Why are so many on RJ single?

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    Sep 10, 2010 6:03 PM GMT
    The guys here are fit, built, and handsome. bodies to die for, with faces to match. Physically, who could want more? Yet so many are still single. Their personalities can't be that bad. Not all of them. What could possibly be the reason(s) for them still being single?

    EDIT:
    Well, up through Saturday morning, it seems the main reasons guys on here are single are:

    • They are too shy
    • They have low self-esteem
    • They are (too?) picky
    • Gay men can't maintain a relationship
    • This site has a large dating/pick-up component to it, it attracts lots of single guys
    • Guys that are in relationships aren't members
      So, having a pretty face and a perfect body don't seem to be the problem. Either we are all gorgeous hunks, or absolute beauty is not a necessity for a relationship.
  • brycetippe

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    Sep 10, 2010 6:08 PM GMT
    They're spending all of their time on the computer, and not out in the hunting grounds. icon_lol.gif
    lol, jk.
    I really don't know to be honest.
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    Sep 10, 2010 6:46 PM GMT
    brycetippe saidThey're spending all of their time on the computer, and not out in the hunting grounds. icon_lol.gif
    lol, jk.
    I really don't know to be honest.

    And I was depending on you for the answer. I'm so disappointed. Crushed even.

    Get out of line!
  • andyb91

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    Sep 10, 2010 7:16 PM GMT
    They could be shy around people they find attractive I know thats one of the reason's I'm single and another is being closed it kinder makes things even harder.
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    Sep 10, 2010 7:16 PM GMT
    Its a Recession and people are more focused on making more money which means longs hours of work...and no time for relationships.
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    Sep 10, 2010 7:22 PM GMT
    I for one never made a serious attempt to find someone.
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    Sep 10, 2010 7:42 PM GMT
    For the last few years I haven't made any serious effort to find someone. At the moment I have no profiles on any dating sites & rarely go out.
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    Sep 10, 2010 10:08 PM GMT
    The grass is always greener on the other side. People THINK they want something, only to find out that they really want to be single and free. Plus most gay ppl cannot maintain a monogamous rel.
  • masculumpedes

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    Sep 10, 2010 11:01 PM GMT
    Achillesblade saidmost gay ppl cannot maintain a monogamous rel.


    This has been my experience with gay men also icon_sad.gif
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    Sep 10, 2010 11:12 PM GMT
    Because this site has a large dating/hookup component.
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    Sep 10, 2010 11:57 PM GMT
    malefeet said
    Achillesblade saidmost gay ppl cannot maintain a monogamous rel.


    This has been my experience with gay men also icon_sad.gif

    I wonder why.
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    Sep 10, 2010 11:58 PM GMT
    They're not. Just looking for some action?
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    Sep 11, 2010 12:06 AM GMT
    Haven't met anyone yet in DC that I wanted to do more than be friends with. Nothing more than that.
  • sportsdude12

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    Sep 11, 2010 12:13 AM GMT
    I would love to be in a relationship but the one thing I have to overcome is my shyness. I don't go out to bars or clubs. You will typically find me at the gym, in a movie theater, or at a sporting event. I'm very shy around people in social situations expect when I'm cheering on my favorite team. I'm still looking for the right guy to be my first LTR. Until then, I will have fun with my right handicon_wink.gif
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    Sep 11, 2010 12:16 AM GMT
    Because gay men here and elsewhere have this grand idea that they are going to meet a wealthy man that looks like like Daniel Craig, holds all of the same political views, likes the same music, movies, books, and entertainment, likes the same sports, has no bad habits, does not snore, is always in a good mood and loves doing housework and cooking. And if someone is only 95% of this, it is not good enough. Relationships involve some work and some give and take. If you are willing to do that, then the reward is worth it.
  • hikerC

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    Sep 11, 2010 12:17 AM GMT
    I'm still single because the greatest guy I've ever known, who I met on here on Realjock actually doesn't feel the same about me! icon_sad.gif (I'm still working on it though! icon_biggrin.gif) One day we'll be in an amazing monogamous relationship, and we'll be picking out furniture and window coverings and working in the yard together. He just needs a little convincing! icon_wink.gif
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    Sep 11, 2010 12:19 AM GMT
    hikerC saidI'm still single because the greatest guy I've ever known, who I met on here on Realjock actually doesn't feel the same about me! icon_sad.gif (I'm still working on it though! icon_biggrin.gif) One day we'll be in an amazing monogamous relationship, and we'll be picking out furniture and window coverings and working in the yard together. He just needs a little convincing! icon_wink.gif

    "window coverings"??? ... icon_eek.gif ... That's "window treatments," dear. ... No wonder he wont marry you! ... icon_rolleyes.gif




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    EDIT: Oh I see you are Canadian. .... Maybe they are window coverings up there. ... to block out the midnight sun. .... icon_wink.gif
  • hikerC

