickoftheNort...

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    Feb 26, 2008 9:42 PM GMT
    I'd expand your theory to a more generic: people who first meet via the Internet are unlikely to meet in-person (with variables as to proximity, mutual interest / degree of interest, and more).

    The Internet (through its social networking sites) is one way to meet men *and* to window shop. Its success depends on the site, your interests, and your *luck*.

    Your ratio of your hook-ups from your profile to your profile views is just over one millicent (rounded up, your 20 hook-ups over 16955 views = 0.118%). If you want a higher ratio icon_twisted.gif, you're going to have to put out more or judge yourself by a less-viewed profile.
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    Feb 26, 2008 9:51 PM GMT
    In my younger days, I think I met a lot more than 30 guys from the internet. Okay, it was maybe closer to 100, but a lot of those were just coffee dates and not hookups. Nowadays I'm more or less a hermit.
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    Feb 26, 2008 10:07 PM GMT
    I have to admit from this site, no, but this is first gay site, I would like to meet some of these guys.
    Ofcourse in my younger days I met guys off internet and hooked up ... I think everyone has . If they so no, they lie. The problem on this site is everyone is very far away or they are like 25 years younger than me.
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    Feb 26, 2008 10:11 PM GMT
    I've met plenty of men off a variety of sites over the years. (And not just for sex!) I've also met plenty of men at grocery stores, Starbucks, and assorted other places. I take my time though - someone has to demonstrate some patience to meet. There are no "Hi, Hi, u wanna, sure" meetings in my world.
  • GQjock

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    Feb 26, 2008 10:16 PM GMT
    I've met a few...
    could meet a lot more if I wanted to
    but I have an EXTREMELY high cynical view of everything and everybody on the net
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    Feb 26, 2008 10:24 PM GMT
    I just want to say ... thank the lord for the internet and porn.
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    Feb 26, 2008 10:27 PM GMT
    Your ratio of your hook-ups from your profile to your profile views is just over one millicent (rounded up, your 20 hook-ups over 16955 views = 0.118%). If you want a higher ratio , you're going to have to put out more or judge yourself by a less-viewed profile.

    Ouch! One millicent. Now you're making me feel small.

    I bet those magazine porn publishers hate the internet.
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    Feb 26, 2008 10:45 PM GMT
    LOL. Those magazine porn publishers love the internet because their ads pop up all over the place depending on what site you visit. If you look on most magazines they all give you a website to visit showing you more then what the magazine ever could....at a price of course. Lots of guys use the internet to window shop. You do it evertyime you leave your house whether you're aware ofit or not. The computer is just a little more conveinent because its in the safety of your home (depending on where you view it- i.e- work, public places). The only downside is that people lie so it's 50/50.

    The internet is only as good as the person who is using it so depending on what you plan to use it for depends on your outcome. Using it to meet guys isn't hard depending on your standards and what you're looking for in a guy. If you're whoring yourself out then you will probably instantly meet someone (can't guarentee it's who you'll want). If you are a little more resereved then things like interest, goals, personalilty, physical appearance, environment, and so on take effect.

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    Feb 26, 2008 10:47 PM GMT
    Environment? Huh?
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    Feb 26, 2008 10:52 PM GMT
    Yeah. Like where do you live.
    I'm willing to bet that the majority of people who looked at your profile on gaydar weren't anywhere near where you lived just like on here alot of people are spread out all over the world. I see alot of hotties but sadly enough they are just too far away.

    Environment could mean location or could mean background depending on how you want to view it.
  • Timbales

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    Feb 27, 2008 12:08 AM GMT
    I don't think I've had sex with 20 men.
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    Feb 27, 2008 12:25 AM GMT
    Timberoo saidI don't think I've had sex with 20 men.


    What is the definition of "SEX with men"?
    How far do you need to have gone before it is considered "SEX"? OK....spin the bottle!icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 27, 2008 12:29 AM GMT
    Well, I can tell you that the Internet is a great tool for someone just coming out. It's not like I've been around a circle of gay guys for a while so looking on line for local guys has helped. I've met several and through them the circle has grown.

    There are certainly a large amount of "looking for one thing" type of guys, but after chatting and getting to know them, there are a lot of descent guys worth meeting to see how you match up.

    It does carry the caveat "buyer beware" LOL
  • Timbales

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    Feb 27, 2008 12:32 AM GMT
    Sporty_g said[quote][cite]Timberoo said[/cite]I don't think I've had sex with 20 men.


    What is the definition of "SEX with men"?
    How far do you need to have gone before it is considered "SEX"? OK....spin the bottle!icon_lol.gif[/quote]

    There's one guy that gave me a handy, I don't consider that sex.
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    Feb 27, 2008 1:38 AM GMT
    for me, it depends on where i'm living. before LA, i lived in stockton, and orange county. it was hard for me to meet guys in everyday life, even gays as friends, so i turned to the internet. now that i live in LA i can meet guys out and about and through friends etc etc... i now spend way less time on these sites looking and looking.
  • Timbales

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    Feb 27, 2008 1:51 AM GMT
    NNJfitandbi saidTimberoo,

    You don't consider a handshake sex?


    lol

    It was actually one of the dirtiest things I've done, if you hear the whole story. But I don't to hijack the thread.
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    Feb 27, 2008 2:20 AM GMT
    asupas saidFor me, it's just free porn (thank god for that, I'm far too cheap to pay for it.). Admittedly, I've met up with a couple guys for coffee or dinner. Most of the time the guy either completely misrepresented themselves or were just interested in sex.

    I prefer to meet guys in a more traditional way, at a bar, gym, through friends, etc.


    I totally agree with asupas. My powers are stonger in the real world than the second life online.

    To me it's more of a challenge with greater reward when you get the guy you meet at a bar, gym, or through friends.

    As all of you guys noticed (except for the extremely hot guys who could melt your eyes out with their glamour)

    Guys will shut you down and won't even write you back if their ego is threaten.

    persistence online seems like a rare thing. But the guys who are always get my attention.
  • Salubrious

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    Feb 27, 2008 3:01 AM GMT
    redheadguy saidMy little theory is this: gay men rarely meet up off the internet.

    For example, on Gaydar my profile has been looked at 16955 times. Of those people I've probably met, well, ok, had sex with maybe 20. Now, if I was mathmatician (which I'm most certainly not) that would be a ratio of fuck all - or something like that, i'm sure one of you geeks can figure that one out.

    But anyways, t'internet? A way to meet men or just free porn?


    Well, how many of those people did you actually talk to?
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    Feb 27, 2008 7:49 AM GMT
    I've met some great guys on the Internet over the past several years. Some of my friends met their partners / husbands on the Internet. Those couples are in relationships that have lasted. It is more and more common to go to a party and meet guy couples who met online.

    I guess I've met more guys associated with work than anywhere else, but maybe the next hot, hunky stud I meet will come from online. I'd be open to it!