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    Sep 11, 2010 12:21 AM GMT
    Caslon15000 said
    hikerC saidI'm still single because the greatest guy I've ever known, who I met on here on Realjock actually doesn't feel the same about me! icon_sad.gif (I'm still working on it though! icon_biggrin.gif) One day we'll be in an amazing monogamous relationship, and we'll be picking out furniture and window coverings and working in the yard together. He just needs a little convincing! icon_wink.gif

    "window coverings"??? ... icon_eek.gif ... That's "window treatments," dear. ... No wonder he wont marry you! ... icon_rolleyes.gif ... icon_lol.gif


    Yikes! Thanks! That could have been a very serious blunder on my part! Phew! Thanks for correcting me! icon_surprised.gif
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    Sep 11, 2010 12:26 AM GMT
    Achillesblade saidThe grass is always greener on the other side. People THINK they want something, only to find out that they really want to be single and free. Plus most gay ppl cannot maintain a monogamous rel.



    AMEN to that, brother man! After my many concentrated fuck-ups, I decided being by myself is the better option. If you cannot treat me with the respect that I am entitled to as a human being, you need to take your shoes for a walk & keep on moving. And besides, I have plans that do not include getting involved with someone who doesn't have their act together(:

    Until then, I am having fun building my physique(:
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    Sep 11, 2010 12:38 AM GMT
    Cause goin solo is so fun...ask Jason Darulo lol icon_smile.gif
  • MuscleComeBac...

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    Sep 11, 2010 12:40 AM GMT
    hikerC said
    Caslon15000 said
    hikerC saidI'm still single because the greatest guy I've ever known, who I met on here on Realjock actually doesn't feel the same about me! icon_sad.gif (I'm still working on it though! icon_biggrin.gif) One day we'll be in an amazing monogamous relationship, and we'll be picking out furniture and window coverings and working in the yard together. He just needs a little convincing! icon_wink.gif

    "window coverings"??? ... icon_eek.gif ... That's "window treatments," dear. ... No wonder he wont marry you! ... icon_rolleyes.gif ... icon_lol.gif


    Yikes! Thanks! That could have been a very serious blunder on my part! Phew! Thanks for correcting me! icon_surprised.gif


    Canadian or Californian, I'd be throwing up window coverings because I'd have NO intention of letting anybody see the 'bad bad things" I'd do with HikerC!!!!
    Now pull those damn blinds and get over here, eh?
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    Sep 11, 2010 12:41 AM GMT
    Heartrobb's comments are spot on.I am not the relationship type.However if a weathy man that looks like Daniel Craig wants a short avg lookin irish german guy with a 6 inch dick I might be. icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 11, 2010 12:41 AM GMT
    tereseus1 saidIts a Recession and people are more focused on making more money which means longs hours of work...and no time for relationships.


    All I do is work. icon_sad.gif And work some more...and then a little more. sigh.
  • hikerC

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    Sep 11, 2010 12:54 AM GMT
    MuscleComeBack said
    hikerC said
    Caslon15000 said
    hikerC saidI'm still single because the greatest guy I've ever known, who I met on here on Realjock actually doesn't feel the same about me! icon_sad.gif (I'm still working on it though! icon_biggrin.gif) One day we'll be in an amazing monogamous relationship, and we'll be picking out furniture and window coverings and working in the yard together. He just needs a little convincing! icon_wink.gif

    "window coverings"??? ... icon_eek.gif ... That's "window treatments," dear. ... No wonder he wont marry you! ... icon_rolleyes.gif ... icon_lol.gif


    Yikes! Thanks! That could have been a very serious blunder on my part! Phew! Thanks for correcting me! icon_surprised.gif


    Canadian or Californian, I'd be throwing up window coverings because I'd have NO intention of letting anybody see the 'bad bad things" I'd do with HikerC!!!!
    Now pull those damn blinds and get over here, eh?


    Damn I wish I lived in California! icon_razz.gif
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    Sep 11, 2010 12:58 AM GMT
    hikerC said
    MuscleComeBack said
    hikerC said
    Caslon15000 said
    hikerC saidI'm still single because the greatest guy I've ever known, who I met on here on Realjock actually doesn't feel the same about me! icon_sad.gif (I'm still working on it though! icon_biggrin.gif) One day we'll be in an amazing monogamous relationship, and we'll be picking out furniture and window coverings and working in the yard together. He just needs a little convincing! icon_wink.gif

    "window coverings"??? ... icon_eek.gif ... That's "window treatments," dear. ... No wonder he wont marry you! ... icon_rolleyes.gif ... icon_lol.gif


    Yikes! Thanks! That could have been a very serious blunder on my part! Phew! Thanks for correcting me! icon_surprised.gif


    Canadian or Californian, I'd be throwing up window coverings because I'd have NO intention of letting anybody see the 'bad bad things" I'd do with HikerC!!!!
    Now pull those damn blinds and get over here, eh?


    Damn I wish I lived in California! icon_razz.gif

    well, so much for Mr True Love and those window covers! ... icon_eek.gif

    I guess I got my answer why this one is single. ... icon_lol.gif